如何有策略地暗送秋波？

How to Flirt With Finesse
如何有策略地暗送秋波？
 

You might dress well, have a cool job, and be blessed with beauty, but flirting is where the real magic of attraction is, especially when it comes to first impressions. In fact, good flirting is often more effective than good looks, and it’s something anybody can learn how to do.

或許你著裝美麗、有一份好工作并且天生麗質(zhì)，但是調(diào)情是吸引力的真正魔法，尤其是當(dāng)涉及到第一印象的時(shí)候。實(shí)際上，良好的調(diào)情技巧總是比美麗的外表更加有效，而且每個(gè)人都能學(xué)會(huì)如何去做。

Make Friendly, Lasting Eye Contact With a Smile

面帶微笑，友好持續(xù)的眼神交流

Eye contact is pivotal when flirting, and Marin suggests it’s the best way to indicate your interest. It means the difference between a friendly “how-do-ya-do” conversation and a “I’d really like to get to know you” conversation. Whether you’re across the room or already talking, eye contact has been shown to boost feelings of attraction. In one study, published in the Journal of Research and Personality, strangers were asked to stare into the eyes of other strangers. After holding a mutual, friendly gaze for two minutes, most participants reported increased feelings of passionate love toward the stranger.

在調(diào)情的時(shí)候，眼神交流很重要，而且馬林建議稱這是表現(xiàn)自己興趣的最好方法。這種“我很想認(rèn)識(shí)你”的交流與友好的“你好”這種交談提示是完全不同的。無(wú)論你是在經(jīng)過(guò)房間的時(shí)候，還是正在交談的時(shí)候，眼神交流能夠讓你更具有吸引力。刊登在研究與性格雜志上的一項(xiàng)研究中，要求陌生人與其他陌生人進(jìn)行眼神交流。在彼此盯著看了幾分鐘之后，開(kāi)始用友好的眼神看對(duì)方，大多數(shù)參與者的報(bào)告中稱他們與陌生人之間的愛(ài)意大增。

Marin says the trick to flirtatious eye contact is to maintain your gaze longer than usual. If you spot someone across the way, try to meet their gaze, hold it for a few seconds, and look away. Repeat this a couple times and, if they aren’t giving you weird looks, then make your approach. Be cautious, though. While a kind gaze does wonders, an unbroken, wide-eyed stare is creepy. If you’re worried you’ll go overboard, use the triangle technique and smile. Nothing says “I like you” like a big ol’ smile.

馬林說(shuō)調(diào)情的眼神交流的技巧在于要比平常的時(shí)候多看對(duì)方一點(diǎn)兒時(shí)間。如果你發(fā)現(xiàn)有人走過(guò)來(lái)，試著與他們眼神交流，保持幾秒鐘，然后看向其他地方。這樣重復(fù)幾次之后，如果他們沒(méi)有對(duì)你表現(xiàn)出好奇，那你就試著靠近他們。但是要小心一點(diǎn)兒。盡管友好的注視會(huì)讓人產(chǎn)生好奇，但是完全睜大眼睛看他人卻會(huì)令人感到不舒服。如果你擔(dān)心你的注視有點(diǎn)兒過(guò)頭了，那就采用三角形技巧并且保持微笑?？鋸埖奈⑿Σ⒉荒茱@示出“我喜歡你”這一含義。