異類之不一樣的成功啟示錄 第69期:富人是如何教育孩子的?

They appeared comfortable in those settings;

他們看來比較滿足這些安排;

they were open to sharing information and asking for attention......

他們要求分享到更多的信息并且希望贏得別人的關注

It was common practice among middle class children to shift interactions to suit their preferences."

通過靈活應對制度安排來滿足自己的愛好，是這些中產階層孩子的一般慣例。

They knew the rules. "Even in fourth grade," Lareau goes on, "middle-class children appeared to be acting on their own behalf to gain advantages.

他們知道這個道理，“即便是小學四年級的中產階層家庭的小孩，他們都知道利用自己的權益去為自己爭取更大的優(yōu)勢。

They made special request of teachers and doctors to adjust procedures to accomodate their desires"

為了讓程序安排符合自己的期望，他們會向教師和醫(yī)生提出一些特別的要求。

By contrast, the working class and poor children were characterized by what Lareau calls "an emerging sense of distance, distrust, and constraint."

相反，勞動階層或者窮困家庭的小孩“給人的感覺是比較冷淡、缺乏信任和拘謹”。

They didn't know how to get their way, or how to customize, in Lareau's wonderful phrase, whatever environment they were in, for the best purposes.

他們不知道怎樣找到自己的路，或者說為了達到目的，他們不知道該怎樣“定制自我”這里引用拉里奧這個再恰當不過的術語，無論他們是處于何種環(huán)境都是如此。

In one telling scene, Lareau describes a visit to the doctor by Alex Williams, a nine year old boy, and his mother, Christina.

有一個對話場面，那是拉里奧跟著一個叫亞歷克斯·威廉斯的9歲孩子，還有孩子的母親克里斯蒂娜一塊去見醫(yī)生時的談話。

The Williamses are wealthy professionals.

威廉斯的家庭是一個富有的專業(yè)人員的家庭。

"Alex, you should be thinking of questions you might want to ask the doctor,"

“亞歷克斯，你應該想想自己該問醫(yī)生一些什么問題，”

Christina says, in the car on the way to the doctor's office.

在開車去見醫(yī)生的路上，克里斯蒂娜說，

"You can ask him anything you want. Don't be shy. You can ask anything."

“你想到什么就問什么。別害羞，你可以問任何問題。”

Alex thinks for a moment, then says, "I have some bumps under my arms from my deodorant."

亞歷克斯思考了幾分鐘，然后說，“在我抹了除臭劑的手臂上有一些腫塊。”

Christina："really? You mean from your new deodorant?"

克里斯蒂娜：“真的?是最近抹了除臭劑以后嗎?”

Alex: "yes"

亞歷克斯：“是的。”

Christina: "Well, you should ask the doctor."

克里斯蒂娜：“哦，那真該問問醫(yī)生。”

Alex's mother, Laueau writes, "is teaching that he has the right to speak up."

拉里奧寫道，亞歷克斯的母親“教育他有資格暢所欲言”

that even thought he's going to be in a room with an older person of authority, it's perfectly for him all right for him to assert himself.

即便即將見到的是一位長輩和權威人士，他也完全應該表達自己的觀點。

They meet the doctor, a genial man in his early forties.

他們見到了醫(yī)生，一個很有親和力的40開外的人。

He tells Alex that he is in the ninety-fifth percentile in height.

醫(yī)生告訴亞歷克斯，他在身高百分比中排95，

Alex then interrupts:

隨后亞歷克斯打斷了他的話：

Alex: I'm in the what?

亞歷克斯：排95是什么意思?

Doctor: It means that you're taller than more than ninety-five out of a hundred young men when they are, uh, ten years old.

醫(yī)生：意思是在100個小孩里面，你比95個小孩都要高，哦，你現在是10歲。

Alex: I'm not ten.

亞歷克斯：我不是10歲。

Doc: Well, they graphed you at ten. You are nine years and ten months. They, they usually take the closest year to that graph.

醫(yī)生：是嗎，他們在圖表上寫的你是10歲。你是——9歲10個月。他們通常把最接近的年齡填在圖表上。