如何培養(yǎng)自己的自律能力？

單詞書買了一本又一本，卻沒有一本能背完……說好了早睡早起，卻總是戒不掉熬夜賴床……總有人野心勃勃地立下目標(biāo)，卻半途而廢。生活中的成功來自于你始終如一的努力，而只有自律才能讓你做到這一點(diǎn)。要想成為一個(gè)自律的人，首先你需要明白下面5個(gè)道理。

1. 你的人生由你自己決定

No matter what your goals are in life, there is one great law that you need to obey in order to be successful: No one else is going to climb the ladder of success for you. No one else is responsible for your health, wealth, happiness, or success. From the day you leave your parents’ house and start to make your own choices, you are responsible for your life and the choices you make. You choose the job you work in, the person you live with, and how much you exercise every day. Only you can choose how you spend your time, and the decisions you make on a consistent basis will make or break your life.
無論你的人生目標(biāo)是什么，為了成功，你都必須遵守一條偉大的法則：沒有人會(huì)替你爬上成功的階梯。沒有人對(duì)你的健康、財(cái)富、幸?；虺晒ω?fù)責(zé)。從你離開父母家開始做出自己選擇的那一天起，你就要對(duì)自己的生活和選擇負(fù)責(zé)。你可以選擇你的工作，和你一起生活的人，以及你每天鍛煉的時(shí)間。只有你才能選擇如何利用自己的時(shí)間，你持續(xù)做出的選擇將決定你的生活。

If you want a better life, you need to make better decisions. You can blame other people for your lack of results or happiness all life long, but it doesn’t change anything. Only you can change your life by changing the choices you make. Take responsibility for everything in your life, even if you can’t directly influence it. Even if it’s not in your direct control, you can always choose how you respond.
如果你想要更好的生活，你需要做出更好的決定。你可以因?yàn)樽约阂粺o所成或不夠幸福而責(zé)怪別人，但這不會(huì)改變?nèi)魏问?。你只能通過改變自己的選擇來改變你的生活。對(duì)生活中的每件事負(fù)責(zé)，即使你不能直接影響它。即使它不在你的直接控制之下，你也可以選擇如何回應(yīng)。

2. 成功最大的敵人

According to motivational speaker Brian Tracy, the biggest enemy to success is the path of least resistance. If you choose what is fun and easy over what is necessary, you will never reach the levels of success and happiness you are capable of achieving in your life. That’s because every great victory requires great sacrifice. If success was easy, everybody would be successful. But because success in any area of your life requires hard work and sacrifices, most people will never reach their full potential.
勵(lì)志演講家布賴恩·特蕾西說，通往成功的最大敵人是阻力最小的道路。如果你選擇做有趣和容易的事，而不是必要的事，你將永遠(yuǎn)無法達(dá)到你在生活中能夠達(dá)到的成功和幸福的水平。那是因?yàn)槊恳淮蝹ゴ蟮膭倮夹枰薮蟮臓奚?。如果成功很容易，每個(gè)人都會(huì)成功。但是，因?yàn)樵谏畹娜魏晤I(lǐng)域取得成功都需要努力付出和犧牲，大多數(shù)人永遠(yuǎn)無法充分發(fā)揮出他們的潛力。

Whenever you decide not to do what you should be doing, you not only waste your opportunity to grow as a person, but you also lose confidence in yourself. You start to see yourself as lazy and unsuccessful, and that self-image will become a successful prophecy.
每當(dāng)你決定逃避你應(yīng)該做的事情時(shí)，你不僅浪費(fèi)了一個(gè)成長(zhǎng)的機(jī)會(huì)，而且也失去了對(duì)自己的信心。你開始認(rèn)為自己懶惰、失敗，然后你就會(huì)真的自暴自棄。

To achieve any goal you have, there are only three things you need: A clear vision for what it is you want, a plan to get there, and massive action consistently repeated over time! While the first two parts are the easy parts of the equation, most people struggle with the last part: Hard work.
要實(shí)現(xiàn)任何目標(biāo)，你只需要做三件事：清楚你想要的是什么，一個(gè)實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)的計(jì)劃，以及隨著時(shí)間的推移不斷重復(fù)的大量行動(dòng)！前兩部分很簡(jiǎn)單，大多數(shù)人都難以做到最后一部分：努力。

There is nothing that you can’t achieve with hard work, so it is necessary that you build the habit of choosing what is hard and necessary over what is fun and easy to do. Doing this is probably the surest way to succeed in life.
沒有什么是你通過努力無法實(shí)現(xiàn)的，因此你有必要養(yǎng)成習(xí)慣，選擇困難和必須做的事情，而不是選擇有趣和容易做的事情。這可能是通向成功最可靠的路。

3.做長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)的考慮

To quote Abraham Lincoln, “The best way to predict the future is to create it.” If you ever wonder where you will be 10 years from now, look at your current life. What actions are you taking to make your goals reality? How many books are you reading to grow as a person, and how many new things are you learning? Which people are you associating with? Are you putting in the effort necessary to achieve your goals today?
亞伯拉罕·林肯說過：“預(yù)測(cè)未來的最好方法就是創(chuàng)造未來。”如果你想知道10年后你會(huì)在哪里，看看你現(xiàn)在的生活。你正在采取什么行動(dòng)來實(shí)現(xiàn)你的目標(biāo)？為了個(gè)人成長(zhǎng)，你讀了多少本書，你在學(xué)習(xí)什么新東西？你和哪些人交往？你今天是否投入了必要的努力來實(shí)現(xiàn)自己的目標(biāo)？

People oftentimes think that their lives will suddenly change through some magical event in the future, but that is not the case. Your life changes only to the extent that you change. If you are not happy with your current circumstances, are you taking actions to change them? If not, you are just daydreaming. Nothing will ever change if you don’t change what you do daily. As Aristotle noted over 2,000 years ago, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.”
人們常認(rèn)為生活會(huì)因?yàn)槲磥淼囊恍┥衿媸录蝗桓淖?，但事?shí)并非如此。只有你做出改變，生活才會(huì)改變。如果你對(duì)目前的情況不滿意，你是否開始采取行動(dòng)改變現(xiàn)狀？如果沒有，你只是在做白日夢(mèng)。如果你不改變你每天做的事情，什么都不會(huì)變。正如亞里士多德在2000多年前指出的，“我們反復(fù)做的事決定我們成為什么樣的人。因此，卓越不是一種行為，而是一種習(xí)慣?！?/p>

A great way to actively create your future is to ask yourself: If I already achieved my goals, how would I act on a daily basis? What books would I read, how often would I work out, and how would I spend my time at the office?
積極創(chuàng)造未來的一個(gè)好方法是問問自己：如果我已經(jīng)實(shí)現(xiàn)了目標(biāo)，我每天會(huì)怎么過？我會(huì)讀什么書，多久鍛煉一次，我會(huì)如何利用辦公時(shí)間？

Once you answer these questions, you know what to do.
一旦你回答了這些問題，你就知道該怎么做了。

4.挫折是成功的一部分

In life, nothing worth having comes easy. You have to make sacrifices in the form of time, effort, pain, and hard work if you want to succeed. There will be many setbacks, and any time you get close to finally succeeding, there will be some more adversity testing how bad you really want it. Only after passing one more test, and then another, will you be able to succeed.
在生活中，任何值得擁有的東西都來之不易。如果你想成功，必須付出時(shí)間、精力、痛苦和努力。人生有很多挫折，每當(dāng)你接近最終成功的時(shí)候，都會(huì)有更多的逆境來測(cè)試你到底有多想成功。只有通過一次又一次的測(cè)試，你才能成功。

The great tragedy of life is that most people give up right before achieving success. They already made it to the five yard line, and all they need is one final push to make the touchdown and bring home the sweet victory. But right before they do that, there is one final obstacle standing in their way – one last failure that they need to overcome. Way too many people give up right then and there, without realizing how close they are.
人生最大的悲劇是大多數(shù)人在取得成功之前就放棄了。他們離成功只有一步之遙，他們所需要的只是最后一搏，就能觸地得分，并帶回甜蜜的勝利。但就在他們這么做之前，還有最后一個(gè)障礙擋在面前——這是他們需要克服的最后一個(gè)失敗。太多的人直接放棄了，卻沒有意識(shí)到他們離成功有多近。

If you just take one thing from this post, let it be this: Whenever you encounter failure and adversity, keep going! Success is supposed to be hard because that’s what makes it so special. If it was easy, anybody could do it.
如果你只能從這篇文章中學(xué)到一件事，那就是：無論何時(shí)遇到失敗和逆境，都要堅(jiān)持下去！成功是艱難的，這也是它如此特別的原因。如果容易的話，任何人都能成功。

The only way to grow as a person is by facing the biggest challenges in life and enduring long enough to succeed. No matter how long it takes or how hard it gets, always remember the words of motivational speaker Les Brown: “It’s not over until I win!”
成長(zhǎng)的唯一途徑是面對(duì)生活中最大的挑戰(zhàn)，并堅(jiān)持下去以取得成功。無論需要多長(zhǎng)時(shí)間，無論有多困難，都要記住勵(lì)志演說家萊斯·布朗的話：“我贏了才算結(jié)束！”

5.做好決不放棄的準(zhǔn)備

To make sure that you stay strong in the face of adversity, make sure to resolve in advance how you will respond once it occurs. You need to have a plan for what to do when all hell breaks loose, or else it is too easy to just give up. When writing your goals, commit to making them come true, no matter how hard it may be. Determine how you will respond to failures and setbacks so you can bounce back stronger and better than ever before.
為了在逆境面前保持堅(jiān)強(qiáng)，一定要事先確定一旦困難出現(xiàn)你將如何應(yīng)對(duì)。你需要有一個(gè)計(jì)劃，當(dāng)最壞的情況出現(xiàn)時(shí)你該怎么做，否則就很容易放棄。定下目標(biāo)時(shí)無論有多困難，要保證將其實(shí)現(xiàn)。確定你將如何應(yīng)對(duì)失敗和挫折，這樣你才能比以往任何時(shí)候都更堅(jiān)強(qiáng)、更好地站起來。

If you make this commitment and never break it, you will succeed at anything you set your mind to. Maybe not immediately, but definitely.
如果你許下這個(gè)承諾，并且堅(jiān)持下去，你下定決心做的所有事情都能成功。也許不會(huì)馬上成功，但肯定會(huì)。

來源：Lifehack

編輯：董靜