避免與孩子對抗，建成比較好的教育

Outside of the obvious abusive type of parenting, there are some types you will want to avoid when raising a child.

除了明顯的虐待型的教育方式以外，在你養(yǎng)孩子的時候，也需要避免其他一些教育方式。

Neglectful parenting is a very harmful type of parenting and even falls under abuse. It is a harmful type because the child has no basis for developing healthy relationships. However, it sometimes is not as easy to recognize as other forms of abuse. Some signs of neglectful parenting are as follows:

忽略型的教育方式是一種非常有害的教育類型，甚至比虐待更嚴重。這是一種有害的類型是因為，孩子沒有建立健康關(guān)系的基礎(chǔ)。然而，這種類型有時候比其他類型的虐待更加不容易辨認出來。一些忽略型的教育方式如下：

Neglecting physical, emotional, and other needs of a child.

忽略孩子身體，感情和其他方面的需要。

Inability to connect with a child in any way.

沒有能力與孩子在任何方面建立聯(lián)系。

Lack of interest in child’s activities, friendships, and schooling.

對孩子的活動，友誼和學(xué)校教育缺乏興趣。

Leaving a child alone for long periods of time.

長時間讓孩子獨處。

Permissive parenting may not seem like it would be a harmful type of parenting because the parents are highly loving and supportive of their child. The harmful part of this type of parenting is the fact that there are little to no boundaries, and if there are boundaries, they are inconsistent.

寬容型的教育方式或許不像是一種有害的類型，因為家長非常溺愛和支持他們的孩子。這種類型的教育方式，有害的一方面就是，父母的寬容沒有極限，如果有極限的話，那就是前后矛盾的。

Children will grow up with no empathy, little self-discipline, and self-control, be self-centered, have no respect for rules or authority, and the inability to understand consequences. Some signs of this type of parenting are:

孩子會逐漸發(fā)育成沒有同理心，自律和自控能力差，而且非常自私的人，而且會不尊重法規(guī)或者權(quán)威，沒有能力理解后果。這種類型的教育方式的一些跡象：

Little to no rules that are inconsistent or constantly changing.

完全不管規(guī)則，前后不一致或者不斷改變。

Avoidance of confrontation with a child.

避免與孩子對抗。

The desire to be child’s best friend or good friend.

做孩子最好的朋友或者好朋友的愿望。

Authoritarian parenting is considered to be a highly demanding parenting style. There usually is not open communication between parent and child, and the expectations can be unreasonable. As the child grows, they will develop low self-esteem, fear of authority, little social skills, and possibly rebellion or disobedience outside of parental influence. Some signs of authoritarian parenting are:

專制型教育方式是一種高度嚴格要求的一種家長制。家長和孩子之間往往沒有開放式的溝通，而且家長的期望可能市不切實際的。隨著孩子的成長，他們會發(fā)育成一種自尊心低，畏懼權(quán)威，缺乏社會技能的人，而且可能會叛逆，或者不受父母之外任何人的管束。專制型教育方式的一些跡象：

• Strict rules that must be followed no matter what.
• 無論如何都必須遵守的嚴格規(guī)定。
• The child has little to no say in their decision making at any age.
• 孩子在任何年齡階段在他們的決定方面都沒有發(fā)言權(quán)。
• Punishments administered rather than consequences.
• 用懲罰來管理孩子，而不是讓孩子承擔后果。
• Little emotional connection with a child.
• 與孩子的感情關(guān)系淡薄。