給遲到星人的幾點建議

Never explain why you're late. If you don't allow yourself to make excuses, you'll stop letting yourself off the hook. And you'll realize how often you've been handing out reasons as if everyone didn't already know them. There's a classic headline, "Woman Constantly Treating Herself for Once." Don't be "Person Constantly Delayed for This One Good Reason." Instead of focusing on causes, apologize for the effect of your lateness. That's the decent thing to do.

永遠(yuǎn)不要解釋自己為什么遲到。如果你不允許自己找借口，遲到的困境也就迎刃而解了。你也會發(fā)現(xiàn)自己以往找的那些借口都是別人可以一眼識破的。有一個非常經(jīng)典的標(biāo)題叫做“女人總是會為自己破例。”不要成為那種“總是因為同一個原因而遲到的人。”與其解釋自己遲到的原因，倒不如為自己遲到一事產(chǎn)生的影響而道歉。這才是你應(yīng)該做的。

Delete something from your schedule. One per day, or one per week, depending on how dire your lateness is. Don't fill that time with anything else. When you have that free time, use it to get ready for the next appointment.

刪除一些行程內(nèi)容。每天刪除一個或每周刪除一個，具體取決于您的遲到程度。那段時間就不要再做其他事了。好好利用這一空余時間，為下一項行程做好準(zhǔn)備。

Calculate how much your lateness costs you. If you're paid hourly, find out how much less you make when you clock in late. If you take more expensive modes of transportation, calculate the cost difference. See how much you spend each year on lateness.

計算遲到的成本。如果你是按小時結(jié)算工資，不如計算一下遲到的成本。如果因為遲到，你選擇了價格更高的出行方式，也請計算出與平時出行的成本差。最后計算出遲到導(dǎo)致的年度開支。

Visualize being late to meet someone. Feel the shame and the panic. Imagine the worst-case reaction they could have, whether that's frustration or a "not mad just disappointed" that makes you feel like a real dick. Now visualize being early. Think about the peace of mind as you wait for the other person. Think about standing from your seat and warmly greeting them, grandly forgiving their own lateness.

想象一下遲到見某人的畫面。感受那種羞愧和不安吧。想象一下他們可能做出的最糟糕的舉動，不管是沮喪還是“我不生氣，我只是失望”，這都會讓你覺得自己是個混蛋。現(xiàn)在，想象一下早到的情形。如果是你在等人，那種不急不躁的心情是不是很好?想想你站在座位上熱情問候他們，大度地原諒他們遲到的情景，心境是不是完全不一樣?

Think about your most chronically late friend or colleague. Gin up all the frustration you've ever felt with them, all the disdain. Wow, kind of harsh on your friend, but now think about other people feeling that way toward you. Avoid it.

想一想你那位經(jīng)常遲到的朋友或同事。你是不是覺得失望、看不起他/她。哇，雖然這對你的朋友可能有點苛刻，但換個角度想一想，其他人也是這么看待你的。所以還是盡量避免遲到吧!

Plan exactly what you'll do on your phone while you wait for everyone else to show up. That's free time, when you're allowed to do anything, like play a mobile game or watch YouTube with zero guilt. Get excited, not for the thing you're heading to, but for those five minutes alone before it starts.

等人的時候，在手機上為接下來的行程做出計劃。在這個時候，你可以做任何事情而且一點兒都不會感到愧疚，比如玩游戲或看視頻。是不是很興奮?興奮的不是即將要做的事，而是在做事情前，可以享受5分鐘的獨處時光。