我必須首先付出和愛的人，是自己

I used to believe that love meant putting everyone else and their needs first, before my own. While I do think there is some truth to that, in the sense that being a giving person is one of the ultimate acts of being a loving person, I came to realize that I must give to and love myself first and foremost.

我曾經(jīng)相信，愛意味著把別人和他們的需求放在首位，而不是我自己的需求。雖然我確實(shí)認(rèn)為這是有一定道理的，因?yàn)樽鳛橐粋€(gè)付出的人是成為一個(gè)有愛心的人的終極行為之一，但我開始意識(shí)到，我必須首先付出和愛的人，是自己。

Here's why:

原因如下:

When you put everyone and everything else above you, you are no longer valuing yourself and your needs. And when you are not meeting your needs, and you don't take care of yourself (emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually), you can't be the best version of yourself to the special people in your life. So in essence, you don't love them at your full potential!

當(dāng)你把所有人和事都放在你之上時(shí)，你就不再重視自己和自己的需求了。當(dāng)你不能滿足自己的需求，你不能照顧好自己(情感上，身體上，精神上，精神上)，你就不能在你生命中那些特殊的人面前做最好的自己。所以，本質(zhì)上，你并沒有完全發(fā)揮你的潛力去愛他們!

Here are some things to consider —

這里有一些事情需要考慮

1. Are you physically taking care of yourself? Do you nourish yourself with the right foods, get enough sleep, exercise, are at a healthy weight, and on top of your check-ups? If not, I bet your energy is low, you're tired and stressed, and your confidence isn't the highest (because you probably don't feel your best). Now think about how much more you could give to others when you aren't exhausted, you're happy with what you see in the mirror, and you aren't on edge with stress.

1. 你在身體上照顧好自己了嗎?你是否用正確的食物來滋養(yǎng)自己，獲得足夠的睡眠，鍛煉身體，保持健康的體重，并且在保證體檢的基礎(chǔ)之上?如果沒有，我敢打賭你的能量很低，你很累，壓力很大，你的信心也不是最高的(因?yàn)槟憧赡芨杏X不是最好的)?，F(xiàn)在想想，當(dāng)你不疲憊，你對(duì)自己在鏡子里看到的感到高興，你不會(huì)因?yàn)閴毫Χ械骄o張時(shí)，你能給別人多少。

2. Are you emotionally and mentally healthy? As humans, we're so complex and having ups and downs is normal. But in general, assess where you stand emotionally. If it's in a healthy place and you can manage your emotions in a healthy way — great! But if you self-soothe in destructive ways and have a negative attitude and energy about you, realize that it's not just affecting you, but others too. When you aren't an emotionally and mentally healthy person, that energy pours into everything you do, and everyone you're around will feel the effects, too.

2. 你的情緒和心理健康嗎?作為人類，我們是如此復(fù)雜，有起有落是正常的。但總的來說，要從情感上評(píng)估自己的立場(chǎng)。如果它在一個(gè)健康的地方，你可以用一種健康的方式管理你的情緒——太好了!但是，如果你以破壞性的方式自我安慰，對(duì)自己有消極的態(tài)度和精力，要意識(shí)到這不僅影響到你，也影響到其他人。當(dāng)你的情緒和心理都不健康時(shí)，你所做的每件事都會(huì)充滿能量，你身邊的每一個(gè)人也會(huì)受到影響。

3. How's your spirituality? In this sense, spirituality is about having an ultimate purpose and being in tune with your true self. Do you wake up every day excited for what your life is about, and have gratitude for all the abundance you already have? If not, you may not be listening and living to what your heart truly desires. Living this way long term, may affect the essence of your inner being and, in turn, may not allow you to show up your very best for the world.

3.你的精神如何?從這個(gè)意義上說，靈性就是擁有一個(gè)終極目標(biāo)，并與真實(shí)的自我保持一致。你是否每天醒來都為你的生活感到興奮，并對(duì)你已經(jīng)擁有的一切心存感激?如果沒有，你可能就沒有用心去傾聽和生活。長(zhǎng)期這樣生活，可能會(huì)影響你內(nèi)在的本質(zhì)，反過來，也可能不允許你向世界展示你最好的一面。

Be kind to yourself. It can be difficult to put your health and wellbeing first when life is demanding between your career, family, friendships, relationships, and so on. If you can think of any ways to improve your wellbeing and love yourself more, start today! Take a baby step towards this. Perhaps try getting an hour more of sleep. Move your body in a way that feels good. Take time for yourself to be with your thoughts and without distractions and feel that peace.

善待自己。當(dāng)生活要求你在事業(yè)、家庭、友誼、人際關(guān)系等方面兼顧時(shí)，你很難把健康和幸福放在首位。如果你能想出任何方法來改善你的幸福和更愛自己，從今天開始!朝著這個(gè)目標(biāo)邁出一小步。也許試著多睡一個(gè)小時(shí)。以一種感覺良好的方式運(yùn)動(dòng)你的身體?；c(diǎn)時(shí)間讓你自己和你的思想在一起，不受干擾的，感受那種平靜。