美文欣賞：10個(gè)讓你優(yōu)秀的習(xí)慣（雙語(yǔ)）

We all see and hear about extraordinary people around us and wonder why can’t we be more like them? Sometimes we chuck that notion as absurd and unachievable. I would say not so fast. It’s not the big things that make someone extraordinary. It’s the small things.

我們都看到或聽(tīng)說(shuō)過(guò)身邊那些優(yōu)秀的人，并在想為什么自己不能和他們一樣?有時(shí)我們覺(jué)得這種想法很荒謬，根本無(wú)法實(shí)現(xiàn)。我覺(jué)得不一定。人并不是因?yàn)榇笫露鴥?yōu)秀，而是因?yàn)樾∈虏抛兊米吭健?/p>

Things that over a period of time have the power to radically change your life. They become extraordinary by making a difference in someone's life. Here are some of the things extraordinary people do every day:

發(fā)生在一段時(shí)間內(nèi)的事情可以從根本上改變你的生活。優(yōu)秀的人通過(guò)讓他人的生活有所不同而變得卓越。下面的幾件事是非凡的人每天都會(huì)做的。

1. They are open to criticism

他們樂(lè)于接受批評(píng)

Just because you’re the boss, doesn’t mean you are right every time. It doesn’t mean you have the best ideas. Learn to back up your ideas or decisions with reason. Use logic to explain things, not authority. By doing this your decisions might invite criticism, but you will also get an opportunity to improve.

你是老板，但這不表示你每次都對(duì)，不表示你的想法最好。學(xué)著用理性來(lái)支持你的想法或決定。運(yùn)用邏輯來(lái)解釋事情 ，而不是運(yùn)用權(quán)威。這樣的話你的決策可能會(huì)引發(fā)批評(píng)，但是你卻得到了提高的機(jī)會(huì)。

2. They admit their mistakes

他們都承認(rèn)錯(cuò)誤

My friend’s boss made a huge mistake by tying up with an event management company. The whole purpose of the tie-up was to promote his company but it failed miserably. Instead of defending his idea and carrying on as if nothing happened, he apologised to the team for not including them in the decision making. It’s OK to admit you were wrong. You will not only gain the respect of your team mates, you will also gain credibility.

我朋友的老板犯了個(gè)大錯(cuò)，他把公司和一個(gè)活動(dòng)管理公司合并了，本來(lái)合并是為了提升他的公司，誰(shuí)知道最后竟是悲慘的結(jié)局。他沒(méi)有為自己的想法辯護(hù)，沒(méi)裝作什么也沒(méi)有發(fā)生，而是因自己在做決策時(shí)沒(méi)有考慮到團(tuán)隊(duì)的意見(jiàn)而向他們道歉。承認(rèn)自己做錯(cuò)了沒(méi)什么大不了。你不僅會(huì)獲得團(tuán)隊(duì)成員的尊敬，而且也會(huì)贏得信譽(yù)。

3. They are generous with compliments

他們毫不吝嗇贊美之詞

Remember the time, say in school or at work when you worked really hard but got nothing in return. Not even a thank you. It hurts when your efforts are not recognized. So every chance you get to praise someone, do it. A simple, “That was some great work, keep it up,” can go a long way in making the employee feel great about them self. A compliment can have a positive impact on their lives. Your team/family will love you for it.

還記得你認(rèn)真學(xué)習(xí)或努力工作而沒(méi)有任何回報(bào)的時(shí)候吧，有時(shí)連句“謝謝”都沒(méi)有?？赡愕呐Σ槐怀姓J(rèn)時(shí)你會(huì)受到打擊。所以，當(dāng)你有機(jī)會(huì)贊揚(yáng)他人時(shí)，一定要贊揚(yáng)。一句簡(jiǎn)單的贊美之詞，如“做得真好，繼續(xù)努力，”會(huì)讓雇員在很長(zhǎng)時(shí)間內(nèi)都會(huì)感覺(jué)良好。贊美能對(duì)他們的生活產(chǎn)生積極的影響。你的團(tuán)隊(duì)/家庭也喜歡你這樣做。

4. They are sensitive to others

他們對(duì)他人都很敏感

Think about a time you complimented someone and the recipient changed the topic? Maybe he or she was uncomfortable. But you still were not amused were you? Similarly, when you feel awkward receiving a compliment or an award, remain in control and give the person in front of you a genuine smile and thank him or her. Don’t make the moment sour by acting on your insecurities.

想一想，有沒(méi)有這樣的時(shí)候?你正贊美對(duì)方而對(duì)方卻改變了話題?也許你的贊美令他/她感覺(jué)不舒服。但是你會(huì)覺(jué)得不痛快，對(duì)吧?同樣地，當(dāng)你收到贊美之詞或獎(jiǎng)品時(shí)，如果感到尷尬，可以克制自己，給你面前的人報(bào)以真正的微笑并謝謝他/她。不要因?yàn)椴话踩卸屇且豢套兊貌挥淇臁?/p>

5. They ask for help

他們尋求幫助

When you need help, don’t be arrogant or shy and stop yourself. If you’re lost on the road, it is fine to ask for directions. Everyone needs a little help sometime. When you ask for help, you receive help. By doing so, you’re letting people know you’re no superhuman, that you’re willing to listen, you also need support at times…which only show you could become a great leader someday.

當(dāng)你需要幫助時(shí)，不要因?yàn)樽源蠡蚝π叨蝗ハ蛩饲笾?。如果你迷路了，就去?wèn)問(wèn)別人怎么走。每個(gè)人都會(huì)在某一時(shí)刻需要幫助。當(dāng)你尋求幫助時(shí)，會(huì)有人幫助你。這樣做，你會(huì)讓人知道你不是超人，你愿意傾聽(tīng)，你有時(shí)也需要?jiǎng)e人的支持……這表明有一天你也可能成為偉大的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)。

6. They apologize when needed

他們?cè)摰狼傅臅r(shí)候就道歉

We all make mistakes, but what makes a person big is when he is ready to apologize. Don’t try to hide behind excuses: “I didn’t mean to say it, it just happened.” “I was irritated with such and such person so…” No. Don’t try to shift blame. Just come right out and say you’re sorry.

我們都會(huì)犯錯(cuò)，但優(yōu)秀的人勇于道歉。不要試圖找借口：“我不是這個(gè)意思。”“我被這樣的人激怒了……”不要這樣。不要試圖推卸責(zé)任。直接說(shuō)你錯(cuò)了。

7. They are willing to learn

他們樂(lè)于學(xué)習(xí)

When you don’t understand how something works, let an expert show you. When you let someone teach you something, you are telling the person that you respect their talent, time and that you believe he knows what he is talking about. That you respect their experience. Always be willing to learn, because there is no way in hell to know everything.

當(dāng)你不清楚事物的原理時(shí)，讓專家給你解釋。當(dāng)你讓別人教你東西時(shí)，你是在告訴別人你尊敬他的天賦、時(shí)間，你相信他的話。你佩服他們的經(jīng)驗(yàn)。永遠(yuǎn)要樂(lè)于學(xué)習(xí)，因?yàn)檫@是認(rèn)識(shí)世間萬(wàn)物的唯一途徑。

8. They are helpful

他們樂(lè)于助人

Never hesitate to help someone. It’s fairly simple but it goes a long way. Don’t be non-committal and say something vague like, “Can I help you?” because they might just say, “No, I’m good.” The key is to not sound patronizing. Be specific. “I had the same problem with this coffee machine in the morning. I think I have figured a way to make it work.” Offer in a way that feels mutually beneficial.

能助人時(shí)且助人。說(shuō)起來(lái)容易做起來(lái)難。不要害怕承諾并說(shuō)一些模糊的話，“需要我的幫忙嗎?”因?yàn)閯e人可能以為你只是說(shuō)說(shuō)，“不，我很好。”并要注意不要以恩人自居。要具體一點(diǎn).” 早晨我也碰到這個(gè)咖啡機(jī)出現(xiàn)過(guò)同樣的問(wèn)題。我覺(jué)得我想到了一個(gè)辦法能把它修好。”用一種互惠互利的方式去幫助他人。

9. They are expressive

他們?cè)敢獗磉_(dá)自己

They are not bottled up. They feel something they verbalize it. Then be it pulling someone for not working hard or congratulating someone on their wonderful performance. This behaviour is not only restricted to work, but is applied to every aspect of their life.

他們不把話憋在肚子里。他們把感覺(jué)用語(yǔ)言表達(dá)出來(lái)。有人不努力工作就督促他，有人做得很好就祝賀他。這種方式不僅限于工作，而且適用于生活的方方面面。

10. They’re in charge of their emotions

他們能控制情感

Sometimes it is very important to stay mum. Especially when you’re angry or irritated or bitter, you don’t want to end up saying things you didn’t really mean to. So they take their time, they process their emotions, thin back to what happened, and then come to a decision about how to tackle it. Before you say anything, consider other’s feelings. Never be rash with words or actions.

有時(shí)保持沉默是非常重要的。尤其是當(dāng)你生氣、被激怒或很痛苦時(shí)。你不想說(shuō)一些讓別人誤會(huì)的話。優(yōu)秀的人很從容，他們能控制自己的情感，想想發(fā)生過(guò)的事情，然后決定如何處理。在說(shuō)話之前，考慮他人的感受。不要輕率說(shuō)話或行動(dòng)。