戀愛(ài)物語(yǔ)原諒別人可以嗎？

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Holding a grudge holds you back. Without forgiveness, you can’t get on with your life. Learn how to forgive and forget and you’ll be a healthier, happier person.

You Will NeedAcceptance
Understanding
Focus
Stress management
Commitment

Step 1: Accept    接受
Accept the facts of your situation.

Be objective without pointing a finger or making yourself a victim.

Step 2: Understand  互相理解
Understand the reasons why the person hurt you. People are rarely malicious without reason. Most conflicts arise from misunderstanding.

Step 3: Look back  回顧自己的做法
Look back on a time when someone forgave you and remember how that made you feel. Understand that we all make mistakes.

Step 4: Focus on positives     朝向積極的方面
Focus on all that is positive in your life.

Step 5: Manage stress      巧妙釋放壓力
Manage your stress to help suppress anger and resentment.

Step 6: Commit to forgiving      承諾原諒傷害自己的人
Commit yourself to forgiving the person that caused you pain.

Step 7: Accept apology       接受道歉
Let them know that you accept their apology and be genuine in your forgiveness.

A decrease in heart rate, blood pressure, sweat levels, and facial tension occurred in people who imagined receiving an apology after feeling wronged.

[重點(diǎn)講解]

 malicious

    adj.1.惡意的, 惡毒的
         Their talk was slightly malicious.
         他們的談話(huà)有點(diǎn)兒心懷不軌。

suppress

  vt.1.政府、統(tǒng)治者等 鎮(zhèn)壓；（武力）平定；壓制
      The new government quickly suppressed the rebellion.
      新政府迅速把叛亂鎮(zhèn)壓下去。
     2.禁止發(fā)表, 查禁; 隱瞞
      They suppressed news that was not favourable to them.
      對(duì)他們不利的新聞他們就扣留下來(lái)。
      He suppressed his name.
      他隱瞞了他的姓名。

commit
   
   vt.1.犯罪; 犯錯(cuò)
        He has committed a serious fault.
        他犯了嚴(yán)重錯(cuò)誤。
      2.承諾; 使自己受約束
       Asked if he was a candidate, he refused to commit himself.
       當(dāng)問(wèn)到他是不是候選人時(shí), 他不置可否。
       He has committed himself to support them.
       他答應(yīng)負(fù)擔(dān)他們的生活。
      3.把…托付給；托，委托；委任
       The boy was committed to the care of his aunt.
       這個(gè)孩子被交給他的姑媽照顧。