英語(yǔ)美文朗讀第179期:做最好的自己才能愛(ài)別人

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2020年09月03日

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I used to believe that love meant putting everyone else and their needs first, before my own. While I do think there is some truth to that, in the sense that being a giving person is one of the ultimate acts of being a loving person, I came to realize that I must give to and love myself first and foremost.
我曾經(jīng)認(rèn)為愛(ài)，就意味著所有事都先人后己。直到現(xiàn)在我都認(rèn)為這種觀點(diǎn)有一定的道理，因?yàn)樽饕粋€(gè)“施愛(ài)者”的最高境界之一就是作一個(gè)“給予者”。但是，我也漸漸意識(shí)到，給予自己、愛(ài)自己才是最重要的。

Here's why:
原因如下：
When you put everyone and everything else above you, you are no longer valuing yourself and your needs. And when you are not meeting your needs, and you don't take care of yourself (emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually), you can't be the best version of yourself to the special people in your life. So in essence, you don't love them at your full potential!
當(dāng)你把所有人、所有事都置于自己需求之上，你或許就會(huì)忽略自己的價(jià)值、忽視自己的需求了。而當(dāng)你無(wú)法滿(mǎn)足自己的需求時(shí)，也就意味你就不能夠（在心理上、生理上、思想上、精神上）好好照顧自己了。這樣的話(huà)，你便無(wú)法在你生命中那些特別的人面前呈現(xiàn)最好的自己。所以，從本質(zhì)上說(shuō)，你沒(méi)有盡自己全力來(lái)愛(ài)他們！

Here are some things to consider
你需要思考一下：
1. Are you physically taking care of yourself? Do you nourish yourself with the right foods, get enough sleep, exercise, are at a healthy weight, and on top of your check-ups? If not, I bet your energy is low, you're tired and stressed, and your confidence isn't the highest (because you probably don't feel your best). Now think about how much more you could give to others when you aren't exhausted, you're happy with what you see in the mirror, and you aren't on edge with stress.
你有好好照顧自己的身體嗎？有沒(méi)有做到合理健康的飲食來(lái)獲得營(yíng)養(yǎng)、是否給到自己充足的睡眠和鍛煉、有沒(méi)有維持健康體重并保持體檢中各項(xiàng)指標(biāo)正常？如果沒(méi)有的話(huà)，我確定你的能量肯定很有限，你感到疲倦、壓力很大，而且信心也不是最好的狀態(tài)?，F(xiàn)在，想象一下，如果你活力滿(mǎn)滿(mǎn)，樂(lè)于看到鏡中的自己，也并沒(méi)有因?yàn)閴毫Χ械綗┰瓴话?，你能為他人多做多少事?。?br />

2. Are you emotionally and mentally healthy? As humans, we're so complex and having ups and downs is normal. But in general, assess where you stand emotionally. If it's in a healthy place and you can manage your emotions in a healthy way — great! But if you self-soothe in destructive ways and have a negative attitude and energy about you, realize that it's not just affecting you, but others too. When you aren't an emotionally and mentally healthy person, that energy pours into everything you do, and everyone you're around will feel the effects, too.
你自己的情緒和思想都是健康的嗎？作為人類(lèi)，我們是非常復(fù)雜的，狀態(tài)時(shí)好時(shí)壞也很正常。不過(guò)你可以總體評(píng)估一下自己的狀態(tài)。如果你擁有健康的情緒，而且也可以以一種健康的方式來(lái)掌控自己的情緒，那就太棒了！但是，如果你的自我安慰方式是不健康的、對(duì)自己的態(tài)度和方式消極悲觀、充滿(mǎn)負(fù)能量，那么你要明白這種情況不僅會(huì)影響到你自己，還會(huì)影響到周?chē)娜恕Ｈ绻愕那榫w、思想都處于非健康的狀態(tài)，那么負(fù)能量會(huì)不受控制的影響到你做的所有事務(wù)上，而你周?chē)拿總€(gè)人也都會(huì)受到影響。

3.How's your spirituality? In this sense, spirituality is about having an ultimate purpose and being in tune with your true self. Do you wake up every day excited for what your life is about, and have gratitude for all the abundance you already have? If not, you may not be listening and living to what your heart truly desires. Living this way long term, may affect the essence of your inner being and, in turn, may not allow you to show up your very best for the world.
還有你的精神狀況如何？當(dāng)然，我說(shuō)的精神狀態(tài)指的是和目前真實(shí)內(nèi)心的你合拍的人生目標(biāo)。比如，每天早晨醒來(lái)你是否都會(huì)為自己的人生感到很興奮，同時(shí)為你所擁有的一切心懷感恩之情？如果不是，也許你還未傾聽(tīng)到自己心中真實(shí)的渴望、也沒(méi)有活成真正的自己。長(zhǎng)此以往，可能會(huì)影響到你的內(nèi)在自我本質(zhì)。話(huà)說(shuō)回來(lái)，你也無(wú)法向這個(gè)世界呈現(xiàn)最棒的自己。

Be kind to yourself.
善待自己吧。
It can be difficult to put your health and wellbeing first when life is demanding between your career, family, friendships, relationships, and so on. If you can think of any ways to improve your wellbeing and love yourself more, start today! Take a baby step towards this. Perhaps try getting an hour more of sleep. Move your body in a way that feels good. Take time for yourself to be with your thoughts and without distractions and feel that peace.
或許把自己的健康和幸福放在首要位置有難度，因?yàn)槲覀兠總€(gè)人都需要平衡事業(yè)、家庭、友誼、愛(ài)情，等等。但如果你想到有什么樣的方式方法，可以提高自我幸福感，可以愛(ài)自己多一些，那么就從今天開(kāi)始嘗試吧！哪怕先向這個(gè)方向邁出一小步——比如，盡量多睡一小時(shí)、以自己感到舒服的方式活動(dòng)活動(dòng)身體、拿出時(shí)間讓自己獨(dú)處，遠(yuǎn)離紛擾，感受那份安寧。

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