◎ Marie Forleo
The single most important factor that contributes to success is what you do every single day. It is as simple as that. You habits will determine whether you are successful or not. If you have strong and healthy positive habits, it does not matter whether or not you fail today because you are guaranteed to succeed in the long run. Having positive habits does not mean that you will succeed every single time. However, in the long run, there is no doubt that you will achieve all your goals and be successful. On the other hand, if you have strong negative habits, you are guaranteed to fail in the long run. It does not matter whether you succeed today or not. If your habits are self-destructive, you will fail in the long run.
引導(dǎo)成功唯一且最重要的因素,是你每一天所做的事情。就這么簡(jiǎn)單。你的習(xí)慣將會(huì)決定你是否成功。如果你有強(qiáng)大且健康、積極的習(xí)慣,你現(xiàn)在是否失敗都不重要,因?yàn)槟銓?lái)注定會(huì)成功。保有積極的習(xí)慣并不意味著你每一次都會(huì)成功。然而,從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)看來(lái),毫無(wú)疑問(wèn)你將會(huì)實(shí)現(xiàn)所有的目標(biāo),成為成功人士。相反,如果你有強(qiáng)大的消極的習(xí)慣,你將來(lái)注定會(huì)失敗。無(wú)論你現(xiàn)在成功與否。如果你的習(xí)慣是自我毀滅性的,你將來(lái)必定失敗。
Why are Habits so Important?
為什么習(xí)慣如此重要?
Because you repeat the same actions and the same behaviors every single day. A single positive action will not change your life, but the same action repeated 1,000 times will have a significant impact on your life. For example, if you go to the gym one time, you won’t see a big difference in your life. However, if you go to the gym 1,000 times over a five year period, you will see a big difference in your body. The same principle applies to finance, health, relationships, work, career, and school. Simple positive actions repeated every single day will have a tremendous impact on your life in the long run.
因?yàn)槟忝恳惶於荚谥貜?fù)同樣的動(dòng)作和行為。一次積極的行動(dòng)不會(huì)改變你的人生,但是同樣的行動(dòng)重復(fù)1 000次,將會(huì)對(duì)你的人生產(chǎn)生巨大的影響。比如,如果你去做一次健身,你不會(huì)看到有什么大的不同。然而,你五年里去做了1 000次健身,你就會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)你身體的巨大變化了。這一原則也適用于理財(cái)、健康、人際關(guān)系、工作、事業(yè)和學(xué)校。每一天都充分簡(jiǎn)單積極地行動(dòng),將會(huì)對(duì)你今后的人生產(chǎn)生巨大的影響。
Guaranteed Success
必定成功
When you have strong positive habits, it does not matter whether you fail right now or not, because you are guaranteed to succeed in the long run. Do you know the law of sowing and reaping? The law of sowing and reaping states that you reap what you sow. If you are always sowing good positive actions, the only logical result will be success. A man who has a strong work ethic and who has a clear goal will succeed no matter what. This man has developed the habit of working hard. It does not matter whether he fails an exam or miss a sale. The man will keep working until he succeeds. I am not worried about this man. He will be successful.
如果你有強(qiáng)大的積極的習(xí)慣,不管你現(xiàn)在失敗與否,你將來(lái)都注定會(huì)成功。你知道播種與收獲的道理嗎?這個(gè)道理就是你將會(huì)收獲你播種的東西。如果你一直做良好的積極的事情,唯一合乎邏輯的結(jié)果就是成功。一個(gè)有著良好職業(yè)道德和明確目標(biāo)的人,無(wú)論怎樣都會(huì)成功。這個(gè)人已經(jīng)形成了努力工作的習(xí)慣。一次考試失敗或是錯(cuò)過(guò)一筆生意都沒(méi)有關(guān)系。這個(gè)人會(huì)繼續(xù)努力直到成功。我不擔(dān)心這樣的人。他必定會(huì)成功。
Guaranteed Failure
必定失敗
When you have negative habits, failure is guaranteed for you until you take the conscious decision to change your habits forever. Negative habits include overeating, gambling, smoking, drinking and taking drugs. However, let’s not forget those other negative habits that are often the real cause of failure. These negative habits are character traits that will stop you from achieving success. I’m talking about mental habits such as procrastination, laziness, fear, shyness, lack of courage, etc. Procrastination is the worst negative habit. It is a dream killer. Instead of taking action and working hard to achieve his goal, the procrastinator decides to delay and to wait until tomorrow. However, when tomorrow becomes today, the procrastinator keeps delaying. The only solution to his problem is to start taking action right now.
如果你有消極的習(xí)慣,你必定失敗,除非你主動(dòng)采取措施永遠(yuǎn)改掉這些習(xí)慣。消極的習(xí)慣包括暴飲暴食、賭博、吸煙、酗酒和吸毒。然而,我們不能忘記其他那些真正導(dǎo)致失敗的消極習(xí)慣。這些消極習(xí)慣是可能阻止你走向成功的性格特點(diǎn)。我指的是精神層面的習(xí)慣,例如拖延時(shí)間、懶惰、恐懼、羞怯、缺乏勇氣,等等。浪費(fèi)時(shí)間是最糟糕的壞習(xí)慣。它是夢(mèng)想的殺手。非但不采取行動(dòng),為達(dá)到目標(biāo)而努力,取而代之的是拖延,明日復(fù)明日。然而,當(dāng)明天變成了今天,仍舊在拖延。針對(duì)這個(gè)問(wèn)題,唯一的解決辦法就是立即采取行動(dòng)。
How to Develop Positive Habits
如何形成積極的習(xí)慣
There’s nothing easier than developing positive habits. You simply have to do every single day the action you want to make a habit. If you want to develop the habit of running, run almost every day. If you want to develop the habit of eating healthy, eat healthy every day. If you want to develop the habit of reading, read every day. Habits are created by repetition. The more you do an action, the easier it becomes in the long run.
沒(méi)有什么是比形成積極的習(xí)慣更簡(jiǎn)單的了。你只需要每一天都做你希望能形成習(xí)慣的事情。如果你想養(yǎng)成跑步的習(xí)慣,那就盡量每天都去跑步。如果你想養(yǎng)成健康飲食的習(xí)慣,那么每天都吃健康食品。如果你想有閱讀的習(xí)慣,每天都閱讀。習(xí)慣是由重復(fù)養(yǎng)成的。你重復(fù)得越多,以后做起來(lái)就越容易。
How to Eliminate Negative Habits
怎樣摒棄消極的習(xí)慣
The only way to destroy negative habits is to stop reinforcing them. If you are a smoker, stop smoking. If you are a drug user, stop using drugs. If you are a procrastinator, stop procrastinating and start taking action right now. Yes, it will be very difficult at the beginning. The first week will be very hard. After three weeks, you will feel a lot better. Eliminating negative habits is hard because you associated a lot of pleasures to these habits in the past.
打破消極習(xí)慣的唯一方式就是停止重復(fù)它們。如果你是個(gè)煙民,停止吸煙。如果你是個(gè)吸毒的人,停止吸毒。如果你是個(gè)拖拉的人,停止拖沓,現(xiàn)在就采取行動(dòng)。當(dāng)然,開(kāi)始的時(shí)候會(huì)很困難。第一周將會(huì)非常辛苦。三周以后,你就會(huì)覺(jué)得好多了。摒棄消極的習(xí)慣是很難的,因?yàn)槟氵^(guò)去的許多樂(lè)趣都與這些有關(guān)。
How Psychology Can Help
怎樣用心理學(xué)來(lái)幫助你
If you want to be successful in changing your habits, you should think about changing your inner beliefs about your habits. For example, your old belief was: “I love cigarette because it makes me feel good and relaxed. I need cigarette to be happy and relaxed.” If you keep this belief, you won’t be able to keep your resolution to stop smoking for very long. Instead, you should adopt this new belief: “I love yoga because it makes me feel good and relaxed. Cigarette is toxic and destroys my body. Yoga makes me happy.” You should analyze your beliefs and make sure they won’t stop you from changing your habits. The same is true when you try to form positive habits. If you want to start eating healthy food, here are some positive beliefs you should start thinking about: “Healthy food is very good for my health. It gives me a lot of energy and I feel very good.”
如果你想成功地改變你的習(xí)慣,你應(yīng)該改變你內(nèi)心里關(guān)于這些習(xí)慣的想法和信念。比如,你的舊觀念是:“我喜歡香煙,因?yàn)樗屛腋杏X(jué)很好,很輕松。我需要香煙來(lái)使我快樂(lè)和放松?!比绻惚S羞@樣的想法,那么你的戒煙行動(dòng)將不會(huì)持續(xù)很久。想反,你應(yīng)該采取這樣一條新的信仰:“我喜歡瑜伽,因?yàn)檫@使我感覺(jué)舒適而放松。香煙是有害的,它破壞我的健康。瑜伽使我快樂(lè)?!蹦銘?yīng)該分析你的觀念,確保你不會(huì)停止改掉惡習(xí)。當(dāng)你試圖形成良好習(xí)慣的時(shí)候也是同樣。當(dāng)你想開(kāi)始健康飲食的時(shí)候,你應(yīng)該開(kāi)始想這些積極的觀念:“健康的食物對(duì)我的健康是有益的。它給我許多能量,我感覺(jué)很好?!?
Action Plan
行動(dòng)計(jì)劃
It’s now time for you to develop positive habits in your life and eliminate your negative habits. Write down 3 positive habits that you would like to develop and 3 negative habits that you would like to eliminate. For each positive habit, write down exactly what actions you’re going to take every single day in order to develop the new habit. For each negative habit, write down exactly what actions you’re not going to take in the next weeks. Here are some positive habits that will lead to success: exercise, healthy food, reading, saving, studying, healthy relationships, hard work, etc. Here are some negative habits to eliminate: gambling, drug and alcohol abuse, overeating, procrastination, shyness, etc.
現(xiàn)在就是你形成生活中的積極習(xí)慣、改掉惡習(xí)的時(shí)候了。寫(xiě)下三個(gè)你想養(yǎng)成的積極習(xí)慣三個(gè)你想改掉的消極習(xí)慣。對(duì)于每一個(gè)積極的習(xí)慣,準(zhǔn)確地寫(xiě)下你每一天將采取什么行動(dòng)來(lái)培養(yǎng)新習(xí)慣。對(duì)于每一個(gè)消極的習(xí)慣,準(zhǔn)確地寫(xiě)下你未來(lái)幾周打算不做什么。這些是引導(dǎo)你走向成功的積極的習(xí)慣:鍛煉身體、健康飲食、閱讀、節(jié)儉、學(xué)習(xí)、人際關(guān)系,努力工作,等等。這些是應(yīng)該改掉的消極的習(xí)慣:賭博、吸毒、嗜酒、暴飲暴食、拖沓、害羞,等等。
You Can Do It!
你能行
Everybody can change. All it takes is courage and commitment. Decide right now to improve your life by changing your habits. Take action right now! Don’t be afraid. Yes, you will probably make mistakes along the way. But never forget that success is guaranteed for you if you have positive habits in your life. If you refuse to quit, success will be yours.
每個(gè)人都可以改變。這只需要勇氣和承諾?,F(xiàn)在就下定決心通過(guò)改變習(xí)慣來(lái)改善你的生活。采取行動(dòng)吧!不要害怕。是的,你也許會(huì)在這條路上犯錯(cuò)誤。但是永遠(yuǎn)不要忘記,如果你的生活中有積極的習(xí)慣,你必定會(huì)成功。如果你堅(jiān)持到底,成功就會(huì)屬于你。