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[演講者及介紹]Dessa

黛莎·拉普，歌手兼作家。黛莎是一位國(guó)際巡演的說(shuō)唱歌手、歌手和作家，她的職業(yè)生涯是通過(guò)挑戰(zhàn)體裁慣例和觀眾的期望而建立起來(lái)的。

[演講主題]我們可以選擇擺脫愛(ài)情嗎？

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翻譯者 psjmz mz 校對(duì)者Thomas Tam

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Hello, my name is Dessa, and I'm a memberof a hip-hop collective called Doomtree.

大家好，我叫黛莎，是一個(gè)名為Doomtree 的嘻哈團(tuán)體的成員。

00:21

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

00:22

And I make my living as a performing,touring rapper and singer. When we perform as a collective, this is what ourshows look like. I'm the one in the boots. There's a lot of jumping. There's alot of sweating. It's loud. It's very high-energy. Sometimes there areunintentional body checks onstage. Sometimes there are completely intentionalbody checks onstage. It's kind of a hybrid between an intramural hockey gameand a concert.

我以巡演表演為生——是一位獨(dú)立歌手，也是說(shuō)唱歌手。我們的集體表演就是這樣子。表演中有很多地方要跳躍和出汗，是非常高能量的消耗和喧鬧。偶爾在舞臺(tái)上身體會(huì)互相阻擋。又有時(shí)候會(huì)有身體的故意互相碰撞。有點(diǎn)像校內(nèi)音樂(lè)會(huì)和曲棍球比賽的混合。

00:51

However, when I perform my own music as asolo artist, I tend to gravitate towards more melancholy sounds. A few yearsago, I gave my mom the rough mixes of a new album, and she said, "Baby,it's beautiful, but why is it always so sad?"

然而當(dāng)我作為一個(gè)獨(dú)唱的藝術(shù)家，更傾向于呈現(xiàn)憂郁的聲音。幾年前，我給母親一張混音的新專輯，她說(shuō)，“寶貝，歌很美，但為什么總是那么憂傷？”

01:06

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

01:07

"You always make music to bleed outto." And I thought, "Who are you hanging out with that you know thatphrase?"

“你總是創(chuàng)作滲出悲涼的音樂(lè)?！蔽蚁?，“你是和誰(shuí)一起學(xué)會(huì)用到這個(gè)詞組？”

01:13

(Laughter) But over the course of mycareer, I've written so many sad love songs that I got messages like this fromfans: "Release new music or a book. I need help with my breakup."

（笑聲）在我的職業(yè)生涯中，寫了非常多憂傷的愛(ài)情歌曲，以致常常收到這樣的信息：“盡快出新音樂(lè)或書籍，幫助我分手。”

01:23

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

01:27

And after performing and recording andtouring those songs for a long time, I found myself in a position in which myprofessional niche was essentially romantic devastation. What I hadn't beenpublic about, however, was the fact that most of these songs had been writtenabout the same guy. And for two years, we tried to sort ourselves out, and thenfor five and on and off for 10. And I was not only heartbroken, but I was kindof embarrassed that I couldn't rebound from what other people seemed to recoverfrom so regularly. And even though I knew it wasn't doing either of us anygood, I just couldn't figure out how to put the love down.

在演出，錄制音像和巡演了很長(zhǎng)一段時(shí)間之后，我發(fā)現(xiàn)自己的專業(yè)定位是達(dá)到完全摧毀浪漫的地步。然而我并沒(méi)有公開(kāi)，這些歌曲大部分都是和同一個(gè)人有關(guān)的。有兩年，我們兩人試圖梳理我們之間的問(wèn)題，然后是五年，并斷斷續(xù)續(xù)十年了。我不只是心碎，而且有點(diǎn)尷尬，因?yàn)槲覜](méi)辦法像其他人一樣，慣常的恢復(fù)過(guò)來(lái)。我知道這對(duì)我倆都沒(méi)有好處，我只是不知道如何把那愛(ài)放下。

02:16

Then, drinking white wine one night, I sawa TED Talk by a woman named Dr. Helen Fisher, and she said that in her work,she'd been able to map the coordinates of love in the human brain. And Ithought, well, if I could find my love in my brain, maybe I could get it out.

有一天，在喝了一夜的酒之后，我看了海倫·費(fèi)雪博士的TED演講，她提到她已經(jīng)能夠繪制出人類大腦中戀愛(ài)的坐標(biāo)。于是我想，如果我可以在大腦中找到我的戀情所在，也許可以把它拿出來(lái)。

02:32

So I went to Twitter. "Anybody gotaccess to an fMRI lab, like at midnight or something? I'll trade for backstagepasses and whiskey."

所以我上了推特，“無(wú)論是午夜或任何時(shí)候，誰(shuí)有進(jìn)入功能磁共振實(shí)驗(yàn)室的許可？我會(huì)用后臺(tái)通行證和威士忌交換?！?/p>

02:41

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

02:42

And that's Dr. Cheryl Olman, who works atthe University of Minnesota's Center for Magnetic Resonance Research. She tookme up on it. I explained Dr. Fisher's protocol, and we decided to recreate itwith a sample size of one, me.

那是謝麗爾·奧爾曼博士，她在明尼蘇達(dá)大學(xué)的磁共振研究中心工作。她接受了我的邀請(qǐng)。我解釋了費(fèi)雪醫(yī)生的治療方案，商議后決定用我，這唯一一個(gè)樣本做這個(gè)試驗(yàn)。

02:57

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

02:58

So I got decked out in a pair of forestgreen scrubs, and I was laid on a gurney and wheeled into an fMRI machine. Ifyou're unfamiliar with that technology, essentially, an fMRI machine is a big,tubular magnet that tracks the progress of deoxygenated iron in your blood. Soit's essentially figuring out what parts of your brain are making the biggestmetabolic demand at any given moment. And in that way, it can figure out whichstructures are associated with a task, like tapping your finger, for example,will always light up the same region, or in my case, looking at pictures ofyour ex-boyfriend and then looking at pictures of a dude who just sort ofresembled my ex-boyfriend but for whom I had no strong feelings. He was thecontrol.

我穿了一身森林綠色的衣服，躺在輪床上，然后被推入功能磁共振儀里。如果你對(duì)那個(gè)技術(shù)不太熟悉，功能磁共振儀基本上是一個(gè)大型的管狀磁鐵，可以跟蹤血液中缺氧鐵的變化。它會(huì)弄清楚你大腦的哪一部分，在給定時(shí)刻有最大的新陳代謝需求。由此計(jì)算出大腦哪個(gè)部分跟某一身體活動(dòng)相關(guān)聯(lián)，比如重復(fù)輕敲你的手指，總能點(diǎn)亮同一的區(qū)域，或者在我的例子中，望著我前男友的照片一段時(shí)間，然后看一張有點(diǎn)像我前男友的照片，但我對(duì)這人沒(méi)有強(qiáng)烈的感情；這是對(duì)照實(shí)驗(yàn)。

03:42

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

03:44

And when I left the machine, we had thesereally high-resolution images of my brain. We could cleave the two halvesapart. We could inflate the cortex to see inside all of the wrinkles,essentially, in a view that Dr. Cheryl Olman called the "brain skinrug."

當(dāng)我離開(kāi)儀器，他們得到了我大腦非常高解析度的圖像。他們可以將我的大腦成像分成兩半，可以使皮質(zhì)膨脹，看到所有皺紋，這就是謝麗爾·奧爾曼博士所說(shuō)的“大腦外皮地毯”。

04:03

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

04:05

And we could see how my brain had behavedwhen I looked at images of both men. And this was important. We could track allof the activity when I looked at the control and when I looked at my ex, and itwas in comparing these data sets that we'd be able to find the love alone, inthe same way that, if I were to step on a scale fully dressed and then step onit again naked, the difference between those numbers would be the weight of myclothing. So when we did that data comparison, we subtracted one from the other,we found activity in exactly the regions that Dr. Fisher would have predicted.

當(dāng)我分別看這兩個(gè)男人的照片時(shí)，我的大腦有不同反應(yīng)。這點(diǎn)很重要。這樣可以追蹤我的所有腦部活動(dòng)，包括我看到前男友及對(duì)照男士的情況，然后通過(guò)對(duì)比這兩種情況的數(shù)據(jù)集，就能夠?qū)ふ椅业乃鶒?ài)是誰(shuí)；跟我穿著衣服站在體重秤上，然后裸體站在秤上的道理類似，這些數(shù)據(jù)的差異就是我衣服的重量。所以當(dāng)做了那些數(shù)據(jù)比較之后，我們找到了有用的結(jié)果，實(shí)驗(yàn)發(fā)現(xiàn)活躍的領(lǐng)域正好就在費(fèi)雪醫(yī)生預(yù)測(cè)的地方。

04:42

After she had had time to analyze the datawith her team and a couple of partners, Andrea and Phil, Cheryl sent me animage, a single slide. It was my brain in cross section, with one bright dot ofactivity that represented my feelings for this dude.

那是我。那是我戀愛(ài)的大腦。那個(gè)小橘點(diǎn)是在中腦的活動(dòng)，位于腹側(cè)被蓋區(qū)，那紅色的環(huán)是前扣帶，那對(duì)金色的角就是尾狀核。她與團(tuán)隊(duì)成員，包括安德里亞和菲爾，花了些時(shí)間分析了數(shù)據(jù)之后，謝麗爾給我發(fā)來(lái)一張圖片。是我大腦的橫截面，這個(gè)亮點(diǎn)代表腦部活動(dòng)，是我對(duì)這家伙的感情。

05:19

And I'd known I was in love, and that's thewhole reason I was going to these outrageous lengths. But having an image thatproved it felt like such a vindication, like, "Yeah, it's all in my head,but now I know exactly where."

我知道我在戀愛(ài)中，這就是我很漫長(zhǎng)的反?，F(xiàn)象。我感覺(jué)這張照片是一種確認(rèn)，就像，“一切都在我的腦海里，現(xiàn)在找到正確的位置了?！?/p>

05:32

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

05:36

And I also felt like an assassin who hadher mark. That was what I had to annihilate.

我也覺(jué)得自己像個(gè)刺客，身上帶著標(biāo)記；那是我必須除去的。

05:43

So I decided to embark on a course oftreatment called "neurofeedback." I worked with a woman namedPenijean Gracefire, and she explained that what we'd be doing was training mybrain. We're not lobotomizing anything. We're training it in the way that wewould train a muscle, so that it would be flexible enough and resilient enoughto respond appropriately to my circumstances. So when we're on the treadmill,we would anticipate that our heart would beat and pound, and when we're asleep,we would ask that that muscle slow. Similarly, when I'm in a long-term, viable,loving romantic relationship, the emotional centers of my brain should engage,and when I'm not in a long-term, viable, emotional, loving relationship, theyshould eventually chill out.

所以我決定參加一項(xiàng)治療課程，稱為“神經(jīng)反饋”。我和佩尼琴·格雷斯菲爾女士合作，她解釋道只需要做那些用來(lái)訓(xùn)練我大腦的事情，無(wú)需進(jìn)行腦葉切開(kāi)術(shù)；用類似訓(xùn)練肌肉的方法來(lái)訓(xùn)練我的大腦，讓它有足夠的靈活性和彈性，來(lái)應(yīng)對(duì)我的處境，做出適當(dāng)?shù)姆磻?yīng)。當(dāng)我們?cè)谂懿綑C(jī)上會(huì)預(yù)期心臟砰砰跳動(dòng)，而當(dāng)我們睡覺(jué)時(shí)，會(huì)讓心跳慢下來(lái)。同樣，當(dāng)我處于一段長(zhǎng)期、可維持、充滿愛(ài)的浪漫關(guān)系中，我大腦的情感中心會(huì)參與其中，而當(dāng)我不處于一段長(zhǎng)期、可維持、激情的戀愛(ài)關(guān)系中時(shí)，大腦的情感中心最終會(huì)冷靜下來(lái)。

06:33

So she came over with a set of electrodesjust smaller than a dime that were sensitive enough to detect my brainwavesthrough my bone and hair and scalp. And when she rigged me up, I could see mybrain working in real time. And in another view that she showed me, I could seeexactly which parts of my brain were hyperactive, here displayed in red;hypoactive, here displayed in blue; and the healthy threshold of behavior, thegreen zone, the Goldilocks zone, which is where I wanted to go. And we can, infact, isolate just those parts of my brain that were associated with theromantic regulation that we'd identified in the Fisher study. So Penijean, severaltimes, hooked me up with all her electrodes, and she explained that I didn'thave to do or think anything. I just essentially had to hold pretty still andstay awake and watch.

佩尼琴帶來(lái)了一套比一角硬幣還小的電極，敏感度足以穿透頭骨，頭發(fā)和頭皮、偵測(cè)我的腦電波。當(dāng)我佩戴上了電極，就可以實(shí)時(shí)檢測(cè)我的大腦活動(dòng)。同時(shí)她給我看的另一幅圖，可以清楚看到我大腦哪些部分極度活躍，就是紅色的部分；不活躍的，用藍(lán)色來(lái)表示；以及健康的行為門檻，就是綠色和金色的區(qū)域，那活躍區(qū)要改變的顏色。事實(shí)上，在我大腦中可以識(shí)別出在費(fèi)雪研究中發(fā)現(xiàn)與浪漫規(guī)則相關(guān)的部分。有幾次，佩尼琴給我接上了所有的電極，她指示我什么都不用做，不用想。我只要保持安靜，保持清醒，只是觀察著。

07:34

(Harp and vibraphone sounds play)

（豎琴和電顫音琴聲音播放）

07:38

So I did. And every time my brain operatedin that healthy threshold, I got a little run of harp or vibraphone music. AndI just watched my brain rotate at roughly the speed of a gyro machine on mydad's flat-screen TV. And that was counterintuitive. She said the learningwould be essentially unconscious. But then I thought about the other things Ihad learned without actively engaging my conscious mind. When you ride a bike,I don't really know what, like, my left calf muscle is doing, or how mylatissimus dorsi knows to engage when I wobble to the right. The body justlearns. And similarly, Pavlov's dogs probably don't know a lot about, like,protein structures or the waveform of a ringing bell, but they salivatenonetheless because the body paired the stimuli. Finished the sessions, wentback to Dr. Cheryl Olman's fMRI machine, and we repeated the protocol, the sameimages -- of the ex, of the control and, in the interest of scientific rigor,Cheryl and her team didn't know who was who, so that they couldn't influencethe results.

我這樣做了。每次我的大腦在那個(gè)健康的閾值中運(yùn)行，都是聽(tīng)到一些豎琴或電顫琴音樂(lè)。我總是從父親的平板電視上看到大腦在以陀螺的速度旋轉(zhuǎn)。那是違反直覺(jué)的。她說(shuō)這種學(xué)習(xí)基本上是無(wú)意識(shí)的。但后來(lái)我又想到，我在沒(méi)有意識(shí)的情況下學(xué)到的其他東西。當(dāng)你騎自行車時(shí)，我并不確切知道我的左小腿肌肉在做什么，或者我的背闊肌在我向右搖晃時(shí)會(huì)如何配合。身體自然就學(xué)會(huì)了。同樣，巴甫洛夫的狗可能不太了解蛋白質(zhì)結(jié)構(gòu)或鈴聲的波形，但它們還是會(huì)分泌唾液，因?yàn)槟巧眢w與刺激的配對(duì)。我完成了課程，回到謝麗爾·歐曼博士的功能磁共振儀器，繼續(xù)之前的醫(yī)療實(shí)驗(yàn)計(jì)劃，同樣的照片——一張前男友，一張對(duì)照組的，為了科學(xué)的嚴(yán)密性，謝麗爾和她的團(tuán)隊(duì)不知道照片上分別是誰(shuí)，所以他們不能影響結(jié)果。

08:47

And after she had time to analyze thatsecond set of data, she sent me that image. She said, "Dude A's dominanceof your brain seems to essentially have been eradicated. I think this is thedesired result," comma, yes, question mark.

在她花時(shí)間分析了第二次數(shù)據(jù)后，她送來(lái)了那張圖像。她說(shuō)，“主導(dǎo)你大腦的那個(gè)家伙基本上被根除了。是我們期望的結(jié)果?！笔录嬉浑A段了，但為什么？

09:05

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

09:08

And that was the exactly the desiredresult. And finally, I allowed myself a moment to introspect, like, how did Ifeel? And in one way, it felt like it was the same inventory of feelings thatI'd had at the outset. This isn't "Eternal Sunshine of the SpotlessMind." The dude wasn't a stranger. But I'd had love and jealousy and amityand attraction and respect and all those complicated feelings that you amassafter long-term love. But it felt like the benevolent feelings had risen to thesurface, and the feelings of fixation and the less-generous feelings weren'tquite so present. And that sounds like a small thing in some way, thisresequencing of feelings, but to me it felt like the biggest thing. Like, if Itold you, "I'm going to anesthetize you, and I'm also going to take outyour wisdom teeth," it would really matter to you the sequence in which Idid those two things.

那確實(shí)是我們預(yù)期的結(jié)果。最后，我讓自己反省，比如，我當(dāng)時(shí)是什么感覺(jué)？在某種程度上，這感覺(jué)和我一開(kāi)始的感覺(jué)是一樣的。這不是《美麗心靈的永恒陽(yáng)光》。那家伙不是陌生人。但是，他曾經(jīng)激起過(guò)我的愛(ài)、嫉妒、親密、愛(ài)慕和尊重，以及在長(zhǎng)期的戀愛(ài)之后所積累的所有那些復(fù)雜的情感。然而就像仁慈的心已經(jīng)浮出水面，那固執(zhí)不愿意慷慨付出的感情已經(jīng)沒(méi)有那么明顯了。聽(tīng)起來(lái)似乎沒(méi)什么大不了，但這種情感的重新排序，對(duì)我而言，是天大的事情。就好像我告訴你，“我要麻醉你，并打算拔掉你的智齒，”我做這兩件事情的順序?qū)δ愫苤匾?/p>

10:11

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

10:15

And I also felt like I'd had this reallyunusual philosophical privilege to understand love. even the compulsive parts.It isn't a neat, symmetrical Valentine's heart. It's bodily, it's systemic, itis a hideous pair of ram's horns buried somewhere deep within your skull, andwhen that special boy walks by, it lights up, and if he likes you back and youmake each other happy, then you fan the flames. And if he doesn't, then youassemble a team of neuroscientists to snuff them out by force.

我感覺(jué)我借著這個(gè)機(jī)會(huì)更好的理解了愛(ài)情，即便是必須要經(jīng)過(guò)苦戀的部分。它不是一顆條理有序的情人節(jié)的心。它是有身體的、系統(tǒng)的、仿佛一對(duì)丑惡的公羊角，埋在你的頭骨深處，當(dāng)那個(gè)特別的男孩經(jīng)過(guò)時(shí)，它就會(huì)亮起來(lái)，如果他也喜歡你，你們會(huì)讓彼此快樂(lè)，那么你煽起火焰。如果他不喜歡你，就去召集一組神經(jīng)科學(xué)家，用武力將它們消滅。

11:34

(Laughter)

（笑聲）

11:36

Thanks.

謝謝。

11:37

(Applause)

（鼓掌）