Quora精選：面對(duì)同齡的成功人士，如何放下內(nèi)心的嫉妒？

Q: How can you overcome your envy of people who are your age but are far more successful than you?

問(wèn)：面對(duì)同齡的成功人士，如何放下內(nèi)心的嫉妒？

Answered by Matthew Manning

Matthew Manning的回復(fù)：

Emphatically stop giving a shit.

千萬(wàn)別放在心上。

1.You have ZERO idea what their personal lives are actually like, or if their outward appearance of success is total bullshit.

1.你根本不知道他們的私人生活實(shí)際上是什么樣的，或者他們是不是只是表面上光鮮。

2.Stop focusing outward, focus inward. A preoccupation with the success of others is taking time away from tending your own internal garden.

2.不要只關(guān)注外表，要關(guān)注內(nèi)在。執(zhí)著于他人的成功是在浪費(fèi)建立自己內(nèi)心世界的時(shí)間。

3.Believing in common measures of success (money, position, family) is believing in a ready-made lunch box of meaning that society is opening up and shoving down your throat. WHO CARES. Figure out what success is for yourself and then just focus on pursuing that.

3.大眾所信奉的成功標(biāo)準(zhǔn)（金錢、地位、美滿的家庭），就像是一盒現(xiàn)成的便當(dāng)，社會(huì)打開(kāi)了它，然后強(qiáng)迫你吞下去。誰(shuí)在乎呢！弄清楚對(duì)你自己來(lái)說(shuō)什么叫成功，然后專注地去追求它。

4.You are in your 20s, so be prepared to witness some epic personal collapses of those whom you are currently envious of.

4.你才20來(lái)歲，你現(xiàn)在嫉妒的人，以后也可能會(huì)遭遇巨大的失敗，走著瞧好了。

5.You can't do anything besides what you can do. If you're giving it your all and staying focused on your values, then your life is progressing exactly as it should be. Did you hear that? EXACTLY AS IT SHOULD BE.

5.你做不到的事強(qiáng)求不來(lái)。如果你能全身心投入到你力所能及的事情里，并始終關(guān)注自己的價(jià)值，你的生活自會(huì)向它應(yīng)走的方向前行。聽(tīng)到?jīng)]？按照它應(yīng)走的方向！

6.When you have an episode of crippling self-doubt, picture each doubt as a single sheet of paper. Then crunch all of them together and throw them into the toilet of your mind. Now angrily kick-flush that toilet with your foot.

6.當(dāng)你深深地懷疑自己時(shí)，把你的懷疑想象成一張張紙，然后絞碎它們并扔到你精神世界的馬桶中。現(xiàn)在用腳奮力一踩，把它們?nèi)繘_走。

7.Actively work to express gratitude for what you do have every morning. The happiest people I know are full of gratitude, and they are profoundly in touch with their innate talents.

7.每天早上都要積極地工作來(lái)感激你所擁有的一切。我所認(rèn)識(shí)的最快樂(lè)的人，內(nèi)心都充滿了感激之情，他們都與自己的天賦深切相通。

8.Before you read number nine, think of at least one person who thinks you're awesome. Try to think of yourself as that person does.

8.在讀第9條之前，想想看在誰(shuí)眼里你是一個(gè)很棒的人。試著用那個(gè)人的角度看待自己。

9.Isn't the universe so vast, so deep, so incredibly amazing? Who could possibly worry about a 3200 dollar difference in salary when there are stars supernova-ing right this very minute?

9.宇宙是如此廣闊、如此深邃、如此璀璨驚人。就在此時(shí)此刻都有超新星在爆發(fā)，為什么還要去為3200刀的薪水差異煩惱呢？

10.It's a marathon, not a sprint. Near the finish line, you'll realize you've only been racing against yourself.

10.這是一場(chǎng)馬拉松，不是短跑比賽。當(dāng)快到達(dá)終點(diǎn)的時(shí)候，你就會(huì)意識(shí)到你只是和自己在賽跑而已。