這是心心寧寧現(xiàn)在的年齡,“自治”“他治”相結合的關鍵期。
1,“他治”不宜太早,因為童年早期需要更多的自由探索,
2,由“他治”轉化、內(nèi)化的“自治”不能太晚,因為所有的行動廣廈,都需要四梁八柱來支撐,過于自由沒有構架,難以撐起一個硬核人生。
(你家有家規(guī)嗎?)
先看下奧巴馬家規(guī):
Obama rules
家規(guī)1:不能有無理的抱怨、爭吵或者惹人討厭的取笑;
1 unreasonable quarrel or complain, hate fun;
家規(guī)2:一定要鋪床,不能只是看上去整潔而已;
2 must have a bed, not just look neat;
家規(guī)3:自己的事情自己做,比如自己沖麥片或倒牛奶,自己疊被子,自己設置鬧鐘,自己起床并穿衣服;
3 do things for themselves, such as their cereal or pour milk, set up their own alarm clock, you get up and dress;
家規(guī)4:保持玩具房的干凈;
Keep the room clean 4 toys;
家規(guī)5:幫父母分擔家務,每周1美元;
5 to help our parents do some housework, $1 a week;
家規(guī)6:每逢生日或是圣誕節(jié),沒有豪華的禮物和華麗的聚會;
6 birthday or Christmas gift, no luxury and magnificent party;
家規(guī)7:每晚8點30分準時熄燈。
7 every night eight thirty lights on time;
家規(guī)8:安排充實的課余生活:跳舞、排戲、彈鋼琴、打網(wǎng)球、玩橄欖球;
8 arrange enriched after-school life;
家規(guī)9:不準追星。
9 don't make track for a star.