你越來越不可愛了，可是你卻還沒意識(shí)到

　　
Everyone strives to be a great person, kind, caring, and compassionate. But for some people, thats not always the case. There are many behaviors or bad habits that people have that make them seem unattractive, annoying, or someone that no one wants to be around with. A few of these harmful characteristics are offered for you below, and if you happen to realize that you embody any of them quit! You might find your circle of friends grow once you do.

　　人人都在努力成為一個(gè)優(yōu)秀的人，善良，有愛心，有同情心?？墒遣皇撬腥硕际沁@么想的。一些人的許多行為或壞習(xí)慣使得他們不那么有吸引力，煩人，甚至沒有人愿意理他們。下面列出了一些壞特征，如果你意識(shí)到你身上有這樣一些毛病趕緊改掉吧!這樣做了，你就你能找到屬于你自己的朋友圈。

　　1. You are Self-Absorbed

　　自戀

　　Many people do this without realizing it. You focus solely on yourself, talk only about yourself, and often dont care what others around you have to say. You think youre the only one who matters. If this is you, its time to change. No one wants to be a friend with someone who only cares about themselves.

　　許多人自戀自己卻沒有意識(shí)到。你只將注意力集中在自己身上，只談?wù)撟约?，?jīng)常不關(guān)心周圍的人。你認(rèn)為自己是最重要的人。如是你是這樣的人，是時(shí)候做出改變了。沒人想和一個(gè)只關(guān)心自己的人做朋友。

　　2. You Focus on Outer Beauty, Ignoring Whats Inside

　　只關(guān)注外在美，忽視了內(nèi)在美

　　Surprisingly, true beauty comes from within your heart, body, and soul. Your physical appearance isnt what should matter, but people with unattractive behaviors think that outer beauty is all that matters. Take a look in the mirror deep within yourself and you might see what lies beneath. An ugly person. Unless you change your way of thinking.

　　令人吃驚的是，真正的美是一個(gè)人的內(nèi)心，身體和靈魂散發(fā)出來的。你的物理表現(xiàn)不是那么重要，但是一個(gè)總是表現(xiàn)得很不受歡迎的人認(rèn)為外在美是最重要的?？纯寸R子里內(nèi)心最深處的你，你能看到那里有什么。一個(gè)丑陋的人。除非你改變你的思考方式。

　　3. You are Always in Competition

　　一直在競(jìng)爭(zhēng)/一直有競(jìng)爭(zhēng)心理

　　Are you the person who has to be better than everyone else, see more, do more? If so, youre an unattractive person. You should be more caring towards your friends, and let them have their moment. If they overcame their fear of heights and climbed 10 feet in the air, dont say, Thats all? I’ve climbed 30 feet! Instead say, Wow! Thats awesome. Im really proud of you.

　　你是不是一直要求要比別人做的好。看的遠(yuǎn)，做的多?如果是這樣的話，你是一個(gè)不受歡迎的人。你應(yīng)該向你的朋友們表達(dá)出你對(duì)他們的關(guān)心，接受屬于他們的光環(huán)。如果他們克服了自己的恐高癥，爬到了10英尺高的地方，不要之說一句“就這樣?我可是爬過30英尺呢!”可以說“哇!太棒了!我真為你感到自豪。”

　　4. You View Your Friends as Enemies

　　視朋友為敵人

　　People who are seen as unattractive are often in fights with their friends. Instead of banning together and truly being able to care for others, youre always turning your back, and stabbing them in theirs. Your friends are not your enemies. They are your allies.

　　不受歡迎的人總是和朋友之間有摩擦。不和朋友團(tuán)結(jié)在一起，也不真正關(guān)心他們，背后捅朋友刀子。你的朋友不是敵人，他們是你的盟友。

　　5. You Question Your Importance to Others

　　懷疑你在別人心中的地位

　　You are definitely an unattractive person when you constantly question why others don’t see you as important as you think they should. For instance, your two friends went somewhere without you it doesnt matter to them but to you it does. Get over it. Theyre still your friend, and their lives dont stop when youre not around.

　　如果你一直質(zhì)問別人為什么你沒有得到應(yīng)有的重視,那你就真的是太招人煩了。比如說，你的兩個(gè)朋友去了別的地方，沒有帶你去。這對(duì)他們沒什么影響，可是你卻受不了。忘了它吧。他們還是你的朋友，即使你不在他們身邊，他們的生活也能照常運(yùn)轉(zhuǎn)。

　　6. You are the Boss

　　你說了才算

　　In a group of friends, everyone should be on an equal playing field. If youre the one always making the decisions, constantly needing to be in charge, or trying to control what others are doing, youre acting in an unattractive way.

　　在朋友圈里，每個(gè)人的地位都應(yīng)該是平等的。如果你是那個(gè)總是總在做決定的人，總是需要掌管一切，或者試圖掌控別人的行為，你是不會(huì)找人喜歡的。

　　7. You are Dishonest

　　不誠(chéng)實(shí)

　　When it comes to being a great friend, or someone who others want to be around, you need to be honest. Many people who partake in ugly behaviors are often dishonest, lying about everything, inquiring about every question asked about them, and how they truly feel about different things. Yes, honesty is the best policy.

　　要成為一個(gè)合格的朋友，或者說成為一個(gè)受歡迎的人，你得是一個(gè)誠(chéng)實(shí)的人。許多行為不端的人不誠(chéng)實(shí)，謊話連篇，刨根問底每個(gè)問到他們的問題和對(duì)不同事物的真實(shí)看法。因此，誠(chéng)實(shí)是最好的選擇。

　　8. You are Rude

　　粗魯

　　If youre the person thats frequently impolite, offensive, or embarrassing your friends with your rude comments in public quit. Youre not someone people want to be around. There are going to be times when you dont agree with someone, or see something you didnt want to see, but theres no point in making a scene, because youre making everyone look at your terrible behavior and theyre not seeing what youre seeing.

　　如果你常常沒禮貌、冒犯別人或用粗言穢語(yǔ)讓朋友難堪，請(qǐng)改改吧。不然沒人會(huì)想呆在你的身邊?？傆行r(shí)候你不贊同某些人，或者是看到你不想看的情景，但是沒有必要大鬧一場(chǎng)吧。 別人只會(huì)看到你的粗暴行為，而不能明白你的感受。

　　9. You are Unreliable, Yet Dependent Upon Others

　　不靠譜，還總是依賴別人

　　Are you there when your friends call for help? Or are you always busy when someone needs you? If youre the person no one can count on, thats an unattractive quality in friendships. Similarly, if youre the one always calling for help from others, yet never offering yours when they need it, thats another unattractive quality that no one wants in a friend.

　　你是不是總是找朋友幫忙?或者別人需要你的時(shí)候，你總是很忙?如果你是一個(gè)沒人愿意依賴的人。在和別人相處中，無法值得依靠是一個(gè)非常低劣的品質(zhì)。更甚，如果你從沒幫助別人，還總是要求他人幫助你，有這種行為的人是沒有人愿意和你交朋友的。

　　10. You are Always Negative

　　負(fù)能量爆棚

　　Pessimism is not an attractive quality. If youre constantly putting things down, or seeing situations in a negative light, try and change your attitude. Nobody wants to be friends with someone whos constantly seeing the negative instead of the positive.

　　消極可不是一個(gè)吸引人的特性。如果你一直在貶低或者用一種消極的態(tài)度對(duì)待事情的話，試著改變你的態(tài)度。沒人想和一直用消極對(duì)待事情的人做朋友，人們?cè)敢夂驼芰康娜俗雠笥选?/p>