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How can I tell if someone is just pretending to be my friend?我如何知道有人在假裝跟我做朋友？

 

獲得18k 好評的回答@Ameya Godbole：

Say your Facebook 'friends' list count is 500. If you let your own instinct to do some work, it'll help you strike off 450 of them in no time. I hope some of the following signs will help you identify the pretentious ones from the remaining lot-假如你Facebook上有500個好友，如果你跟著直覺走，立刻能排除掉450個人。我希望下面的預(yù)兆中有幾個能幫你從剩下的一大批人中找出不是真朋友的人。

 

1. Ask for help.1.尋求幫助。Text them but don't tell them what kind of help you need. Just ask them to meet you. When you do that, most of the pretentious ones will assume that you need money. Or something that they don't want to lend. They'll try to avoid the meeting as much as possible. This is when you'll realise how creative people are at making excuses.給他們發(fā)短信，但不告訴他們你需要什么幫助，只讓他們跟你見面。這樣做大多數(shù)假朋友都會以為你要借錢，或者找他們幫什么他們不想幫的忙，他們會盡量避免見面，這時你會發(fā)現(xiàn)人們在找借口時多有創(chuàng)造力了。

2. Notice how often they break their promises.2.注意一下他們是否頻繁違背承諾。You see, it’s not necessary that a person who wants your companionship may also want your friendship. If he/she keeps canceling plans over and over, maybe they just wanted your company but found something else to fill that void.你懂的，一個人需要你陪也不一定是想跟你做朋友。如果他/她總是放你鴿子，可能他們只是想找你陪，但又找到別人填補空虛了。

3. Do they make you look bad in front of others?3.他們會讓你在別人面前出丑嗎？It goes without saying that the friendship is worthless if all the fun in it is at the expense of 'your' ego and self esteem.如果友誼中所有的樂趣都是以你的自信和自尊為代價的話，那不用說這份友誼已經(jīng)沒有價值了。

4. Jealousy - the two faced ones.4.嫉妒——兩面派。Your pretentious friends will always try to undermine you. Your accomplishments make them insecure.假朋友總會在背后詆毀你，你的成就使他們不自信。

5. Where they are when you're down.5.你失落時他們在哪兒。Your true friends will stick by your side even when you have failed miserably at something. If they're making fun of your failure or using the occasion do boast their own success, strike them off the list.甚至在你失意時真正的朋友都會堅持陪在你身邊，如果有人嘲笑你的失敗或利用這個機會來吹噓自己的成功，趕快把他們踢出你的朋友圈。

6. Conveniently friendly?6.自私的友好？You can easily spot the difference in your pretentious friend's friendliness. It'll dramatically increase whenever they want you to do something for them, and amazingly diminish whenever they don't want you to do something for them. They treat friendship as a convenience.你能很容易地發(fā)現(xiàn)假朋友的另類友好，他們想找你幫忙時就格外熱情，不想找你幫忙時就特別冷淡。他們的友誼只是為了自己方便。

 

（翻譯：菲菲）

(來源:滬江)