衡量一個人是否成功的真正標準只有這個人是否幸福。讓別人感到快樂幸福是個人成功的最高形式。不過,如果你自己不快樂的話,是很難做到讓別人快樂的。記住這一點,以下提出的9條建議,會讓你的生活馬上變得快樂起來。
1. Start each day with expectation.
對每天都有期望
If there's any big truth about life, it's that it usually lives up to (or down to) your expectations. Therefore, when you rise from bed, make your first thought: "something wonderful is going to happen today." Guess what? You're probably right.
如果生活真有所謂的真諦存在的話,那么就是對生活有點期望。當你早上起床的時候,第一件事就是去想:“今天會有好事發(fā)生。”猜猜看結果如何?很有可能你就能美夢成真。
2. Take time to plan and prioritize.
花時間計劃,優(yōu)先處理緊急事務
The most common source of stress is the perception that you've got too much work to do. Rather than obsess about it, pick one thing that, if you get it done today, will move you closer to your highest goal and purpose in life. Then do that first.
壓力最通常的來源就是意識到自己有太多的事情要做。與其被堆積如山的事務纏身,不如從中挑選一件來做。挑選的標準就是,做完這件事,就會離你人生中的最高目標更進一步。挑選出了要做的事情之后,就把它放在首位去完成。
3. Give a gift to everyone you meet.
向每位遇到的人傳遞正能量
I'm not talking about a formal, wrapped-up present. Your gift can be your smile, a word of thanks or encouragement, a gesture of politeness, even a friendly nod. And never pass beggars without leaving them something. Peace of mind is worth the spare change.
我并不是要你去送一些包裝精美的禮品。你的禮物可以是一個微笑,一句感謝或者鼓勵的話,一個禮貌的動作,甚至只是善意的頷首。經(jīng)過乞討者時,留下些零錢吧。善良的心靈比零錢更值錢。
4. Deflect partisan conversations.
盡可能不談及敏感話題
Arguments about politics and religion never have a "right" answer but they definitely get people all riled up over things they can't control. When such topics surface, bow out by saying something like: "Thinking about that stuff makes my head hurt."
有關政治和宗教的話題永遠沒有正確答案,但卻會讓人心浮氣躁,難以掌控談話的局面。如果出現(xiàn)了這樣的話題,就可以用一句“想到這些事情我就頭疼”,禮貌地退出討論。
5. Assume people have good intentions.
假設人們動機善良
Since you can't read minds, you don't really know the "why" behind the "what" that people do. Imputing evil motives to other people's weird behaviors adds extra misery to life, while assuming good intentions leaves you open to reconciliation.
你沒有讀心術,所以你不會明白人們行為背后的真正含義。不要為他人怪異的舉動注入不良的動機,這只會讓生活更加愁云慘淡而已。反而假設人們的動機善良,會讓你有更多的機會去與對方和解。
6. Eat high quality food slowly.
慢慢享受高質量食物
Sometimes we can't avoid scarfing something quick to keep us up and running. Even so, at least once a day try to eat something really delicious, like a small chunk of fine cheese or an imported chocolate. Focus on it; taste it; savor it.
有時候,我們不得不狼吞虎咽,急著開工。即使這樣,也要讓自己每天擁有一次真正享受美食的機會,比如一塊醇正的奶酪或者進口的巧克力。關注食物本身,品味它,享受它。
7. Let go of your results.
不考慮不能改變的結果
The big enemy of happiness is worry, which comes from focusing on events that are outside your control. Once you've taken action, there's usually nothing more you can do. Focus on the job at hand rather than some weird fantasy of what might happen.
幸??鞓返淖畲髷橙司褪菗?,擔心那些不可能改變的結果。一旦你采取了行動,對于結果,你就已經(jīng)無能為力了。把精力關注在手頭正要做的事情上,而不是去臆測可能發(fā)生的可怕結果。
8. Turn off "background" TV.
如果不用,關掉電視
Many households leave their TVs on as "background noise" while they're doing other things. The entire point of broadcast TV is to make you dissatisfied with your life so that you'll buy more stuff. Why subliminally program yourself to be a mindless consumer?
很多家庭都會在忙著其他事情的時候,把電視機開著當背景聲音。電視節(jié)目的全部目的就是讓你對生活不滿,從而去購買更多的東西。為什么要讓電視節(jié)目把你變成一個毫無主見的消費者呢?
9. End each day with gratitude.
睡前保持一顆感恩的心
Just before you go to bed, write down at least one wonderful thing that happened. It might be something as small as a making a child laugh or something as huge as a million dollar deal. Whatever it is, be grateful for that day because it will never come again.
在臨睡前,寫下至少一件今天發(fā)生的美好的事情。這件事情可以小到是讓一個孩子笑了起來,也可以是大到做成了一筆百萬美元的生意。無論是什么事情,都要心懷感恩,因為過去的這一天將永遠不會回來。