他其實(shí)沒那么喜歡你 第21期:遇到擁有完美借口的男人
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Sadly, I can't be with you ladies all the time, fending off all the bad excuses, and thereby, bad men that come your way.
可悲的是，女士們，我不能永遠(yuǎn)在你們身邊避開所有不好的借口，因此壞男人來(lái)到你的身邊。
But what I can do is paint you a picture of what you'll never see when you're with a guy who's really into you: You'll never see you staring maniacally at your phone, willing it to ring.
但我所能做的就是為你畫一幅當(dāng)你和一個(gè)真愛你的男人在一起時(shí)不會(huì)看到的圖案：你永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)看到你瘋狂地盯著你的手機(jī)，希望它響起來(lái)。
You'll never see you ruining an evening with friends because you're calling for your messages everyfifteen seconds.
你永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)看到你破壞了和朋友一起度過(guò)的一個(gè)晚上，因?yàn)槟愕男畔⒚渴迕胍粭l。
You'll never see you hating yourself for calling him when you know you shouldn't have.
你永遠(yuǎn)也不會(huì)看到自己明知道不應(yīng)該給他打電話卻打了，因而自我厭惡。
What you will see is you being treated so well that no phone antics will be necessary. You'll be toobusy being adored.
你會(huì)看到你被善待著以至于沒有打電話的必要。你會(huì)忙著被寵愛。
Here's Why This One is Hard, by Liz
這就是為什么這件事很難辦到的原因，莉茲
We're smart. We get it. We know guys should be attentive and considerate and thoughtful.
我們知道自己很聰明。我們知道男人應(yīng)該細(xì)心體貼，體貼周到。
I mean, for God's sake, we're not idiots.
我的意思是說(shuō)，天了嚕，我們并不傻。
We know that they should call us when they say they're going to and let us know that they'rethinking about us. Duh.
我們知道當(dāng)他們說(shuō)要讓我們知道他們?cè)谙胛覀兊臅r(shí)候他們應(yīng)該打電話給我們。咄。
But somehow, just when I think I have that lesson perfectly drummed into that thick skull of mine, I meet the one guy who really does have the perfect excuse for being a flake.
但是不知何故，當(dāng)我認(rèn)為我已經(jīng)把這個(gè)經(jīng)驗(yàn)完全灌輸進(jìn)我的厚腦殼里時(shí)，我遇到一個(gè)真的有著完美借口的反復(fù)無(wú)常的家伙。
His family really is falling apart and he's the one that has to take care of them all.
他的家庭四分五裂，他是必須照顧好所有的家人。
He really is moving and didn't know how difficult it was going to be.
他真的在搬家，并且不知道會(huì)有多困難。
He really does have that big case at work and can't be around for a while, but he really does—really,really—like me.
他在工作上真的有大項(xiàng)目要做并且得離開一陣子，但他真的真的很喜歡我。
And I like him so damn much that I'm willing to be patient and cut him some slack and see how itall turns out.
我太喜歡他了，我很愿意耐心等待他，放他一馬，看看事情會(huì)變成怎樣。
I know intellectually what I'm supposed to be getting from a relationship.
我理智上知道我應(yīng)該從戀愛關(guān)系中得到什么。
I'm writing a damn book about it.
我正在為此寫一本該死的書。
But when faced with being offered less than that (sometimes a lot less than that) , it's hard to knowexactly when to cut loose and move on.
但是當(dāng)獲得的東西少了一些(有時(shí)少了很多)的時(shí)候，很難知道究竟是什么時(shí)候要擺脫束縛，什么時(shí)候繼續(xù)前進(jìn)。
He forgets to call me one night—am I supposed to just dump him?
他一個(gè)晚上忘記給我打電話我就應(yīng)該把他甩了嗎?
He forgets to call me three times—is that when I dump him?
他三次忘記給我打電話，是時(shí)候我把他甩了嗎?
It's not easy to find someone you like and are excited about.
找到一個(gè)你喜歡并為之興奮的人是不容易的。
