老外最想聊的100個口語話題（08)：跨國婚戀

　　Mixed Marriages 跨國婚戀

　　dialogue 1

　　N: if you can choose, will you marry a foreigner or a Chinese?

　　如果讓你選的話，你是愿意嫁給一個中國人還是一個外國人?

　　S: why? Did tom pop the question?

　　為什么這么問，湯姆向你求婚了嗎?

　　N: not yet. But I wonder if I can get my parents’ consent.

　　沒有，我怕父母不同意。

　　S: let me guess, your parents want you to marry a Chinese man, right?

　　我猜猜，你父母一定是想你嫁一個中國人，對嗎?

　　N: you are right. It is giving me a real headache. I feel like I’m between a rock and a hard place.

　　是啊，我正頭疼呢，我覺得左右為難。

　　S: I used to have the same problem when I was with my ex.

　　我和以前的男朋友談戀愛時，也遇到了同樣的問題。

　　N: oh, how did you deal with it?

　　那你怎么解決的?

　　S: I just let it go and continued dating with my Korean boyfriend. But finally we broke up.

　　我就順其自然，繼續(xù)和我的韓國男朋友約會，但是后來我們還是分手了。

　　N: oh, it’s a pity. What was the matter?

　　太可惜了，為什么啊?

　　S: simple. We had personality clashes and there were too many cultural differences.

　　很簡單，我們性格不合，雙方文化也有很多不同之處。

　　N: like what?

　　比如呢?

　　S: he hoped to live in the Korean way and asked me to give up working and stay at home to take care of the family.

　　他希望我過韓式的生活，要求我放棄工作，安心待在家里。

　　N: Oh, I see. In their culture women should put family first.

　　這樣啊，在他們的文化里，女性應該以家庭為重。

　　S: yes, he said it would be batter for me and for the whole family. But I simply can not quit working.

　　是啊，他說這樣對我，對整個家庭都好。但是我就是不想辭掉工作。

　　N: so that's why it’s hard to have a happy marriage with a foreigner.

　　所以和外國人結婚，很難幸福。

　　S: not really. There are many successful mixed marriage around us.

　　也不一定，我們周圍不也有很多成功的例子嘛。

　　dialogue 2

　　N: more and more Chinese are marrying foreigners.

　　越來越多的中國人嫁給了外國人。

　　S: that's true. But I have a low opinion of those women who go out with foreigners.

　　是啊，但是我挺鄙視那些和外國人在一起的女人的。

　　N: oh, why?

　　啊?為什么啊?

　　S: I think some Chinese wonem marry foreigners for money while others just want to live abroad. There is no true love between them.

　　我覺得有些人嫁給外國人是為了錢，有些人是為了去國外定居，反正他們之間沒有真愛。

　　N: I wouldn't say that's totally true. I've met many happy intercultural couples.

　　也不全是吧。我見過很多幸福的跨過夫妻。

　　S: well, then why aren't there many East-West couples where the man is a Chinese and the woman is a Westerner?

　　N: I guess it's because the Chinese women are more attractive to Western men.

　　那為什么沒有多少夫妻，男方是中國人，女方是外國人呢?

　　S: or because they are less attractive to to Chinese men.

　　可能是因為中國女人對外國男人更有吸引力吧。

　　N: what do you mean?

　　怎么說?

　　S: you know, usually the woman is in her thirties and she is a left girl.

　　這些女人大約三十多歲，是剩女。

　　N: a left girl? What's that?

　　剩女?什么意思啊?

　　S: they're called that because they're left behind on the shelf. They're also known by their three H's---high diploma, high salary, and high degree.

　　這么說，因為他們是別人挑剩下的。她們有三高:高文憑，高工資，高學位。

　　N: and they're also known as the three S's—single, stuck, and born in the seventies.

　　還有人說她們有三難:單身，高不成低不就，出生在70年代后。

　　S: definitely! So most of these women go for Western men.

　　的確!所以這些人就把目標轉向了外國人。

　　N: you have a point here, but I believe some mixed marriages are based on true love.

　　也許吧。但是有些跨國婚姻還是有真愛的。

　　S: that' for sure but very few.

　　那是，不過很少。