他其實(shí)沒那么喜歡你 第36期:選擇興趣一致的人
“多重借口”的借口
Dear Greg,
親愛的格雷格，
My boyfriend of a year and a half doesn't seemattracted to me.
我交往了一年半的男朋友貌似對(duì)我不是很感性趣。
He doesn't want to have sex that often, maybe onceevery other week.
他不怎么想做愛，也許每?jī)芍芤淮巍?/p>
Often I have to initiate it. When I ask him about it, he tells me that he's really stressed aboutwork, but that he really is attracted to me.
而且必須由我來(lái)挑起。當(dāng)我問(wèn)起的時(shí)候，他說(shuō)他工作壓力太大了，他對(duì)我是感性趣的。
Before that he told me it was because his mother had recently died and he was too depressed.
之前他告訴我說(shuō)是因?yàn)樗赣H最近去世了，他很難過(guò)。
But when I really think about it, it's been pretty much like this ever since we met.
但是當(dāng)我真正思考過(guò)后，發(fā)現(xiàn)這情況從我們遇見之后就一直如此。
Maybe for the first couple of weeks I felt like he thought I was hot, but since then he has neverreally seemed that into me physically.
也許剛開始的幾周我感覺他覺得我很性感，然后他開始再也不對(duì)我的肉體感興趣了。
I love him, and it's the most loving and healthy relationship in every other way, but now Ispend a lot of time feeling frustrated and unattractive.
我愛他，在其他方面看來(lái)這是最有愛最健康的戀情，但是現(xiàn)在我大部分時(shí)間感到沮喪和缺乏吸引力。
My friends say I should believe what he's saying.
我的朋友們說(shuō)我應(yīng)該相信他說(shuō)的話。
But I'm starting to feel like he's just not that into me, physically.
但是我開始感覺他不再喜歡我的肉體了。
Signed Dara
達(dá)拉
Dear Let's Get Physical,
親愛的讓我們滾床單吧，
If I'm really into somebody, I want to put it in them. And then take it out. And then put it backin them later on.
如果我真的愛一個(gè)人，我會(huì)想不停的跟她做愛，摩擦摩擦。
So when we're picking someone who we want to spend a lot of time with, even perhaps the restof our lives, we generally try to pick someone who likes to do the things we like to do.
所以當(dāng)我們選擇想和自己共度大片時(shí)光甚至余生的人，我們一般會(huì)選擇興趣一致的人。
Including, if not especially, sex.
不例外的包括做愛。
You can accept his excuses all you want, but you have to ask yourself, is this the relationshipyou want to be in?
你可以想接受他的理由就接受，但是你必須捫心自問(wèn)真的想要這樣的感情么?
Is this how you want to live the rest of your sex life?
你真的想要在余生度過(guò)這樣的性生活么?
He may be into you, he may not, but the only thing you have to answer is, is this how you wantto feel, perhaps forever?
他也許愛你，也許不愛，但是你必須回答是否想永遠(yuǎn)這樣。
Most regretably, Greg
十分遺憾的格雷格
The Egyptians painted pots about it, the yogis write books about it, the Jews have madereligious laws about it.
埃及人在盆上畫關(guān)于它的畫，瑜伽修行者寫關(guān)于它的書，猶太人制定關(guān)于它的宗教法律。
They all believe that one of the strongest ingredients to a healthy union is sex.
他們都相信健康結(jié)合最重要的部分就是做愛。
One of the great joys in life is that you get to have sex.
人生最大的樂事之一就是做愛。
The last person who should be stopping you from enjoying that is the person you're dating.
最不該阻止你享受它的就是你的對(duì)象。
It's So Simple
顯而易見的
Learn it, live it, like it, love it: If a man likes you, he's going to want to have sex with you.
學(xué)習(xí)它，讓它成為生活的一部分，喜歡它，愛上它：如果一個(gè)男人喜歡你，他會(huì)渴望與你做愛。
Sure, things may slow down in a long-term relationship, but even then, it's a joy, a gift, andyour right to have a fantastic sex life.
當(dāng)然，在愛情長(zhǎng)跑里可能會(huì)緩和一些，但是，它依然是一種樂趣，一份禮物，是你享受絕妙性生活的權(quán)利。
