在與女士第一次約會的時候,我會像其他所有男士一樣保持冷靜、淡定、從容的態(tài)度,盡管如此,你還是可以從我的某些舉止中得到暗示,發(fā)現(xiàn)我對對方心存好感。比如下面所說的幾件事。
1. Completing the Date
不中途逃脫
It may not indicate that you're the apple of my eye, but it does indicate that you're not a total disaster. Most people are courteous enough to do the absolute minimum on a date: finish whatever activity you're doing together and devote sufficient time out of respect for the other person. But some situations are such utter disaster, things must be cut short.
這也許并不能代表你是我的夢中情人,但卻能說明,你在我心中并不算糟糕。這是對約會雙方的基本禮儀,大多數(shù)人都能出于禮貌做到這一點:出于對對方的尊重,無論兩人一起做什么都要善始善終,投入足夠的時間和精力。不過有的時候局面糟糕透頂,就要速戰(zhàn)速決了。
2. One on One
一對一
If I'm into you, and comfortable, I won't want to "share" you. A common tactic to combat a boring date is calling in "reinforcement" friends to "dilute" you. I'm naturally talkative with those around me, but if I invite everyone else around us into our party, I might be looking for a more interesting outlet.
如果我對你有意,和你在一起感到舒服,我一定不會和別人“分享”你的陪伴。當(dāng)男士們在一次約會中感到無聊時,他們慣常采用的策略就是招來一群“救場”的朋友,好分散他花在你身上的注意力。當(dāng)我的朋友們在場時,我也會變成話嘮,不過如果我和你進(jìn)行二人約會時也這樣招呼來所有的小伙伴,這就說明我想要找個更有趣的出路了。
3. Extending the Date
延長約會的時間
Suggesting something (other than going back to someone's place) after dinner like taking a walk, grabbing a drink, going for dessert, catching a movie, etc., indicates I'm asking for an encore.
晚餐之后,我提出了友好的建議(而不是去某人家),比如我們?nèi)ド€步、喝杯酒、吃個甜點、看個電影等等,這都暗示著我想要延長我們的約會。
4. Suggesting Another Date
提議再次約會
Sometimes I get so excited during a first date I play my cards by suggesting other things we should do together. A common time to suggest another date is at the end of the date, though some guys just say this to be friendly.
有時候我在第一次約會時就感到非常開心,這時我就會采取進(jìn)一步策略,提出各種小建議,下次再一起去做其他活動。一般人會在約會結(jié)束時提出下次約會的建議,不過也有人只是出于禮貌才這樣說。
5. Friendly Follow-Up Right After You Say Good-bye
告別之后的友好問候
Sometimes after a date, I'll text the girl telling her I had a great time, out of sheer giddiness. If I'm not interested after the date, I'll head straight home and begin my process of fading out of this girl's life.
偶爾在一次約會之后,我會告訴對方我覺得很開心,這完全處于一種意亂情迷的狀態(tài)。如果我對這次約會并不中意,我就會徑直回家,開始采取策略,漸漸淡出這個女孩的生活。
6. Consistency
關(guān)系維持的時間長
Hold me to a higher standard than one extra date, or one call back after the initial date. How many times have you gone on a few dates only to have it fizzle out? You can't be sure I'm interested until we've gone out consistently for more than a month.
讓我們的關(guān)系升級,而不僅僅是再一次約會或者約會完之后打一通電話。你有多少次約會最終是以告吹結(jié)束的?如果我們相互邀約的關(guān)系已經(jīng)維持了一個月之久,你就能確信我對你有意了。