9種方式幫你成為更好的自己

Here are 9 ways to be a better person through self-development:

下面9個(gè)自我提升的方法有助于成為更好的人：

1. Be Willing To Change

愿意改變

In order to become a better person, you have to be willing to change. Change is the only way to grow and progress into the person you want to become. Many people are against change, which can make it very hard to grow. When you keep an open mind and are willing to change, you are able to grow into the person you want to become。

想成為更好的人，就必須樂于改變。改變是成為期望中自我的唯一途徑。許多人不愿改變，所以也很難有所成長(zhǎng)。如果你敞開心胸接受改變，很可能會(huì)長(zhǎng)成期望中的自己。

2. Stop Making Excuses

停止找借口

When I first started my company in high school, I made excuses every time something went wrong. I would blame others, blame the customer, or anyone else involved. However, I would never blame myself for things that went wrong。

當(dāng)我高中第一次創(chuàng)建自己的公司時(shí)，一出現(xiàn)問題，我總是不自覺地找借口。我責(zé)怪他人、抱怨客戶或任何相關(guān)的人，但就是不覺得自己有問題。

Instead, I learned that taking accountability for your own mistakes is extremely important. I stopped making excuses, took the blame when it was truly my fault, and was able to achieve so much more. By understanding that I made a mistake, I was able to use my mistakes to learn which in turn helped me become a better person。

然后，我發(fā)現(xiàn)承認(rèn)自己的錯(cuò)誤非常重要。因此我不再找借口，而是坦誠(chéng)承認(rèn)錯(cuò)誤，這樣一切反倒更加順利。通過(guò)意識(shí)到自己的錯(cuò)誤，我學(xué)會(huì)吸取教訓(xùn)并成為一個(gè)更好的人。

3. Stop Being Angry

停止憤怒

Many people let anger and rage alter their decision-making skills. I used to be an angry person growing up, but I only saw it damage relationships with people and increase my blood pressure。

很多人因生氣或憤怒而方寸大亂。以前我也是一個(gè)“憤青”。但我發(fā)現(xiàn)，憤怒只會(huì)惡化人際關(guān)系并影響身心健康。

Controlling anger is an extremely difficult skill to master, but it is very beneficial. Instead of getting angry, I decided to find a way to change my negative emotion. Staying angry doesn’t help me or solve any problems, it only creates more of them. Find some way of relaxing your nerves when you’re angry, a stress ball was very helpful for me。

要控制憤怒并不容易，但做到以后卻能獲益匪淺。于是我決定，與其生氣，不如想辦法改變消極情緒。憤怒不僅解決不了問題，反而會(huì)使情況更糟。生氣時(shí)請(qǐng)?jiān)囍潘缮窠?jīng)吧。比如，減壓球?qū)ξ揖秃苡行А?/p>

4. Be A Role Model

成為榜樣

Sometimes you need to be a role model to someone to really get your act together. Once I became an entrepreneur and people started to look up to me, I became a lot more cautious about the way I behaved. I didn’t want to disappoint people by showing them I was immature or a bad role model。

有時(shí)只有當(dāng)你率先模范，別人才會(huì)按你的要求去做。當(dāng)我成為企業(yè)家后，人們都開始以我為榜樣，于是我在言行上謹(jǐn)慎了很多。我不希望因?yàn)樽约翰怀墒旎蜓孕袗毫佣顾耸?/p>

You can start small and be a “big brother” to someone, coach a kids’ team, or be a role model to your children. No matter what you choose to do, always make decisions that the person looking up to you will respect。

你可以從小處做起，比如成為某人的“大哥”、小孩的教練或自己子女的模范。不管你是怎樣的角色，做出的決定一定要足夠讓對(duì)方尊重。

5. Forgive Someone

原諒他人

Forgiving someone who hurt you is very difficult to do. When I got upset at someone for doing something, I could never forgive them. Even if it was a petty thing, I would hold it against them for the rest of their lives which was not healthy。

原諒傷害自己的人真的很難。以前我很“記仇”，要是誰(shuí)做了對(duì)不起我的事，哪怕是雞毛蒜皮，我都會(huì)一直耿耿于懷。其實(shí)這樣很不好。

I quickly learned that humans are prone to making mistakes. Instead of holding mistakes against them for life, try to forgive someone. To become a better person, go through your past and forgive someone that did something to hurt you。

很快我發(fā)現(xiàn)，人都會(huì)犯錯(cuò)。與其因某人犯錯(cuò)而記恨一輩子，不如選擇寬恕。嘗試做個(gè)更好的人，忘記過(guò)去，原諒曾經(jīng)傷害自己的人。

6. Listen To People

用心傾聽

People are extremely busy with their careers, families, and lives. Everyone is in a rush, but people rarely ever have time to listen to what others have to say. I learned that listening to people and giving everyone a voice is one of the greatest things you can do。

人們總是忙于應(yīng)付事業(yè)、家庭和生活，所有人都很忙碌，無(wú)暇顧及他人到底在說(shuō)什么。但我發(fā)現(xiàn)，傾聽并回應(yīng)他人非常重要。

I got to meet some of the most amazing people, close some of the biggest deals, and develop connections that will last me a lifetime all because I took time to listen to people. Being a good listener can change your life in a positive manner。

我寧愿放下重大生意，也要赴約去見有意思的人;正因?yàn)槲覙芬鈨A聽，這些人往往也會(huì)變成我的終生好友。擅于傾聽能積極改變?nèi)松?/p>

7. Be Honest

誠(chéng)實(shí)誠(chéng)懇

Honest people are hard to come by nowadays. However, honesty is the best remedy for any situation. Promise yourself that you won’t tell any lies for a month straight。

當(dāng)今社會(huì)，誠(chéng)實(shí)的人并不多見。但誠(chéng)實(shí)卻是任何情況下最重要的品質(zhì)。請(qǐng)先嘗試一個(gè)月內(nèi)不講一句謊話吧。

Challenge yourself to be honest by developing good habits. If you’re a compulsive liar, start small by trying to be honest for 1 day. After you accomplish a smaller goal, increase the goal by 2 or 3.

請(qǐng)?jiān)囍B(yǎng)成好習(xí)慣、學(xué)著誠(chéng)實(shí)做人。如果你總不自覺地撒謊，那就先試著1天不說(shuō)謊，然后再慢慢將目標(biāo)增加到2天或3天。

8. Do Something You Don’t Want To

做點(diǎn)自己不愿意的事情

Keeping an open mind and trying things that you wouldn’t normally do is a very easy way to become a better person. Take a risk and challenge yourself to try something you’ve always been scared to do。

敞開心懷去嘗試自己一般不會(huì)去做的事情有助于成為更好的人。冒一次險(xiǎn)，挑戰(zhàn)自己，嘗試去做一直害怕的事情吧。

Growing up, I was terrified of roller coasters. However, I eventually gave in as a teenager and had the time of my life. I would have never experienced roller coasters unless I had been willing to get over my fear and give it a shot. That one experience has led me to try numerous other new things。

成長(zhǎng)時(shí)期我很害怕坐過(guò)山車，因?yàn)槟贻p氣盛，還是嘗試了一下，結(jié)果記憶深刻。如果不是因?yàn)榭朔?nèi)心恐懼勇敢邁出一步，或許我永遠(yuǎn)也體會(huì)不到坐過(guò)山車的樂趣。這個(gè)經(jīng)驗(yàn)使我勇于嘗試其他更多的新鮮事情。

9. Surprise Someone Special

給特別的人帶去驚喜

Do you have a loved one in your life? Whether it’s your spouse/romantic partner, your children, or a family member, plan a special surprise for them. If you know someone who deserves a nice vacation or a new gift, go buy it for them。

你生命中也有心愛的人吧?不論是伴侶、戀人、子女還是親人，都值得你準(zhǔn)備一場(chǎng)驚喜。如果想送某人禮物或跟某人度假，那就拿出行動(dòng)。

One of the most rewarding feelings in the world are knowing that you made someone smile. Surprise the special someone in your life by doing something out of the ordinary for them!

世上最令人滿足的莫過(guò)于知道自己能給他人帶來(lái)快樂。做一件不尋常的事，給生命中心愛的人帶去驚喜吧!