和前任做朋友的人是自戀狂和變態(tài)

A new study found that many people who befriend their former lovers are narcissists and psychopaths.

一項(xiàng)新的研究發(fā)現(xiàn)：很多喜歡和前任成為朋友的人都是自戀狂和變態(tài)。

A new study has sought to uncover why people with "dark personality traits" (such as narcissism, duplicity, even psychopathy) maintain relationships after their expiration. For many people, staying friends with an ex is unthinkable. Even Psychology Today has urged the public not to befriend extinguished flames because: "they are less emotionally supportive, less helpful, less trusting, and less concerned about the other person's happiness."

一項(xiàng)新的研究發(fā)現(xiàn)了那些擁有黑暗個(gè)性特點(diǎn)(比如自戀，表里不一甚至是變態(tài))的人會(huì)在分手后仍然保持戀人關(guān)系。對(duì)于很多人來(lái)說(shuō)，和前任保持朋友關(guān)系是件不可思議的事情。即便是如今的心理學(xué)也敦促大眾不要和舊情保持朋友關(guān)系，因?yàn)?ldquo;這樣的關(guān)系不太有情感做支撐，對(duì)人無(wú)益，不值得信任而且和另外一個(gè)人的幸福也沒(méi)有關(guān)系。”

In "Staying friends with an ex: Sex and dark personality traits predict motivations for post-relationship friendship," Oakland University researchers Justin Mogilski and Lisa Welling asked 860 subjects to list the motivations for their involvement with their exes. According to the Daily Mail, the researchers also surveyed the subjects to determine who had dark personality traits. "Previous studies have shown that people who score highly for these traits are more likely to pick friends for strategic reasons, and prefer short-term relationships," the Daily Mail reported. The researchers wanted to know if this were true for former lovers, too.

在“和前任保持朋友關(guān)系：性和黑暗的人性特點(diǎn)預(yù)示著后一段關(guān)系的動(dòng)機(jī)，”奧克蘭大學(xué)的研究員賈斯汀和麗莎采訪了860個(gè)主體，以列出和前任保持關(guān)系的動(dòng)機(jī)。根據(jù)《每日郵報(bào)》稱，研究員們也調(diào)查了這些主體，從而決定誰(shuí)有黑暗的人格特點(diǎn)。每日郵報(bào)也報(bào)道了：“之前的研究表明了：那些在黑暗人格特點(diǎn)方面得分高的人更有可能有目的的去選擇朋友，而且也喜歡短期的關(guān)系。”研究員們想得知在前任問(wèn)題方面是不是也是如此。

Dark personality types are most interested in how relationships can be useful to them and that such people may stay connected to [to exes in order to] have access to valuable resources. They also have inside information about their exes vulnerabilities and weaknesses that they can exploit and manipulate which gives them a sense of power and control.

黑暗人格類型的人更加感興趣的是一段關(guān)系對(duì)他們是否有好處，而且此類人與前任保持聯(lián)系是為了接近有用的資源。他們對(duì)于前任的弱點(diǎn)和缺點(diǎn)都了如指掌因此他們可以開(kāi)發(fā)和利用這些而帶給自己一種權(quán)力和控制的感覺(jué)。