選擇伴侶的一些重要建議

This step is very important if you really want to choose the right partner. You have to know yourself. Some people are searching in all corners of the earth for their soulmate but come back in vain. One of the reasons of that failure is that the bachelor did not ask himself. So the, before loving someone, before making your choice on the right guy or girl to marry, start by asking yourself the real questions: who are you? What do you want? What are you expecting from your partner? What do you like most? All these little questions may seem tiny but are very important. It is after answering these questions to yourself that you can start defining who you are and what you really want.

Be positive and keep smiling

After knowing yourself, you can now begin to change your mind. The next key for alluring your future wife or husband is being positive. By being positive, people will automatically call on you, run to you and would like to by your side because of the energy you are spreading all around you. Don’t worry, it’s metaphysical. Keep smiling, not in blissful ignorance but the acceptation of the reality: that you are what you are, good-looking and valuable. These two steps are more than essential. It is all in the attitude.

What do you want?

There is no formula in love. You may already know the type of guy/girl you would like to date and that is correct. You find your love and that is all. If you have not yet defined clearly what kind of person you want to be your husband or wife, do not worry. These are things that have to be discovered solely and patiently. The person may not be what you have been expecting, but if there is love, communication can begin.

Common interest

The proverb says that birds of the feather lock together. This may be true in some cases but generally speaking, the two individuals need a common interest. It may be playing video games or horse riding. It doesn’t matter; you just have to be sure that there is, at least, two things that you like to do with the other person. This will play a big role in the couple’s future life together.

Can you communicate to each other?

This is another key point. Two persons who cannot talk to each other just cannot live together. For a period of time, it can be possible but for a long-term relationship, it does not work. The two peoples have to share their feelings (happiness, likes and dislikes, anger, etc.) to each one other. And once again, we repeat it: communication is the basis of a long-term and happy marriage.

These are just few tips but the decision is yours. Be who you are, be positive, define what you want and what you do not want and finally choose someone that you can talk with and who has a common interest with you.

認(rèn)識你自己

如果你想選擇一位合適的伴侶，認(rèn)識你自己這一步相當(dāng)重要。你必須認(rèn)識自己。一些人翻遍地球?qū)ふ易约旱撵`魂伴侶，但徒手而歸。失敗的一個原因便是單身人士沒有反求諸己。因此，在與某人陷入愛河之前，在你選擇合適的人結(jié)婚之前，先要問自己最真實的幾個問題：你是誰?你想要什么?你對伴侶的期待是什么?你最喜歡什么?所有這些問題似乎微小，但卻重要。只有在回答了這些問題后你才能開始定義自己的身份和欲求。

積極并且保持微笑

在認(rèn)識自己后，你現(xiàn)在可以開始改變自己的思維。吸引未來伴侶的第二個重要因素便是要積極。若是積極，人們自動就會與你交談，和你往來，愿意支持你，這都是因為你將自己的能量傳遞給四周的人。不要擔(dān)心，這只是形而上學(xué)。保持微笑，并不是樂而忘憂地愚昧，而是接受現(xiàn)實：你就是你自己，美麗且有價值。這兩步都是核心。一切取決于態(tài)度。

你想要什么?

愛情里沒有公式可套。你也許已經(jīng)知道你想要約會的對象的類型。你找到了你的真愛，這就行了。如果你還沒有明確你想要哪種伴侶，別擔(dān)心。這些需要獨自有耐心地發(fā)現(xiàn)。這人也許不是你期待的，但是只要有愛，就會有溝通。

共同愛好

常言道，物以類聚，人以群分。在一些情況下也許是有理，但通常來說，兩個個體需要一個共同愛好。這也許是玩電游或騎馬。這沒關(guān)系;你只需要確定至少你和另一個人有喜歡做的兩件事。這在未來兩人的生活中將扮演重要角色。

你們能相互交流嗎?

還有一點很重要。不能相互交流的兩人無法生活在一起。在一段時間內(nèi)，兩人也許能在一起，但這不是長久之計。兩人必須分享自己的感情(幸福，喜好，厭煩之事，憤怒，等等)我們要再一次強(qiáng)調(diào)：一個長久幸福的婚姻需要交流作為基礎(chǔ)。

這些只是小建議，決定權(quán)還是在你手中。做你自己，積極，明確自己的欲求和所摒棄之事，最后選擇一個與你有共同愛好能與之交流的人。