不要和這幾類人談戀愛(ài)!

Dating is precarious at the best of times, because you never know who you're going to end up meeting. Someone may seem normal and fun over text message, and be completely alarming in person. You might have chemistry online, only to have nothing in common when you're actually sitting with each other on a first date.

在最有利的情況下，約會(huì)是不穩(wěn)定的，因?yàn)槟阌肋h(yuǎn)都不知道和你約會(huì)的那個(gè)對(duì)象是什么德性。有些人和你短信聊天的時(shí)候可能看上去還很正常、風(fēng)趣，但真正見(jiàn)了面卻會(huì)讓人感到驚慌。網(wǎng)戀的時(shí)候，你們的化學(xué)反應(yīng)可能十分強(qiáng)烈，但首次約會(huì)真正面對(duì)面坐著時(shí)，卻發(fā)現(xiàn)雙方并無(wú)任何相似之處。

1. Narcissists

1. 自戀者

People with narcissistic personality disorder can never love anyone since they are self-obsessed. They only find joy in creating chaos for everyone else and feel superior in watching them crumble. To make a relationship with a narcissist work, there are many sacrifices you'll have to make - and even then there's no guarantee.

患有自戀型人格障礙的人永遠(yuǎn)都不會(huì)愛(ài)上其他人，因?yàn)樗麄兲V迷于自我了。給其他人創(chuàng)造混亂，看著他們?yōu)l臨崩潰時(shí)，自戀者會(huì)感到高興，優(yōu)越感油然而生。若想和自戀者談一場(chǎng)不分手的戀愛(ài)，你必須做出很多犧牲--即便如此，也無(wú)法保證你們會(huì)過(guò)得幸福。

2. Highly paranoid people

2. 偏執(zhí)狂

They are unable to relax and are usually jealous and controlling, according to Peer. Paranoid people always think someone is out to get them, or that their partner is cheating on them. Sometimes, this means they stop their partner going out with friends, or even their family.

皮爾表示，偏執(zhí)狂無(wú)法放松，通常嫉妒心強(qiáng)、喜控制他人。偏執(zhí)狂總覺(jué)得另一半出去要么是為了逮他，要么就是出軌。有時(shí)候，這意味他們會(huì)阻止伴侶與朋友或家人出門聚會(huì)。

3. Controlling and jealous types

3. 控制狂和喜妒類型的人

These people can't trust you and will make you account for everything. They need to be in control all the time and are very punishing when things don't go their way, Peer said.

這些人不信任你，會(huì)讓你解釋一切。他們需要時(shí)時(shí)刻刻的控制你。如果事情不盡如他/她意，他/她會(huì)變得咄咄逼人，皮爾說(shuō)道。

4. Extremely selfish and self-absorbed types

4. 超級(jí)自私和自戀的人

They can't see or factor in another point of view. They also lack empathy and emotion, so disagreements are likely to escalate explosively.

他們無(wú)法想到或從另一角度看問(wèn)題。他們?nèi)狈ν樾?、沒(méi)有感情，所以與他/她爭(zhēng)吵可能會(huì)升級(jí)成無(wú)法彌補(bǔ)的事情。

5. Alcoholics

5. 酒鬼

They are unable to be honest, both with themselves and anyone else. This is the same for anyone with any sort of addiction. They need to be able to love themselves before they can truly love anyone else. Before this point, any relationship with an addict is likely to end up being codependent.

他們無(wú)法對(duì)自己或?qū)λ苏f(shuō)實(shí)話。對(duì)任何成癮者而言，結(jié)果都是一樣。在真正愛(ài)上他人之前，他們需要先學(xué)會(huì)自愛(ài)。在此之前，與任何成癮者開(kāi)始一段戀情都有可能帶來(lái)一起上癮的結(jié)局。

6. People who have a toxic relationship with their exes and families

6. 與前任或家人關(guān)系不好的人

They show an inability to be accountable for their own actions. A toxic relationship in this sense could be a highly erratic one, or an unhealthy attachment. Either way, you don't want to get caught up in it.

這樣的人無(wú)法為自己的行為負(fù)責(zé)。在這種意義上，不良關(guān)系很有可能是一種非常不穩(wěn)定或不健康的依戀關(guān)系。無(wú)論如何，你可不想陷入這一堆亂七八糟的事情中去吧。