約會(huì)守則：首次約會(huì)勿接吻

After how many dates would you kiss someone, send them a Facebook friend request or spend the night with them?
約會(huì)幾次后你會(huì)親吻對(duì)方，發(fā)出臉譜網(wǎng)的好友請(qǐng)求或與其一起過(guò)夜？

According to a new study exploring the dos and don'ts of dating, you shouldn't lock lips until the second date or connect on Facebook until at least the third. And don't even dream of jumping into bed with them before the fourth rendezvous.
根據(jù)一項(xiàng)對(duì)人們約會(huì)守則的新調(diào)查，直到第二次約會(huì)你才能與對(duì)方親吻、至少第三次約會(huì)才能在臉譜網(wǎng)上聯(lián)系。甚至在第四次約會(huì)之前都不要夢(mèng)想著與之同床共枕。

The research, commissioned by TLC’s new dating show Undressed, also suggests that men should be the first text after a successful date and women should respond within a quarter of an hour if keen.
該研究由旅游生活頻道（TLC）的新相親節(jié)目《脫光》委托進(jìn)行，研究結(jié)果也表明，在一次成功的約會(huì)后男方應(yīng)該首先給對(duì)方發(fā)短信，而如果女方對(duì)其很感興趣應(yīng)該在15分鐘內(nèi)回復(fù)。

When it comes to messaging, a maximum of two kisses is all that is required as an end note.
說(shuō)到發(fā)短信，作為結(jié)束聊天的信號(hào)最多是兩個(gè)吻。

Any more might be too 'over the top', while any less could apparently come across as ‘cold’. A definite no-no is waiting for the other person to text first.
兩個(gè)以上可能會(huì)“太過(guò)”，而少于兩個(gè)則可能給人明顯“冷淡”的印象。明確的禁忌是等待對(duì)方先發(fā)短信。

Half of the 1,500 Brits quizzed in the study said it was important for their potential love interest to make contact first - which means the other half of daters will be left disappointed.
受訪的1500名英國(guó)人中有一半表示，潛在的戀愛(ài)對(duì)象先聯(lián)系自己很重要——這意味著另外一半的約會(huì)對(duì)象會(huì)感到失望。

It seems that 'playing it cool' isn't in vogue anymore either. A third of respondents said they would text back within a quarter of an hour, with only five percent saying they’d wait as long as two hours.
看來(lái)“裝酷”也不時(shí)尚了。三分之一的受訪者表示，他們會(huì)在15分鐘內(nèi)回復(fù)短信，只有5%的人說(shuō)他們會(huì)等長(zhǎng)達(dá)兩個(gè)小時(shí)后再回復(fù)。

Just 23 percent of people think that texting back straight away is a sign of being 'too keen' with the majority of Brits saying they are happy to get right back in contact with a love interest.
僅23%的人認(rèn)為立即回復(fù)短信是“太急切”的信號(hào)，大多數(shù)英國(guó)人表示他們很高興立即收到愛(ài)慕對(duì)象的回復(fù)。

However, when it comes to communicating online it becomes even stickier territory.
然而，當(dāng)涉及到網(wǎng)上交流時(shí)，這就變成更加棘手的領(lǐng)域。

On average, the survey recommends that it's best to wait until some point between the third and fourth dates before sending a Facebook friend request or following a beau on Twitter.
該調(diào)查建議，平均而言，最好是等到第三次與第四次約會(huì)之間的某個(gè)時(shí)間發(fā)送臉譜網(wǎng)的好友請(qǐng)求，或在推特上關(guān)注情郎。

RULES OF DATING
約會(huì)守則

Send first text message: After one date
發(fā)送第一個(gè)短信：一次約會(huì)之后

Go for first kiss: After two dates
第一次親吻：兩次約會(huì)之后

Send Facebook friend request: After three dates
發(fā)送臉譜網(wǎng)好友請(qǐng)求：三次約會(huì)之后

Spend the night: After four dates
一起過(guò)夜：四次約會(huì)之后

Allow your partner to undress you: After five dates
讓你的伴侶為你寬衣解帶：五次約會(huì)之后

Introduce partner to friends: After five dates
把伴侶介紹給朋友：五次約會(huì)之后

Jo Hemmings, behavioral Psychologist for TLC’s Undressed, says that dating has become increasingly difficult in the technological era, with people having to 'carefully orchestrate' what they want to say.
旅游生活頻道《脫光》節(jié)目邀請(qǐng)的行為心理學(xué)家喬-荷明斯說(shuō)，在技術(shù)時(shí)代約會(huì)已經(jīng)變得越來(lái)越困難，人們不得不“精心策劃”自己想說(shuō)的話。

She continued: 'The advance of smartphones has made dating both easier, and more difficult.
她接著說(shuō)：“智能手機(jī)的發(fā)展使約會(huì)變得更容易也更困難。”

'Our parents may have had nothing more complicated to worry about than when to ring a date up on the landline, but these days there are dozens of methods of communication that all have to be carefully orchestrated.'
“我們的父母輩需要擔(dān)心的最復(fù)雜的問(wèn)題不過(guò)是用固定電話定下約會(huì)日期，但如今許多溝通手段都需要精心策劃。”

Half of the survey participants said they'd looked up a potential date online before meeting in person, to get a feel for their personality and see more pictures - and 15 percent revealed they’d cancelled a date after seeing something on social media they didn’t like.
調(diào)查參與者中的一半表示，見(jiàn)面之前他們會(huì)在網(wǎng)上搜索未來(lái)的約會(huì)對(duì)象，來(lái)感受對(duì)方的個(gè)性，以及查看對(duì)方更多的照片——15%的人透露，在社交媒體上看到自己不喜歡的東西后，他們會(huì)取消約會(huì)。

When actually on the date, there are countless faux pas to avoid - the worst of the lot being talking about an ex too much, followed by poor personal hygiene.
在實(shí)際約會(huì)時(shí)，要避免無(wú)數(shù)種失禮——最糟糕的是過(guò)多談?wù)撉叭?，其次是個(gè)人衛(wèi)生太差。

One in ten said they would cancel a date with someone if they talked about themselves too much in messages.
十分之一的人表示，如果對(duì)方在短信聊天時(shí)過(guò)多談?wù)撟约海麄兙蜁?huì)取消與對(duì)方的約會(huì)。

The reasons for going cold after a date range from the banal to the bizarre, with one respondent admitting that he couldn’t stop staring at a date’s mole, and another saying simply, ‘They punched my cat.’
在一次約會(huì)之后關(guān)系變冷的原因各種各樣，有的老套，有的離奇。其中一位受訪者承認(rèn)他情不自禁地盯著約會(huì)對(duì)象的痣，而另一個(gè)則說(shuō)：“他們用拳頭揍了我的貓。”

Although the study shows that three is the magic number when it comes to the number of dates needed before an overnight stay, one in ten said they need more than ten meetings to get to that point.
雖然這項(xiàng)研究顯示，當(dāng)說(shuō)到一起過(guò)夜之前需要幾次約會(huì)時(shí)，這個(gè)神奇的數(shù)字是三，但十分之一的人表示，要達(dá)到過(guò)夜的程度他們需要十次以上的約會(huì)。

Clare Laycock, head of channels at TLC & Investigation Discovery, said she hopes the survey results will help singletons successfully navigate the dating scene.
克萊爾•萊科克是旅游生活頻道以及調(diào)查探索頻道的主管，她說(shuō)希望調(diào)查結(jié)果能幫助單身人士成功駕馭約會(huì)現(xiàn)場(chǎng)。

Vocabulary

dos and don'ts：注意事項(xiàng)，行為準(zhǔn)則
rendezvous：約會(huì)
faux pas：失禮，失態(tài)
banal：陳腐的，平庸的，老一套的