停止抱怨！人生開(kāi)啟新的一頁(yè)（雙語(yǔ)）

From August 1st to August 15th I fasted from complaining. Yes, that's right. No more "I'm tired" grumbles at 3 p.m. at the office. No more yelling at cars that cut me off on 440. No more snapping at people for not listening. The highlight of the two week period? I validated that I'm not a terrible, negative person, AND optimistic people tend to live longer according to some studies. And I'm optimistic enough to believe these studies are the correct studies.

從8月1日那天起直到8月15日，我停止了對(duì)生活一切的抱怨。是的，沒(méi)錯(cuò)。下午三點(diǎn)的辦公室，再也不會(huì)聽(tīng)見(jiàn)我哀嘆著：“我好累”。在440地區(qū)被搶了車(chē)道，我不會(huì)再大喊大叫。有人無(wú)視我的話(huà)，我也不會(huì)勃然大怒。這兩周來(lái)最重要的發(fā)現(xiàn)是什么?我證明了自己不是個(gè)糟糕的、充滿(mǎn)負(fù)能量的人。有研究表明樂(lè)觀(guān)的人一般更長(zhǎng)壽，而且我足夠樂(lè)觀(guān)，相信這些研究是正確的。

So here you go: The top five things that occurred when I stopped complaining, both the good and the bad.

那么接下來(lái)，我想談?wù)勛约和Ｖ贡г股钪蟮奈鍌€(gè)變化，其中有正面的，也有負(fù)面的。

1. I realized that I don't sleep enough. The biggest complaint that I had to bite my tongue on?

1、我意識(shí)到自己睡眠不足，這是最不該掛在嘴邊的抱怨嗎?

"I'm tired." Or a variation of "I'm exhausted." American culture leaves us seeking to thrive off of no sleep and Starbucks. And is it really worth it to feel that negativity quite literally every day? I found myself almost getting annoyed with myself for being so tired. On the same note, I annoyed myself when I felt like uttering the complaint, "I'm starving." No, Alexii. You don't actually know what it really means to be hungry (so maybe you aren't THAT tired either).

“我好累”，或者，“我要累死了”。美國(guó)文化迫使我們?cè)诓蛔愕乃吆鸵槐Х戎卸热铡Ｃ刻焐钤谶@樣的負(fù)面環(huán)境中真的值得嗎?連我自己都很煩惱，為什么要把自己折騰得這么累。同樣，當(dāng)我想要喊出“我要餓死了”的時(shí)候，也十分煩惱。不，Alexii，你并不知道什么叫真正的餓吧(所以也許你也并沒(méi)有自己說(shuō)得這么累)。

2. I argued less.

2、我吵架的頻率變少了。

I'm not exactly one to pick a fight, but I noticed how many stupid arguments I can have in a week. If my fiancé Alex said something I disagreed with, I couldn't immediately react. This helped me not snap -- and more importantly it made me think before anything came out of my mouth. I'm pretty sure we've been told since kindergarten, "Think before you speak" but I noted how often I neglect this simplest piece of advice.

我不是那種喜歡挑事的人，但我還是會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)一周里自己有過(guò)多少次愚蠢的爭(zhēng)吵。如果我的未婚夫艾利克斯說(shuō)了一些我反對(duì)的話(huà)，我不會(huì)馬上回應(yīng)他。這樣我就不會(huì)大聲吼他，更重要的是，這樣我就有時(shí)間在說(shuō)話(huà)前多思考思考了。我確信從幼兒園開(kāi)始，大人們就告訴我們“三思而后言”，但我覺(jué)得我還是很容易忽視這個(gè)最簡(jiǎn)單的建議。

3. Angst builds up.

3、焦慮感增加了

Here's the deal: this experience was overall a positive experience for me. It truly made me reflect on my reactions to situations. That being said, sometimes people just need to vent. There was one day that I came home completely exhausted and slightly emotionally distraught. Instead of engaging in conversation with my friend that was at my house or my fiancé, I straight up shut down. It's almost as if I didn't know how to be positive in that moment. It was strange. And I went to bed early that night. But on a lighter note...

是這樣的：這種體驗(yàn)對(duì)我來(lái)說(shuō)是有好處的，它真的使我反省自己在特定處境下的行為。話(huà)雖如此，有時(shí)人們只是需要釋放情緒而已。記得有一天我回到家，身心俱疲，心煩意亂。我沒(méi)有找當(dāng)時(shí)在我家中的朋友或是未婚夫聊天，而是直接陷入沉默。仿佛那時(shí)我根本不知道怎樣讓自己樂(lè)觀(guān)起來(lái)，太奇怪了。那晚我很早就睡了，但反而感覺(jué)輕松了很多……

4. Negativity is a state of mind.

4、負(fù)能量是一種心境

When you stop yourself from uttering negative speech, you begin to notice how negative your thought process tends to be. Sure I didn't verbally complain when I was tired or annoyed -- but I still continued thinking them. And as much as negative speech can wear you down, negative thoughts are just as dangerous.

當(dāng)你不再說(shuō)出那些消極的話(huà)語(yǔ)，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)自己還是會(huì)有那些消極的想法。誠(chéng)然，我言語(yǔ)上沒(méi)有抱怨疲勞或是煩躁，但我依然有著這樣的想法。和消極的話(huà)語(yǔ)一樣，消極的想法一樣會(huì)消磨你的意志。

5. I prayed more.

5、我嘗試更多的祈禱

If I was forced to turn the negative into the positive, I turned to God. Perhaps its from prior experience--but for whatever reason, it happened. And my spirit felt nourished.

如果我一定要把負(fù)能量轉(zhuǎn)為正能量，我會(huì)向上帝求助。也許是從前的經(jīng)驗(yàn)吧，不管怎樣，我感受到了精神上的洗禮。

And at the end of the day? Shit happens. After my fast from complaining, I had what may have been one of the worst days I had experienced. Imagine tough conversations that were draining but necessary (and even worse after the conversation, nothing was resolved) compiled with other people's negativity. Then add a few "first world" problems as I like to call them -- a poor night's sleep, a shattered phone, and a stalling car. What did I do? I complained. Where did it get me? Not too far. I noted a day later that things really aren't that bad. People have good days and people have bad days -- but the truth is? It's all about your outlook.

最后怎樣了呢?糟糕的事情還是發(fā)生了，在我拒絕抱怨之后，我經(jīng)歷了非常糟的一天。想象一下：艱難的談話(huà)使你心力交瘁(更可惡的是談完之后什么都沒(méi)有解決)，你不得不承受著別人的負(fù)能量。接著還有那些我稱(chēng)之為“第一世界”的麻煩困擾著你——睡眠不足，手機(jī)被摔壞，車(chē)子拋錨。我是怎么應(yīng)對(duì)的?我抱怨了。持續(xù)了多久呢?沒(méi)有多久，因?yàn)楹髞?lái)我明白其實(shí)事情也沒(méi)有想象的那樣不堪。世事無(wú)常嘛，關(guān)鍵在于你怎樣看待這個(gè)世界。