如何做真實的自己,過你想要的生活
We live in a world that constantly tells us what to do, how to act, what to be. Knowing how to be true to yourself and live the life you want can be a challenge.
我們生活在一個不斷告訴我們該做什么,該怎么做,該做什么的世界里。知道如何做真實的自己,過自己想要的生活是一個挑戰(zhàn)。
In an ideal world, we would stop and truly listen. We wouldn’t be afraid to be ourselves. Instead, when we answer about how we are doing, our mask, the persona we show the world, tightens. Sometimes even more so than it might have been before. Eventually, it becomes hard to take off, even when you’re alone.
在一個理想的世界里,我們會停下來,真正地傾聽。我們不會害怕做自己。相反,當我們回答我們在做什么時,我們的面具,我們展現(xiàn)給世界的人格,會變得更緊密。有時甚至比以前更嚴重。最終,它會變得很難起飛,即使你是一個人。
No one can feel positive all the time and yet, that is what our culture teaches us to embrace. We have to unlearn this. That said, telling others you are ‘“fine”’ all the time is actually detrimental to your wellbeing, because it stops you from being assertive, from being authentic or your truest self.
沒有人能一直保持積極的心態(tài),然而,這正是我們的文化教會我們?nèi)ソ邮艿摹N覀儽仨毻涍@一點。也就是說,一直告訴別人你“很好”實際上對你的健康有害,因為它阻止你變得自信,阻止你做自然的自己或最真實的自己。
Feelings are there for one reason: to be felt. That doesn’t mean you have to act on that feeling. It just means that you start the process of problem solving so you can live the life you want.
有感覺只有一個原因:被感覺。這并不意味著你必須根據(jù)這種感覺行事。它只是意味著你開始解決問題的過程,這樣你就可以過上你想要的生活。
1. Embrace Your Vulnerability
接受你的弱點
When you are your true self, you can better self-advocate or stand up for what you need. Your self-expression matters, and you should value your voice. It’s okay to need things, it’s okay to speak up.
當你是真實的自己時,你就能更好地自我宣傳或堅持你所需要的。你的自我表達很重要,你應(yīng)該重視你的聲音。需要東西是可以的,大聲說出來是可以的,不需要是可以的。
It all starts with your story. You have been on your own unique journey. That journey has led you here, to the person you are today. You have to be unafraid, and embrace all aspects of that journey.
一切都從你的故事開始。你有自己獨特的旅程。這段旅程把你帶到這里,讓你成為今天的自己。你必須無所畏懼,擁抱這段旅程的方方面面。
2. Choose Your Attitude in Adversity
在逆境中選擇你的態(tài)度
You can take control of your destiny and live the life you want by being true to yourself. You can start anytime. You can start today.
你可以掌控自己的命運,活出自己想要的生活,做真實的自己。你可以隨時開始。你可以從今天開始。
It may be in our perceived failures and blunders that we lose sight of who we are, because we try to maintain position and status.
也許正是在我們察覺到的失敗和錯誤中,我們忘記了自己是誰,因為我們試圖保持自己的地位和地位。
3. Do What Makes You Happy When No One’s Looking
做那些能讓你在沒人注意的時候感到快樂的事
Being the best version of you has nothing to do with your success or your status. It has everything to do with your Character, what you do when no one’s looking.
做最好的自己與你的成功或地位無關(guān)。這和你的性格有關(guān),和你在沒人注意的時候做什么有關(guān)。
In order to create the life you want, you have to be the person you want to be. Faking it till you make it is just a way. You have the fire inside of you to make things right, to put the pieces together, to live authentically. And Character is how you get there.
為了創(chuàng)造你想要的生活,你必須成為你想成為的人。假裝直到你成功只是一種方法。你的內(nèi)心有一團火,讓事情變好,把碎片拼在一起,活得真實。性格就是你如何做到這一點。
By being yourself, you are being brave. By acknowledging all you can be, you tell the universe that you can until you believe it too. The steps are easy, and you are worth it. All of it is about the purpose you are leading and the passion that is your fuel.
做你自己,就是勇敢。通過承認你所能做的一切,你告訴宇宙你能做到,直到你也相信它。這些步驟很簡單,你值得。所有這一切都是關(guān)于你的目標,激情是你的燃料。
You will find that making decisions based on what will actually achieve your goals, will help you attain the life you want, and your success with each step, will allow you to enjoy the process. Good luck!
你會發(fā)現(xiàn),做決定的基礎(chǔ)上,真正實現(xiàn)你的目標,將幫助你獲得你想要的生活,你的每一步的成功,將允許你享受這個過程。祝好運!