如何練習自我原諒，并帶著快樂前行

如何練習自我原諒，并帶著快樂前行

Self-forgiveness is about learning how to forgive yourself for mistakes you made or choices you made. Often we wonder, how it is possible we messed up so much, how did we come to this?

自我原諒是學習如何原諒自己所犯的錯誤或所做的選擇。我們常常會想，我們怎么可能把事情搞得這么糟，我們是怎么走到這一步的?

Things may not always add up. Our actions do not always reflect us. The actions of other people do not always reflect them either, or sometimes they do. We find it easier though to forgive others, than to forgive ourselves. The scrutiny we place upon ourselves can be unrelenting.

事情可能并不總是一帆風順，我們的行為并不總是反映我們自己，就像別人的行為并不總是反映他們自己一樣。我們發(fā)現(xiàn)寬恕別人比寬恕自己更容易，我們對自己的審視可能是無情的。

Sometimes, self-forgiveness is about finding joy in life instead of sorrow. Once you let go, you learn to live. Remorse does account for some sorrow, but it does not mean you live in sorrow and regret for the rest of your life.

有時候，寬恕自己就是在生活中尋找快樂而不是悲傷。一旦你放手，你就學會了生活?；诤薜拇_會帶來一些悲傷，但它并不意味著你會在悲傷和悔恨中度過余生。

So how do we get there? How do we get to self-forgiveness?

那么，我們?nèi)绾巫龅竭@一點呢?我們?nèi)绾尾拍軐捤∽约?

Self-Compassion — A Prerequisite for Self-Forgiveness

自我同情——自我寬恕的先決條件

Self-Compassion is learning to put empathy in your self-talk; the words you say to yourself, about yourself. It’s part of developing Self-Love, a prerequisite for almost anything.

自我同情是學習在你的自我對話中加入同理心，你對自己說的話，關于你自己。這是發(fā)展自愛的一部分，幾乎是任何事情的先決條件。

Leaving Guilt Behind

放下內(nèi)疚

Don’t let guilt smother your goodness. Don’t let guilt eat your energy and enthusiasm for life. Don’t let guilt destroy your joy.

別讓內(nèi)疚淹沒了你的善良。不要讓罪惡感吞噬你的能量和對生活的熱情。不要讓罪惡感毀了你的快樂。

Give Back

回饋

Use your scars as reasons and reminders to do more good, even if you can’t make everything right. Let them be the lessons you hold onto as you move forward.

用你的傷疤作為理由和警鐘去做更多的好事，即使你不能把所有的事情都做對，讓它們成為你前進過程中的經(jīng)驗教訓。

You can self-forgive and help others at the same time. It’s not just about charity. It’s about choices. You can make better choices when you’ve had time to reflect on your own situation.

你可以在原諒自己的同時幫助別人，這不僅僅是慈善，它是關于選擇。當你有時間反思自己的處境時，你可以做出更好的選擇。

Open Up

敞開心扉

To bring yourself some peace, share your vulnerabilities with others. Share the flaws and insights from your story that actually make your story significant.

為了給自己帶來一些平靜，和別人分享你的弱點，分享你的經(jīng)歷中那些讓你的故事變得有意義的缺點和見解。

In moving forward, you will find that others may not always move with you. They may not be ready to, but as you continue to make amends, you can choose a better way to be. You can even, dare I say, choose joy.

在前進的過程中，你會發(fā)現(xiàn)其他人可能并不總是和你一起前進。他們可能還沒有準備好，但是隨著你不斷地前進，你可以選擇一個更好的方式。我敢說，你甚至可以選擇快樂。

Moving onward requires strength, as does all things, but it is worth it not to wallow in one’s pain. You can move on with joy by looking within and realizing you are still worth it.

正如所有事情一樣，前進需要力量，但不要沉溺于痛苦中。你可以帶著喜悅繼續(xù)前進，審視自己的內(nèi)心，意識到自己仍然值得擁有快樂。