人過(guò)50歲會(huì)后悔什么？

What do people regret the most once they go past 50 in life?

人過(guò)50歲后最后悔什么?

獲得106.2k好評(píng)的回答@James Altucher：

In six months I’ll be 50 but I already know what I’ll regret.

再過(guò)六個(gè)月我就50歲了，但我已經(jīng)知道自己將會(huì)后悔什么了。

This is the cliche answer. “If anything had been different I wouldn’t be who I am today.” Like what I am today is so great I’d never want to change it. But... I wish I could’ve done some things differently in the past and still be the person I am today. Life is pretty hard and complex. And our brains aren’t smart enough to figure it all out.

有一個(gè)回答很俗：“如果可以重來(lái)，我不會(huì)是今天的樣子。”就像我現(xiàn)在過(guò)得很好其實(shí)并不想改變。但…我希望過(guò)去可以做出不同的選擇但仍然是今天的我。生活很艱難也很復(fù)雜，我們的大腦也沒(méi)有聰明到能搞清楚一切。

KIDS. I wish I had spent more time with my kids. Sure, I spend quality time with them now. But I worked really hard and, I admit, I probably avoided them when they were really young and difficult to wake up and get ready for school when they were younger.

孩子。我希望過(guò)去能多陪陪孩子。當(dāng)然我現(xiàn)在陪伴他們的時(shí)間都是優(yōu)質(zhì)時(shí)間，但我過(guò)去真的工作很辛苦，而且我承認(rèn)可能在他們小時(shí)候還有很難叫他們起床準(zhǔn)備上學(xué)的更小年紀(jì)時(shí)我是有意避開(kāi)他們。

MONEY. I wish for 15 years or so I wasn’t so focused on money.

錢(qián)。我希望過(guò)去的15年左右沒(méi)有這么在乎錢(qián)。

CREATIVITY. I began my career in my 20s doing things that were really creative that I loved. I was trying to write a novel. I was trying to do a TV show. I was always around people I loved so much. And I spent time with them because I loved them and not because I wanted anything else. I wish I had stuck with that. Now, in my 40s, I’m trying to catch up. It's never too late, of course.

創(chuàng)造力。我20幾歲開(kāi)始我的事業(yè)時(shí)所做的都是很有創(chuàng)造力而且自己也喜歡的。我那時(shí)想要寫(xiě)小說(shuō)，想要做期電視節(jié)目，我身邊都是自己很喜歡的人。和他們?cè)谝黄鹗且驗(yàn)槲蚁矚g他們，而不是有其他企圖，我真希望一直那樣下去。現(xiàn)在我40多歲，要努力找回原來(lái)的自己，當(dāng)然猶時(shí)未晚。

HUMILITY. When I first made some money I became a bit arrogant. I started investing in all of these horrible companies and having horrible friends. It’s the double-horrible that finally kills you. If I were humble and just went back to what I loved, I bet I’d be happier.

謙卑。我剛開(kāi)始賺到些錢(qián)時(shí)有些膨脹。我開(kāi)始投資很多可怕的公司，交了可怕的朋友，這些“可怕”加在一起最終毀了你。如果我當(dāng)時(shí)謙遜一點(diǎn)，回去尋找我所喜歡的人和事，我敢打賭我會(huì)更開(kāi)心。

CONFRONTATIONAL. I couldn’t say “no” to people. I still have a hard time with that. I wish when someone does something that I don’t like or agree with that I would say “no” a bit more often. I’ve gotten into a lot of bad situations because I didn’t say “no”.

抗拒。我過(guò)去不會(huì)對(duì)別人說(shuō)“不”，現(xiàn)在也覺(jué)得很難。我希望過(guò)去有人做了什么我不喜歡或不贊成的事時(shí)我能多說(shuō)幾次“不”，因?yàn)闆](méi)有拒絕我多次陷入艱難的處境。

Here’s two cases where I should have said “no” more often:

以下兩種情況我本該多拒絕幾次：

-- When someone treats me bad.

—有人對(duì)我不好時(shí)。

-- When I don’t want to do something but I feel bad about hurting someone.

—不想做什么事又不想傷害別人時(shí)。

Anyway. If I had a time machine would I go back in time? I’m not sure. It's ok to feel regret sometimes.

不管怎么說(shuō)，如果真有時(shí)光機(jī)，我會(huì)回到從前嗎?我不確定。有時(shí)有點(diǎn)遺憾也沒(méi)什么。

I thumb through it like I would a deck of cards with pretty pictures. I would have held my daughter’s hand when she came home from school. And I would have taken her for a walk around town. And she would’ve told me about her day. And I would ask her lots of questions. I'd listen while she talked and talked. She would tell me everything. And we’d walk for a really long time, until the sun went down and I’d try to tell her the names of all the stars above us. Even if I had to make it up.

我回憶往昔，就像拿著一副帶有美好照片的紙牌。女兒放學(xué)回到家我會(huì)握著她的手，帶她在鎮(zhèn)上轉(zhuǎn)轉(zhuǎn)，她會(huì)告訴我她一天的事，我會(huì)問(wèn)她很多問(wèn)題。我會(huì)聽(tīng)她說(shuō)呀說(shuō)，她什么都會(huì)跟我說(shuō)。我們會(huì)一起走很久很久，直到夕陽(yáng)西下，我會(huì)努力告訴她天上所有星星的名字，即使有些還要編。