2010，把握真愛(ài)！

DID you find love in the long hazy days of summer 2008? Then very soon, it could be crunch time for your relationship.
In a study of over 2000 Brits in love to mark the release of DVD 500 Days of Summer, those who were questioned highlighted that the 16 to 18 month mark is the most crucial time when couples decide how their relationship will progress.
Reasons given for these sudden break-ups included growing apart (22 per cent), having their eye on someone else (13 per cent)and feeling bored in and out of the bedroom (nine per cent).

     你是在2008年那個(gè)浪漫的夏天找到今生相伴的愛(ài)人的嗎？那么經(jīng)過(guò)1年多的相處，現(xiàn)在你們又過(guò)得怎樣呢？是達(dá)到了雙劍合璧不離不棄的狀態(tài)，還是進(jìn)入了若即若離關(guān)系模糊的冷戰(zhàn)？ 這里，我們來(lái)總結(jié)一下2009年愛(ài)情小技巧，來(lái)看看那些細(xì)節(jié)上的處理更能夠增加戀人雙方的關(guān)系，從過(guò)去的經(jīng)驗(yàn)中總結(jié)得失，扔掉壞毛病，學(xué)習(xí)新技巧，讓我們的愛(ài)情更上一層樓。
    根據(jù)英國(guó)一個(gè)超過(guò)2000人的愛(ài)情調(diào)查中我們看到，大部分情侶都表示在相處后16-18個(gè)月是一個(gè)至關(guān)重要的時(shí)間，這個(gè)階段戀人雙方會(huì)從瘋狂的熱戀中走出來(lái)，重新思考彼此的關(guān)系，考慮是否要進(jìn)一步or是否要退一步。
    先來(lái)看看分手的原因吧，根據(jù)調(diào)查有22%的情侶分手是因?yàn)闈u漸冷淡，有13%的分手原因?qū)Ψ皆诠浣謺r(shí)眼睛飄向了別處(其他的美女or帥哥)，還有9%的情侶是因?yàn)樵诖采洗蚕露寄居屑で轼B(niǎo)，索性分手。

Jo Hemmings, behavioural psychologist says: "After reaching the milestone of a year and half, bigger decisions start to loom for couples such as should they move in together and is this the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with. "With the New Year psychologically being a time of reflection, January is certainly the most popular month for breaking hearts and new starts." Here, Jo gives us her top tips on making 2010 the year for bagging a beau and keeping him ...

    行為心理學(xué)家Jo Hemmings說(shuō)道“情侶關(guān)系滿1年半之后，會(huì)進(jìn)入一個(gè)決定階段，雙方都會(huì)慎重的重新審視與對(duì)方的關(guān)系。實(shí)際上，這個(gè)時(shí)候戀愛(ài)已經(jīng)結(jié)束，人們開(kāi)始考慮婚姻和后半生。”
    Jo Hemmings 還說(shuō)“同時(shí)，隨著新年假期的到來(lái)，正好給了人們靜下心來(lái)(拋開(kāi)忙碌的工作)反思，所以每年的1月都是分手or新開(kāi)始密集發(fā)生的一個(gè)時(shí)間段。”
    所以吶，為了不讓分手杯具的發(fā)生，希望你記住這些Love Tips小竅門(mén)，忍一時(shí)海闊天空，退一步風(fēng)平浪靜，在1月的假期整理自己，說(shuō)不定就能牽著你現(xiàn)在愛(ài)人的手，一起慢慢到老。

 

1. If you're single, resolve to do something new. Instead of thinking about internet, speed dating or buying a hot new outfit get out there and do it!

1.如你還是單身，那么快去嘗試一些新東西吧。不要再宅在家里搞網(wǎng)絡(luò)了，去制備一身新衣服趕快出門(mén)結(jié)識(shí)異性吧。

2. Need some guidance on your love life? Booking a session with a Dating or Relationship Coach could be just the boost and direction that you need.

2. 需要給你的愛(ài)情生活一點(diǎn)指導(dǎo)？那么現(xiàn)在就預(yù)約一個(gè)戀愛(ài)關(guān)系教練，從他那里學(xué)習(xí)一些和愛(ài)人相處的藝術(shù)很有必要噢。

3. Take the opportunity to clear out your underwear drawer and consign all greying, baggy bras and pants to the bin. High street stores do fabulous underwear these days - invest in something sexy!

3. 趁著這個(gè)機(jī)會(huì)好好清理一下你的內(nèi)衣抽屜。把那些寬松的BRA和內(nèi)衣都扔掉，試著投資一下性感，對(duì)，你知道我說(shuō)的什么，改變一下自己。讓你們的生活變得更附有情趣。

4. Pep up things in the bedroom, by spicing things up a little.

4. 在臥室增加一些裝飾品，或者情趣類的小玩意。

5. Remind yourself that dating is about having fun. If you're stuck in a rut ask yourself "Is it worth it?" and if you need to move on, remember that practice makes perfect.

5. 對(duì)自己說(shuō)，約會(huì)是為了尋找更多的樂(lè)趣。而不要僅僅停留在‘為什么這樣做，這樣做值得嗎’之類的問(wèn)題上。

6. Being interested in activities outside of work/looking for a partner is what makes you interesting. Taking your foot off the gas in trying to find a partner and doing other stuff that you enjoy is often a fast track to finding someone special.

6. 為你的愛(ài)情積極投身于某個(gè)興趣活動(dòng)之中。和他/她一起互動(dòng)、探索，記住共同完成一件有意義的事情，是最值得紀(jì)念的。

7. Resolve to be firm but fair - letting someone down with a polite but clear message that you're not a match made in heaven, is better than being stuck on a second or third date because you don't want to upset them.

7. 對(duì)待感情同樣有原則——也許偶爾讓對(duì)方失望也不賴嘛！由于你禮貌的拒絕很清楚的告訴他你們并不非生來(lái)合適，這樣總好過(guò)你因?yàn)椴幌刖芙^對(duì)方在第二次或者第三次約會(huì)時(shí)感情就遇到瓶頸。

8. Next time your partner says "What's up?" resolve not to say "Nothing". Learn to speak your mind firmly but tactfully and improve those important communication skills.

8. 當(dāng)你愛(ài)人問(wèn)起“到底發(fā)生了什么事”，請(qǐng)不要直接說(shuō)“不”。請(qǐng)學(xué)會(huì)一些溝通技巧，會(huì)讓你們的交談更加順暢。

 

9. Resolve to improve your flirting skills. Flirting gets a lot of bad press, but done well to someone you fancy it's the most direct yet subtle message you can give and makes the other person feel great!

9. 改善你的調(diào)情技巧，差勁的調(diào)情技巧只會(huì)讓事情變得更糟哦~但如果用好了卻會(huì)事半功倍，這種直接的表達(dá)方式最容易讓對(duì)方感到踏實(shí)和幸福。

10. Be open minded about your potential partner. Don't be too picky with a long shopping list nor too random in your choices. Both are fruitless - restrict yourself to three "must haves" and let the rest unfold naturally.

10. 寬容開(kāi)放的思想。不要為一些并不太重要的判斷上和愛(ài)人爭(zhēng)執(zhí)，寬容一點(diǎn)對(duì)自己也對(duì)別人，這樣生活可能會(huì)更加輕松。