日常交流中不可避免地會(huì)有一些需要拒絕別人的情況,但如果只用 No, thanks 或者直白地No way來(lái)回答對(duì)方,不免有些生硬而且會(huì)比較傷害他人的感情。今天來(lái)看看我們?nèi)绾挝竦赜糜⒄Z(yǔ)拒絕對(duì)方。
初級(jí)版:
1. 如何婉拒別人的邀請(qǐng)而不傷害對(duì)方的美意:
I’m afraid I can't. 恐怕我去不了。
Thanks for asking, but. 感謝你邀請(qǐng)我,但是…
I’m afraid I can't go to the movies tonight.
Thanks for asking, but I prefer staying at home tonight.
2. 吃飯時(shí),如果自己已經(jīng)吃飽(或是不想再吃更多),若是主人詢問(wèn): Do you want more?你可以回答:
I think I'm good. 我已經(jīng)飽了。
進(jìn)階版:
面對(duì)朋友/同事的請(qǐng)求,如果自己實(shí)在不方便/不愿意可以用下面的談話技巧:
sandwich
vt. 夾入;擠進(jìn);把...做成三明治
n. 三明治;夾心面包
“贊美三明治”=正面的話+否定的話+正面的話
Sandwich your refusal between two positive statements or compliments.
把你的拒絕的話語(yǔ)夾在兩句正面的話或是贊美之間。
情境一:
For example, let's suppose that your friend wants you to babysit her two children on Sunday afternoon, but you want to spend the day relaxing after a tough week at work.
例如,假設(shè)你的朋友想讓你在星期天下午照看她的兩個(gè)孩子,但你想在辛苦工作一周后放松一下。
You could say,
你可以說(shuō),
Thank you for asking, it's always an honor to be trusted with someone else's children! Unfortunately, I'm not free that day, so my answer has to be no.”
“謝謝你的邀請(qǐng),你能這么信任地把孩子交給我真是我的榮幸!不幸的是,那天我沒(méi)有空,所以我不得不說(shuō)“不”。
情境二:你不想和對(duì)方約會(huì)
1. "You're an awesome person. Unfortunately, I'm not interested in dating you. Someone else is going to be really lucky to date someone with such a great personality!"
“你人真的超好。不幸的是,我不想和你約會(huì)。如果有人能和你這么有魅力的人約會(huì),那她真的很幸運(yùn)!”
2. You are really a nice person. I'm interested in you as a friend. I like when we hang out in big groups together.
你是個(gè)好人。但是我只把你當(dāng)朋友。我喜歡我們大家一起出去玩。
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