他其實沒那么喜歡你 第71期:男人玩消失

Chapter 9

第9章

He's Just Not That Into You If He's Disappeared onYou

如果他玩消失那他一定沒那么喜歡你

Sometimes You Have to Get Closure All by Yourself

有時候你要全靠自己來結(jié)束它

He's gone. Poof. Vanished into thin air. Well, there'sno mixed message here.

他離開了。呼的一下消失的無影無蹤。這里可沒有模糊的信息了。

He's made it clear that he's so not into you that he couldn't even bother to leave you a Post-it.

他很清楚的表明了自己很不喜歡你以至于連個便利貼都沒給你留。

This time you may not be so quick to make excuses for his behavior.

這次你也許沒辦法快速給他的行為找借口了。

It's so painful, it's impossible not to be hurt or angry.

這太痛苦了，不可能不受到傷害，感到生氣。

But because of that, you might be tempted to make some excuses for yourself.

但是正因如此，你也許應該為自己找找借口。

You have good reason to want to spend a lot of energy solving the Mystery of the DisappearingMan.

你有足夠的理由想花大力氣去解開這個“消失的男人之謎”。

But all those excuses, however valid they are, will not help you in the long run.

但是所有的這些借口，不管有多正當，在長遠來說對你而言是無益的。

Because the only part of that story that's important to remember is that he didn't want to bewith you anymore.

因為這件事中唯一重要的部分就是記住他再也不想跟在一起這一點。

And he didn't have the guts to tell you that to your face. Case closed.

而且他沒有勇氣面對面的告訴你。結(jié)案。

The "Maybe He's Dead" Excuse

“也許他死了”的借口

Dear Greg,

親愛的格雷格，

I had a brief fling with a really cute French guy.

我和一個魅力四射的法國人一夜風流。

It was really fun, but it also felt like maybe it could be more than that.

那真的很有趣，但是我覺得也許可以更進一步。

He went back to France and we started e-mailing each other.

他回到了法國，我們開始互發(fā)郵件。

It was really sweet and romantic.

這真的很甜蜜浪漫。

All of a sudden, after one of my e-mails, he stopped writing. It's been two weeks.

突然之間，在我發(fā)了一封郵件之后，他不回復我了，迄今已有兩周。

Greg, maybe something happened to him.

格雷格，也許他發(fā)生了什么事。

Maybe he didn't get my last e-mail. Maybe I wrote something that upset him.

也許他沒有收到我最后一封郵件。也許是因為我寫了什么惹他生氣了。

I hate thinking that I will never ever hear from him again. That's so harsh.

我不愿去想再也聽不到他的消息了。這太殘酷了。

Can't I write him again, just to make one more attempt to connect with him?

我可以再給他寫郵件么，就再試一次聯(lián)系他?

Signed Nora

娜拉

Dear Freedom Fry,

親愛的自由薯條，

Yes, you can e-mail him if you want to give him the opportunity to reject you one more time.

是的，你可以給他發(fā)郵件，如果你想給他一個再次拒絕你的機會的話。

Could he have gotten run over by a pommes frites truck and is in the hospital and that's why hedisappeared? Yes.

他可不可能是被一輛炸薯條卡車撞了現(xiàn)在在醫(yī)院，所以消失了?可能。

But I have to say, the law of averages says that it's more likely he met someone or realized thatthe long distance thing wasn't for him, or that you simply may not the be the American girl ofhis dreams.

但是我必須說，常規(guī)告訴我說他更可能是認識了別人，或者意識到自己不喜歡異地戀，又或只是你并非他夢中的美國女孩兒。

If you want to write him and ask him again to close the door in your face, for the one in amillion chance his phone died and his e- mail crashed, and he lost all your contact information,be my guest.

如果你執(zhí)意要再次給他寫郵件讓他拒絕你，有萬分之一的機會他的手機死機了，郵件奔潰了，然后他丟失了你所有的聯(lián)系方式，請便。

Just don't say I didn't warn you.

別說我沒警告你。

XOXO, Greg

親親抱抱，格雷格