時(shí)差N小時(shí):不成熟的女兒

Dear Annie: I have a pretty, petite 24-year-olddaughter who is quite immature for her age. Shestill lives at home, occasionally helps around thehouse and attends the local community college. Butshe can't keep a job for long.

親愛(ài)的安妮：我有一個(gè)長(zhǎng)相漂亮、身材嬌小的女兒，她今年24歲，但顯得很不成熟。她仍然跟我住一起，偶爾會(huì)幫忙收拾屋子，去當(dāng)?shù)匾凰鐓^(qū)大學(xué)上課。而且她每干一份工作都不會(huì)長(zhǎng)久。

People who know our daughter tell us how wonderfulshe is because she is not pregnant or doing drugs.But we feed her, clothe her, pay for her car, gas, etc. Lately, she has had boyfriend problems.How can we get her to grow up without being the bad guys?

認(rèn)識(shí)我女兒的人都夸她有多么棒，因?yàn)樗葲](méi)有懷孕也不吸毒。但她依然靠我們養(yǎng)著，我們給她吃穿，買(mǎi)車(chē)，加油等等。最近，她又遇到男朋友的問(wèn)題。我該如何幫她成長(zhǎng)起來(lái)而又不傷害她呢?

She does not know how to cook or take care of herself, so we are reluctant to simply throw herout. But we want her to do things other people her age do. Any advice? — Clueless in California

她不知道該如何做飯、如何照顧自己，所以我們不愿意直接讓她搬出去。但我們還是希望她能像同齡的孩子一樣。請(qǐng)給些建議吧?——加州愚人

Dear Clueless: If you are concerned that your daughter doesn't have sufficient life skills tomanage on her own, then teach her. Put her in charge of cooking dinner one night a week. Tellher she will need a part-time job to pay for room and board. Then help her look for her ownapartment. While she is in school, you may wish to subsidize her rent, but living independentlywill help her mature.

親愛(ài)的愚人：如果你擔(dān)心你的女兒沒(méi)有足夠的生活技能來(lái)照顧好自己，那么就教她吧。讓她每周負(fù)責(zé)一頓晚餐。告訴她她需要做兼職來(lái)支付食宿費(fèi)用。然后再幫她找自己的公寓。雖然她還在上學(xué)，你可能會(huì)給她租房補(bǔ)貼，但獨(dú)立居住才能幫她成熟起來(lái)。