人生中,有些時(shí)候,你跌倒了,感覺(jué)自己沒(méi)有力氣爬起來(lái)。有時(shí),你感覺(jué)自己的未來(lái)是黑暗的。這意味著,你的未來(lái),不是充滿了糟糕的事,而是一片空白。這種黑暗給你的感覺(jué),不是那種對(duì)未來(lái)的恐懼,就像被許多怪獸包圍住一樣。未來(lái),它就是一片空白,它就是那么可怕??赡?,未來(lái)就是沒(méi)有希望的。一想到這點(diǎn),你就很害怕。
So you just want to step out of it to step out of the whole race, the whole business. The monstrosity of being alive overwhelms you. You think what kind of purpose do I have to live. I mean, are you just here to live and then die? Is there not a purpose for me? Is there not a purpose in life? There are some things in life that are out of your control, that you can't change and you've got to live with them.
所以,你不想再深陷其中,你想逃離這場(chǎng)比賽,逃離這一切。對(duì)于你來(lái)說(shuō),活著,已經(jīng)是一件很恐怖、很難承受的事情了。你會(huì)想,我活著到底是為了什么?意思是,你活著就是碌碌無(wú)為,直到死去嗎?你活著沒(méi)有追求嗎?生活沒(méi)有目標(biāo)嗎?生命中,有些事情是你無(wú)法控制的。你不能改變它們,你只能學(xué)會(huì)適應(yīng)。
The choice that we have though is either to give up or keep on going. The very first thing I want to offer you is empathy. I understand that that feeling is real, this idea that you just want to put an end to the entire game of life, so beyond my empathy and my care for you, my heart is going out to you.
然而,我們可以選擇放棄,或者選擇堅(jiān)持下去。首先我想向你表達(dá)同情,我知道你的感受是真實(shí)的,我理解你想結(jié)束生命這場(chǎng)游戲。所以,我同情你,我關(guān)心你,而且我的心和你在一起。
I want to offer you this that there is a lot. There is a lot in nature, which is that of seasons. Right? So in the wintertime it's cold, right? And freezing cold in the wintertime, especially if you live in, say, the north, and it might be that it is so cold that you are miserable.
我想告訴你,生活中還有很多有意義的東西。大自然中有很多美妙的事,比如四季更替,對(duì)吧?冬天,天氣很冷,對(duì)吧?要是你住在北方,那就更冷了,你可能會(huì)因?yàn)樘鞖馓涠那椴缓谩?/p>
And if a man was so cold and miserable that he decided that maybe he should kill himself because this freezing cold misery is not worth living in, and someone might come along and offer him the idea that or remind him of the law and say, dude you have got maybe another six weeks you've got maybe another eight weeks and then spring is coming. Man, it is just this way things cycled through. It is just a season right now. I understand it is freezing cold and you feel horrible and you feel pretty bad about this situation but hang in there.
如果一個(gè)人感到很冷,很悲哀,他想結(jié)束自己的生命,因?yàn)檫@天氣又冷又蕭條,實(shí)在令人不想活下去??赡苡腥藭?huì)來(lái)告訴他,自然規(guī)律就是如此,可能再過(guò)六周,或者再過(guò)八周,春天就來(lái)了。朋友,這就是四季更替,現(xiàn)在只是其中一個(gè)季節(jié)而已。我知道,現(xiàn)在很冷,你感到很難受,你覺(jué)得這很糟糕,但是一定要堅(jiān)持下去。
70% of illnesses on the planet, all kinds, are self created. You are able to generate substantial amounts of intense emotions and thoughts, but in the wrong direction. You are generating thoughts and emotions which work against you and not for you. You think it's your right to throw tantrums. You think it is your right to get angry with people. You think it is your privilege to be depressed so that you'll get attention from somebody.
世界上,有百分之七十的各種各樣的病痛,都是人自己創(chuàng)造的。你會(huì)產(chǎn)生各種各樣強(qiáng)烈的感受和想法,但是它們都是錯(cuò)誤的。你產(chǎn)生的想法和情感,正在與你對(duì)著干,而不是幫助你。你認(rèn)為你有權(quán)利發(fā)脾氣,你有權(quán)利對(duì)別人發(fā)怒,你有權(quán)利感到抑郁,這樣別人才能注意到你。
You keep playing this. One day you will not be able to turn back. Happiness is a choice. That is what I want to live my life by. You can't always be happy. Listen, I know I'm not crazy. I realize the realism and not being happy. Sometimes you just have to put up with some crap in your life.
你一直玩這樣的把戲,直到有一天,你發(fā)現(xiàn)已經(jīng)回不去了??鞓?lè)是一種選擇,這意味著,我每天想以怎樣的心情度過(guò)。你也不可能總是很快樂(lè)。聽(tīng)著,我知道我是清醒的,我知道現(xiàn)實(shí)是怎么樣的,我知道不開(kāi)心是什么感受。有時(shí)候,生活中會(huì)有很多糟糕的事,你要學(xué)會(huì)忍受。
But if you are always striving to choose happines, every day you wake up and you say to yourself, you know what, I'm going to choose to not let the outside influences of the world affect my mood. I'm going to be in charge of how I feel because I am going to choose happiness.
但是,如果你一直努力地選擇快樂(lè),每一天,你起床的時(shí)候都會(huì)跟自己說(shuō),今天,我不會(huì)讓外界的東西影響我的情緒。我的感受我做主,因?yàn)槲乙x擇快樂(lè)。
I promise you, you will live a lot happier life and at least you can try to, right? You just have to set the necessary conditions for health, necessary incentives for health, for both yourself and your children, if you have them. Do not set incentives for sickness. I've felt depressed. I've felt miserable. I've felt at times where it might be better to take my life.
我保證,你會(huì)活得更開(kāi)心,至少你可以嘗試這樣做,對(duì)吧?你必須讓自己有動(dòng)力去保持健康,這不僅是為了你,而且也是為了你的孩子,如果你有孩子的話。不要讓自己有生病的機(jī)會(huì)。我感到抑郁,我感到悲哀。有時(shí)候,我覺(jué)得,要是結(jié)束生命,說(shuō)不定會(huì)更好。
But with the wisdom that I have gathered in my 33 short years of life, I've come to realize that it's just a feeling and in the same way that feeling cold is diminished. The misery of feeling cold is diminished by the insight that spring will come eventually. And it's the same feeling that you should acknowledge, the same law that you should acknowledge that no matter how miserable things are right now, it is just a season. It's going to pass.
但是,根據(jù)我短暫的三十三年的人生經(jīng)歷,我已經(jīng)意識(shí)到了,這只是一種感覺(jué)而已,這跟那種感到很冷的感覺(jué)是一樣的,它們都會(huì)逐漸消散。天氣很冷時(shí),你感到很悲哀,但是,如果你知道,春天終究會(huì)來(lái),那么這種悲哀的感覺(jué)就會(huì)消散。其實(shí)這個(gè)道理是通用的,無(wú)論現(xiàn)在的情況看起來(lái)有多悲哀,它只是一個(gè)季節(jié)而已,它遲早會(huì)過(guò)去的。
You know the thing that keeps one living is a sense of future, that there will be a tomorrow and a next day after that. I've got to do this and the day after that. I've got to do that, not that. Any of these things have a particular local purpose or convincing reason to exist but they somehow keep someone going. You might as well live while you've got the chance.
你知道吧,讓人堅(jiān)持活下去的,就是對(duì)未來(lái)的期待,就是知道還有明天,知道明天之后還有后天。我今天有事要做,明天也有事要做。你要做的事,每件事都有它的目標(biāo),但是它們都能讓人堅(jiān)持下去。趁著還有機(jī)會(huì),你最好也好好活下去。