被人評頭論足也要做的10件事

What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

如果知道沒有人在旁邊指指點點，你會以一種的不同方式來做事嗎?

Truth be told, no one has the right to judge you. People may have heard your stories, but they can’t feel what you are going through; they aren’t living YOUR life. So forget what they say about you. Focus on how you feel about yourself, and do what you know in your heart is right.

事實上，沒有人有指責你的權利。人們或許聽過你的故事，但他們卻不能感同身受，因為你的生活只屬于你自己。所以忘掉他們對你的指責。相信自己的感覺，做自己認為正確的事。

1. Take care of yourself.

照顧好自己。

Your relationship with yourself is the closest and most important relationship you will ever have. If you don’t take good care of yourself, then you can’t take good care of others either; which is why taking care of yourself is the best selfish thing you can do.

你和自己最親近，是你所有關系中的重心。如果照顧不好自己，也就談不上照顧好別人，這就是為什么說照顧好自己是你能做的最好的利己之事。

2. Do what you know is right, for YOU.

為了自己，去做自己認為正確的事情。

Don’t be scared to walk alone, and don’t be scared to like it. Don’t let anyone’s ignorance, drama, or negativity stop you from being the best you can be. Keep doing what you know in your heart is right, for you. Because when you are totally at peace within yourself, nothing can shake you.

不要害怕獨行，不要因喜歡獨行而害怕。不要讓任何人的無知、惡搞或消極成為你達到巔峰的障礙。為了自己，堅持做你內心深處認為正確的事情。因為當你內心完全處于平和狀態(tài)時，沒有什么能讓你動搖。

3. Follow your own unique path.

沿自己獨特的路走下去。

Every new day is a chance to change your life. Work on making life all that you want it to be. Work hard for what you believe, and keep your dreams big and your worries small. You never need to carry more than you can hold; just take it one day at a time. And while you’re out there making decisions instead of excuses, learning new things, and getting closer and closer to your goals, you should know that there are others out there, like me, who admire your efforts and are striving for greatness too.

新一天的到來為改變你的生活提供了契機。努力讓生活之路朝著你所希望的方向延伸。為信仰辛勤工作，夢想遠大思想放松。你永遠不需要超負載工作，每天只需做力所能及的事。當你下定決心，而不是找借口時，當你學習新事物，且離目標越來越近時，你要知道，像我一樣敬重你、并同樣在追求卓越的人大有人在。

4. Lock yourself away from the world and work on your goals.

遠離外界的喧囂，鎖定既定目標。

Dream big dreams, but realize that short term, realistic goals are the key to success. Success is directly connected with daily action. The way we spend our time defines who we are. Successful people keep moving, by doing small things every day that bring them a couple steps closer to their dream. They make mistakes along the way, but they don’t quit – they learn and press on.

擁有很大的夢想，但要意識到切合實際的短期目標才是通向成功的關鍵。成功與日常工作密切相關。我們利用時間的方式也就決定了我們的未來。不積跬步無以至千里，成功的人不斷前行，一步一步成就他們的夢想。他們犯了錯誤不退卻，而是總結經(jīng)驗鞭策自己。

5. Adjust your goals and dreams as life changes.

隨時調整目標與夢想來適應生活。

A great deal of pain in life comes from having a specific dream that you’ve fallen in love with, and when it doesn’t work out exactly as planned, you become angry that you now have to pursue a different path. If you want to tame your inner demons and make the most of life, you must not become rigidly attached to just one specific dream, and remain open to there being an even better, equally as happy path ahead. Life is unpredictable, but it provides plenty of opportunities to make dreams come true. Just don’t forget that sometimes taking a positive step forward requires you to slightly adjust your dreams, or plan new ones – it’s OK to change your mind or have more than one dream.

生活中的很多痛苦來自于擁有一個明確的、讓你無法自拔的夢想，當夢想不能如期實現(xiàn)時，你會感到氣惱，不得不再去尋求另一種途徑以期實現(xiàn)夢想。如果想讓自己心平氣和地過好每一天，你絕對不能固守一個特定的夢想，要向更美好的夢想敞開胸懷，正可謂幸福之路就在腳下。生活不可預知，但它卻提供各種機遇，使你夢想成真。別忘記，有時對夢想略做些調整或構思一些新夢想，是向前邁出積極一步的必要條件——改變想法或擁有不只一個夢想不是件壞事情。

6. Forgive those who have wronged you.

寬恕曾誤解你的人。

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong and wise. Forgiveness allows you to focus on the future without combating the past. To understand the potential of everything going forward is to forgive everything already behind you. Without forgiveness, wounds can never be healed, and moving on can never be accomplished. What happened in the past is just one chapter. Don’t close the book, just turn the page.

寬恕是自己為自己送上的禮物。寬恕是強者和智者的品質。寬恕讓你放手過去著眼未來。要理解正在發(fā)生發(fā)展的事物的潛力，就不要糾纏于過去。沒有寬恕，傷口永遠無法愈合，前進就是空談。發(fā)生過的事僅是書中的一個章節(jié)。不要把書合上，請把它翻到下一頁。

7. Show everyone your love and kindness.

向大家表示你的友愛和友善。

If you are reserving your love only for those who you have decided are worthy of it – all strangers excluded – it may come as a surprise to learn that this is not love at all, it is called judgment. Judgment is selective, love is all embracing. Just as the sunlight and the wind do not discriminate, true love does not make any such distinctions either. Love and kindness is a way of living. Where there is love, there is no judgment. Where there is judgment, there is no love.

如果你只把愛留給那些你認為值得去愛的人，把所有陌生人被拒之門外，你可能會驚奇地發(fā)現(xiàn)，這根本不是愛，而是評判。評判是選擇，愛是擁抱。真愛如陽光和風一樣沒有偏頗。愛與友善是一種生活方式，評判與愛不能共存。

8. Stand up for others, even if it’s the unpopular thing to do.

即使不被理解，也要為他人挺身而出。

Sometimes you will say something really small and simple, but it will fit right into an empty space in someone’s heart. Dare to reach into the darkness, to pull someone else into the light. Remember, strong people stand up for themselves, but stronger people stand up for others too, and lend a hand when they’re able.

有時一些實際上小而簡單的話語，卻會觸動某個人的心靈。要敢于走入黑暗，將身處其中的人引向光明。記住，強者為自己挺身而出，但強者中強者會為他人挺身而出，而且在他們有能力時會向你伸出援手。

9. Fight through your failures.

不服輸。

When you are feeling down or dealing with failure, don’t be ashamed. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. You are going through a difficult time, and you are still pushing forward. That’s something to be proud of – that you are fighting through it and slowly rising above it. Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

當你感到沮喪或面對失敗時，不要感到羞愧。沒有什么好羞愧的。你正在經(jīng)歷艱辛，你仍在前行。這是值得你驕傲的——你在努力戰(zhàn)勝失敗，一步步走出困境。讓大家知道，今天的你比昨天更堅強，而且會越來越堅強。

10. Keep your head held high and keep on smiling.

昂首挺胸，笑對人生。

Every day of your life is a page of your history. The only time you run out of chances is when you stop taking them. Don’t cry over the past, cry to get over the past. Don’t smile to hide the pain, smile to heal the pain. Don’t think of all the sadness in the world, think of all the beauty that still remains around you.

生活的每一天都會成為你歷史的一頁。當你停止捕捉機會時，機會棄你而去。不要為過去哭泣，含淚揮別過去。不要用微笑隱藏痛苦，要用微笑治愈痛苦。不要思慮世界的悲哀，要沉浸于身邊的美好。