他其實(shí)沒(méi)那么喜歡你 第30期:害怕親密關(guān)系只是男人的托詞

This is What It Should Look Like, by Greg

這就是本該的樣子，格雷格

My friend Mike liked my friend Laura. After bandpractice he asked her out and now they're married.

我的朋友麥克和勞拉。在樂(lè)隊(duì)排練之后，他約她出去，現(xiàn)在他們結(jié)婚了。

My friend Russell met this girl Amy and they datedand got married.

我的朋友拉塞爾遇見(jiàn)了一個(gè)叫艾米的女孩，他們約會(huì)并結(jié)婚了。

My friend Jeff met a girl out of town and went andvisited her the next weekend and never stopped visiting her until he moved in with her.

我的朋友杰夫在另一個(gè)城市遇見(jiàn)了一個(gè)女孩，他第二個(gè)周末去見(jiàn)她，而且直到搬去她那里住之前從不停止去見(jiàn)她。

It's really that simple. It's almost always that simple.

真的就是那么簡(jiǎn)單。大多都是這么容易。

Greg, I Get It! by Corinna, Age 35

格雷格，我知道了!科琳娜，35歲

I was dating a guy for a couple of months when it suddenly dawned on me that he didn't seemparticularly excited about me.

我和一個(gè)人約會(huì)了幾個(gè)月，突然間發(fā)現(xiàn)他不再對(duì)我感興趣了。

 

In the past, that would have made me try harder, make excuses for it, and even confront himwith it.

在過(guò)去，那會(huì)讓我試著更努力，為此找借口，或者甚至跟他對(duì)峙。

Instead I did a little experiment. I assumed he just wasn't that into me and I stopped callinghim.

相反我做了一個(gè)小實(shí)驗(yàn)，我假設(shè)他只是沒(méi)那么喜歡我，然后不給他打電話。

As I suspected, he never called me again!

像我懷疑的那樣，他再也沒(méi)有給我打電話了。

I can't believe how much time I saved just by recognizing that I was the one doing all the work,and that I wanted more!

我無(wú)法相信認(rèn)清楚我才是那個(gè)包攬了一切的事實(shí)給我節(jié)省了多少時(shí)間，而且我想要更多。

IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE GREG

如果你不相信格雷格

100% of guys polled said "a fear of intimacy" has never stopped them from getting into arelationship.

百分之百參與調(diào)查的男人說(shuō)“害怕親密關(guān)系”不會(huì)阻止他們陷入一段戀情。

One guy even remarked, "Fear of intimacy is an urban myth."

一個(gè)人甚至說(shuō)，“害怕親密關(guān)系”是一個(gè)都市神話。

Another guy said, "That's just what we say to girls when we're just not that into them."

另一個(gè)男人說(shuō)，“那只是我們對(duì)不太喜歡的女孩說(shuō)的推脫之詞。”