Realize Love through Internet 認(rèn)識(shí)網(wǎng)絡(luò)上的愛(ài)情
1 什么是真實(shí)的?什么是虛擬的?
The conventional bar scene of the 70s and 80s is no longer the accepted place to meet prospective dates. Lately, more and more singles are turning to the Internet for better dating opportunities. Talk show hype over cyberspace love encounters and the recent movie You've Got Mail have popularized the romantic potential of the Internet. The process of an online relationship, however, is very different from real time dating processes. The online environment is, by its very nature, restrictive. For new Internet users, the online culture shock can be daunting.
Learning to communicate on the Internet is the first obstacle for newbies. Emoticons such as :-), LOL, and <G> are used liberally to express emotion, and can be like learning a foreign language. The rules are different online as well. There are protocols to follow in chat rooms; for example, to avoid accidentally offending others, sarcasm must be spelled out. Devoid of body language and intonation, the typed word is the only way to get the message across. Most novice Internet chat users first begin as "lurkers", content to quietly watch others interact. This way, the Internet culture is safely and quietly experienced before a user feels comfortable interacting within it.
Another noticeable inconvenience, especially for women, is the seemingly endless number of chatters who want casual "cyber sex". This affront discourages many new chat users from returning, and also perpetuates the image of the Internet being "dirty". These cyber sex hound-offenders are attracted to the anonymity of the Internet. Where else can they act so rudely without getting caught?
However, all novice chat users are mesmerized to some degree by the extreme anonymity and fantasy potential the Internet provides. Often, the user eventually realizes the sensitivity needed to interact with others-a transition is made from relating to the computer to relating to other people online. Often, this transition is coupled with an event that brings about this reality-such as "falling in love" with a fantasy and dealing with the reality that follows, meeting a chat partner face to face, or realizing that careless actions have hurt another person.
2 戀愛(ài)五部曲的表達(dá)方式
Stage one: attraction(互相吸引). In stage one of dating; we experience our initial attraction to a potential partner. The challenge in this first stage is to make sure you get the opportunity to express that attraction and get to know a potential partner.
Stage two: uncertainty(不確定性). In stage two, we experience a shift from feeling attraction to feeling uncertain that our partner is right for us. The challenge in this stage is to recognize this uncertainty as normal and not be swayed by it.
Stage three: exclusivity(占有性,排他性). In stage three we feel a desire to date a person exclusively. We want the opportunity to give and receive love in a special relationship without competition.
Stage four: intimacy(親密階段). In stage four we begin to experience real intimacy. We feel relaxed to let down our guard and share ourselves more deeply than before.
Stage five: engagement(婚約). In stage five, with the certainty that we are with the person we want to marry, we become engaged. In this stage we have the opportunity to celebrate our love.
網(wǎng)絡(luò)讓陌生的人相識(shí),就算天各一方,也因?yàn)榫W(wǎng)絡(luò)的神奇而變得沒(méi)有距離感,而我們的世界也因?yàn)橛辛司W(wǎng)絡(luò)而變得更精彩生動(dòng)。幾乎所有上網(wǎng)的人都會(huì)慨嘆著網(wǎng)絡(luò)的虛幻縹緲,幾乎所有的人都曾抗拒網(wǎng)戀的魅惑,但多數(shù)的人卻又經(jīng)不起這樣的誘惑,被網(wǎng)絡(luò)的神秘所吸引,而人的情感也會(huì)隨著對(duì)它的依戀而牽動(dòng)。
Some say the cyber love is as pretty as the fascinating dream in which we are unwilling to wake up; some say cyber love is so virtual that it is impossible to win the lover's heart...
有人說(shuō):網(wǎng)戀很美,美得如同絢麗多彩的夢(mèng)讓人不忍醒來(lái);也有人說(shuō):網(wǎng)戀太虛,虛得讓你永遠(yuǎn)也抓不住網(wǎng)線那端愛(ài)人的心......
No matter young, old, single, married, talented or reckless, everyone may get involved in the cyber love. We can obtain the love which is difficult to find by merely a mouth, without investment of money or bearing too much burden or responsibility, you may also please yourself and others.
無(wú)論是年輕的、年老的、未婚的、已婚的、才華橫溢的、魯莽愚笨的等等,任何人都可以網(wǎng)戀,大家單憑一張嘴,就可以得到那朵世間難尋的愛(ài)情小花,一不用金錢(qián)投資,二不會(huì)有太多的拖累與責(zé)任,三還能愉人愉己......
What I want to say is why not? No matter in reality or on the Internet, they're actually the same. You may receive the true feelings only if you have given out your true heart.
我想說(shuō),為什么不呢?不管是在現(xiàn)實(shí)生活中還是在網(wǎng)上,其實(shí)都是一樣的,只有你付出真心才有可能得到真情。
Nowadays, we are living in a network age; most of us are busy working all day. But we contact with network almost any time, therefore, if you will come across the one you want to pay your true heart one day, and then why not deduce a romantic cyber love?
現(xiàn)如今是網(wǎng)絡(luò)時(shí)代,我們大多忙于工作,但幾乎無(wú)時(shí)無(wú)刻不與網(wǎng)絡(luò)打交道。因此,如果緣分來(lái)了,上演一場(chǎng)順?biāo)浦鄣木W(wǎng)戀也不失為一件浪漫的事。
On the contrary, one of my classmate got true love through chatting on QQ, furthermore they have married to each other and now they are very affectionate. From this example, it is possible to get true love through cyber love.
我還有一位同學(xué)就是經(jīng)過(guò)網(wǎng)戀得到了真愛(ài),而且還結(jié)了婚,現(xiàn)在兩人感情很好。從這個(gè)例子來(lái)看,認(rèn)真對(duì)待網(wǎng)戀也有修成正果的可能。
In a word, true love may be found everywhere as long as Cupid has shot an arrow for you!
因此,真愛(ài)不一定會(huì)在什么地方遇到,就看月老給你把線牽到哪兒了。
The answer is different for separate person.
我想對(duì)不同的人來(lái)講,這個(gè)問(wèn)題的答案是不一樣的。
In my opinion, everyone has the right to get involved in the cyber love, because it can please yourself and others after all. But we must keep an eye on the other side of the network to prevent cheating. Besides, we all shall enhance our moral. If you have married, you had better not fool others.
從我的觀點(diǎn)來(lái)看,任何人都可以網(wǎng)戀,因?yàn)楫吘顾軍嗜藠始?。但是要加?qiáng)警惕,防止受騙。另外,要加強(qiáng)自身道德修養(yǎng),如果是已婚人士,還是不要把對(duì)方搞得暈頭轉(zhuǎn)向?yàn)楹谩?br />
Actually, the Internet is a kind of virtual world, we can do most of things through Internet. For instance, shopping, chat, game, work, and so on, many field used by internet. So, fall in love by the Internet is very normal.
因特網(wǎng)實(shí)際是一個(gè)虛擬的世界,我們可以通過(guò)它做很多事情,比如,購(gòu)物、聊天、游戲、工作等等,很多領(lǐng)域都要用到它,所以網(wǎng)上戀愛(ài)是很平常的。
I think the cyber love is very good for us, yes, I quite agree with that. First of all, if you are very tired for love in real world, you can try the cyber love. Yes, as we know, the love in real world that we need always consider lots of things, and the love is very complex. So, let people feel so tired. But for the cyber love, we always feel easy to find the feeling or something like that which what we want. So most people prefer to choosing the cyber love when they are tired in the real world.
我覺(jué)得網(wǎng)戀不錯(cuò),我很贊同。因?yàn)椋绻覀冊(cè)诂F(xiàn)實(shí)生活中愛(ài)得很累,那我們可以嘗試網(wǎng)戀。我們都知道,現(xiàn)實(shí)中的戀愛(ài)要考慮很多事情,而且很復(fù)雜,所以才讓人們感到很累。但是,對(duì)于網(wǎng)戀,我們總是可以很輕松地找到我們想要的那種感覺(jué)或類(lèi)似感覺(jué)的那種東西。
As a matter of fact, the Internet is virtual, so, that exist some distance between us. So remember don't take serious of that!
事實(shí)上,因特網(wǎng)是虛擬的,所以,因特網(wǎng)和我們之間還是有一定的距離。所以,記住不要把網(wǎng)戀當(dāng)真。
Recall my college ages, a classmate of mine ever devoted all his energies to the cyber love. Even to must fly to Shanghai to see his love from Beijing. It turned out that his love was never there. My classmate couldn't connect with his love from then on. He became very lost later. So his taking the cyber love for serious gave him only being deceived.
記得當(dāng)年我的大學(xué)時(shí)代,有一個(gè)同學(xué)曾經(jīng)深陷于網(wǎng)戀不能自拔,發(fā)展到最后一定要從北京到上海去見(jiàn)網(wǎng)友,結(jié)果白跑了一趟,沒(méi)見(jiàn)著。我的這位同學(xué)和他的網(wǎng)友也從此失去了聯(lián)系,人也變得很消沉,經(jīng)過(guò)好長(zhǎng)一段時(shí)間才恢復(fù)正常??梢?jiàn),認(rèn)真的結(jié)果是被欺騙。
One of my cousins met her Mr. Right on the Internet at her age of 24, the man is from Nanjing, but she was in Qingdao. They fell in love gradually by communicating online. We have to say they are too far from each other, but confronting their earnest love, the distance between them is nothing. Along with all the relatives' blessings, they held their wedding last year and now living a very happy life.
我一個(gè)堂姐在她24歲的時(shí)候,在網(wǎng)上偶遇她現(xiàn)在的丈夫。一開(kāi)始他們就有很多共同語(yǔ)言,很快墜入愛(ài)河。她丈夫是南京人,而她是青島的,離得的確有點(diǎn)遠(yuǎn),但這個(gè)距離在他們真摯的愛(ài)情面前又算得了什么呢?帶著所有親友的祝福,他們?cè)谌ツ昱e行了婚禮,現(xiàn)在也生活得很幸福。
Yes, the cyber love can easy let people to feel without any pressure, let them always feel relaxed. But this is virtual world, we can't take that for serious, because we are in the real world, we should face and admit it. So, you can take the cyber to be a part of your life, but don't take serious.
是的,網(wǎng)戀容易讓人們沒(méi)有壓力,讓人們感覺(jué)很輕松,但這只是虛擬的世界,我們不能當(dāng)真的,因?yàn)槲覀兩钤诂F(xiàn)實(shí)世界里,我們要面對(duì)現(xiàn)實(shí)和接受現(xiàn)實(shí)。所以你可以把網(wǎng)戀當(dāng)成你生活的一部分,但不能認(rèn)真。
Anne: Where did you meet your girlfriend Susan?
安妮:你在哪里遇見(jiàn)你的女朋友蘇珊的?
Joe: I met him through a computer bulletin board.
喬:我是在網(wǎng)站的公告欄上遇見(jiàn)她的。
Anne: Oh, really, what bulletin board?
安妮:是嗎?什么樣的網(wǎng)站公告欄?
Joe: It was one I used at the local Internet Café called the E-life.
喬:我在一家叫做E-life的網(wǎng)吧上的網(wǎng)。
Anne: I've heard about that, but I've never tried it.
安妮:我聽(tīng)說(shuō)過(guò)網(wǎng)上聊天,但是我從來(lái)沒(méi)有試過(guò)。
Joe: You ought to. One dollar buys you 15 minutes of computer time. A "chat session" links you with other guys on the network.
喬:你應(yīng)該試試。一美元十五分鐘電腦時(shí)間。網(wǎng)站上的聊天室會(huì)把你和其他人通過(guò)網(wǎng)絡(luò)聯(lián)系起來(lái)的。
Anne: I have no desire to talk on a network with a bunch of strangers.
安妮:我可沒(méi)有欲望在網(wǎng)上和一群陌生人瞎聊。
Joe: That's the whole point. All your inhibitions disappear because you can't see the other person. This network allows you to talk to people whom you normally wouldn't talk to. I really hope you can find your the other half just like me.
喬:要的就是這樣。所有的顧慮都消失了,因?yàn)榭床灰?jiàn)其他人。這個(gè)網(wǎng)絡(luò)讓你和一些人聊天,他們是你平時(shí)不可能遇上的。我只是希望你能像我那樣找到你的另一半。
Anne: But I just want a private conversation with one other person.
安娜:但我只是想和人有個(gè)單獨(dú)地聊天。
Joe: You can do that. A private session lets you talk alone. This online-chat program lets you talk about anything with everyone, without prejudice because you can't see them.
喬:你也能這樣的。私人聊天可以讓你單獨(dú)聊天的。這個(gè)在線聊天程序能讓你與想聊的人聊天,因?yàn)槟憧床坏綄?duì)方,所以也沒(méi)什么偏見(jiàn)。
Anne: Well, maybe I'll tag along and watch how you talk.
安妮:好吧,也許我可以跟你去,然后看你怎樣說(shuō)話的。
Joe: That's fine with me. But we'll have to get there early. After 8 p.m., there's always a long waiting line.
喬:我是沒(méi)問(wèn)題的。但是我們得早點(diǎn)去那里。八點(diǎn)以后,可是有很多人在排隊(duì)。
Anne: Is it that popular?
安妮:有那么火熱嗎?
Joe: Welcome to the 21st century!
喬:歡迎來(lái)到21世紀(jì)。
Anne: Okay, okay. We're there tonight.
安妮:好吧,好吧,我們今晚就去。