A Faraway Friend is someone you grew up with or went to school with or lived in the same town as until one of you moved away. Without a Faraway Friend, you would never get any mail addressed in handwriting. A Faraway Friend calls late at night, invites you to her wedding, always says she is coming to visit but rarely shows up. An actual visit from a Faraway Friend is a cause for celebration and binges of all kinds. Cigarettes, Chips Ahoy, bottles of tequila.the Former Friend. A sad thing. At best a wistful memory, at worst a dangerous enemy who is in possession of many of your deepest secrets. But what was it that drove you apart? A misunderstanding, a betrayed confidence, an unrepaid loan, an ill-conceived flirtation. A poor choice of spouse can do in a friendship just like that. Going into business together can be a serious mistake. Time, money, distance, cult religions: all noted friendship killers.
A New Friend is a tonic unlike any other. Say you meet her at a party. In your bowling league. At a Japanese conversation class, perhaps.
Wherever, whenever, there's that spark of recognition. The first time you talk, you can't believe how much you have in common. Suddenly, your life story is interesting again, your insights fresh, your opinion valued. Your various shortcomings are as yet completely invisible.
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遠(yuǎn)方的朋友和你一起長(zhǎng)大或上同一所學(xué)校,直到其中一位搬走。沒(méi)有遠(yuǎn)方的朋友,你可能永遠(yuǎn)也收不到一封手寫(xiě)的信件。遠(yuǎn)方的朋友半夜來(lái)訪、邀請(qǐng)你參加她的婚禮,總是說(shuō)要來(lái)看你,但又很少露面。遠(yuǎn)方的朋友真的來(lái)看你時(shí),那就要慶祝一下,自然要狂歡作樂(lè)一番,少不了香煙、土豆片、歡呼聲和一瓶瓶的龍舌蘭酒。
啊,過(guò)去的朋友,一件令人傷懷的事。最好的能留給你一個(gè)情意綿綿的回憶;最糟糕的擁有你的許多機(jī)密從而成為你危險(xiǎn)的敵人。但到底是什么使你們分手的?誤解、泄密、未償還的貸款或惡意的調(diào)情。對(duì)配偶選擇不當(dāng)也會(huì)帶來(lái)同樣的后果。合伙經(jīng)商可能是一個(gè)嚴(yán)重的錯(cuò)誤。時(shí)間、金錢(qián)、距離、邪教都是有名的友誼殺手。
新朋友就像一種與眾不同的補(bǔ)品。比如說(shuō)你在一個(gè)晚會(huì)上或保齡球俱樂(lè)部聯(lián)合會(huì)上遇見(jiàn)了她,也許在一個(gè)日本會(huì)話課上。隨時(shí)隨地,都會(huì)產(chǎn)生撞擊的火花。剎那間,你的人生經(jīng)歷再次生動(dòng)起來(lái),你的見(jiàn)解新穎獨(dú)到,你的觀點(diǎn)得到器重,而你的各種缺點(diǎn)卻全然不見(jiàn)了。