Quora精選：在富人學(xué)校做窮學(xué)生是什么感受?

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What is it like to be a poor student at a very rich university or high school? 在一家富人學(xué)校做一個(gè)窮學(xué)生是什么感覺？

 

獲得22554好評(píng)的回答@ Virginia Kettles：

During my first year of college, I went on a trip with a group of other classmates to New York City to network with alumni. At the end of the day, after spending hours going from one company to the next, several of the students talked about hanging out in the city for a while before getting dinner. 在我大一的時(shí)候，我通過網(wǎng)絡(luò)聯(lián)系了校友，和他們一起去了紐約旅行。旅行臨近尾聲，在花了幾個(gè)小時(shí)參觀了一個(gè)又一個(gè)公司后，幾個(gè)同學(xué)提議在吃晚飯前逛一下這座城市。“It’ll be so much fun,” they said. “You should totally come with us!”“這一定會(huì)很有趣”，他們說?！耙黄饋戆?！”I said I would be happy to tag along, and I followed the group onto a train headed towards another part of town. When we finally reached our stop and climbed out onto the street, I suddenly found myself surrounded by clothing stores and restaurants as far as the eye could see. 我說我很樂意跟他們一起逛，然后我跟著他們上了火車，去往這個(gè)城市的另一個(gè)地方。當(dāng)我們最后到達(dá)車站，上了大街時(shí)，我突然發(fā)現(xiàn)在目光所及之處，都是服裝店和餐館。Feeling a pit in my stomach, I followed the group into a store they decided to enter at random, and walked idly around the interior as I gazed at the golden lights, the shiny surfaces, the hard edges, and the beautiful clothes. 在我饑腸轆轆的時(shí)候，我跟著他們隨意進(jìn)了一家商場(chǎng)，我一邊懶洋洋地走進(jìn)室內(nèi)，一邊被金色的燈光、閃耀的燈面、堅(jiān)固的棱角和漂亮的衣服所深深吸引，移不開目光。I saw a pretty jacket and checked the price tag. $530. 我看中了一件漂亮的夾克，看了看價(jià)格標(biāo)簽。530美元。“That would look so cute on you!” One of the girls in the group, Melanie, was suddenly standing beside me, taking the jacket from the hanger and holding it up against my chest. “It totally goes with your hair color.” “你穿那件夾克一定很好看！”，同伴中一個(gè)叫梅蘭妮的女孩突然出現(xiàn)在我身旁，從衣架上拿下夾克，把它舉在我胸前。“它與你的發(fā)色很搭。”“I think I’m good, thanks.”“謝謝，我想它不適合我。”“Are you sure?? It’s totally cute.”“你確定？？它真的很好看?！薄癏onestly, I’m okay.” I paused, noticing the piles of clothes Melanie held clutched against her chest. “Did you find anything you like?”“說真的，我覺得還好?！蔽彝ｎD了一下，注意到梅蘭妮把衣服在她身前對(duì)照?！澳阌姓业侥阆矚g的衣服嗎？”“Oh my gosh, yes! It totally sucks living in a college town because there are, like, no clothing stores. I honestly try to come to NYC as much as possible just to shop.”“歐是的！住在大學(xué)城簡(jiǎn)直遭透了，因?yàn)楦緵]有服裝店。我以后真想常來紐約的商店逛逛?！盜 almost laughed, thinking she was joking, but when Melanie turned away to inspect a $1,000 dress hanging from the wall, I realized she was serious. 我笑了笑，以為她是開玩笑的，但當(dāng)梅蘭妮轉(zhuǎn)身去檢查墻上掛著的一件1000美元的衣服時(shí)，我才意識(shí)到她是認(rèn)真的。The other students in the group ended up spending thousands of dollars at the store, their purchases being folded carefully and tucked away into colorful paper bags. It was only when they had finished that they decided to eat dinner at a place across the street. 同游的其他同學(xué)最終在商場(chǎng)里花費(fèi)了數(shù)千美元，他們買的衣物被小心翼翼地折疊起來，塞進(jìn)了彩色紙袋里。當(dāng)他們?nèi)抠?gòu)物完后，他們才決定在街對(duì)面的一個(gè)地方吃晚飯。In the nicest restaurant I had ever been to that year, I ordered the cheapest appetizer I could find, and sat in silence as the students around me reminisced about the private schools they had gone to, their most recent vacations to Europe. 那是我那年去過的所有餐館中最好的一家，我點(diǎn)了最便宜的菜，然后靜靜地坐著，而我周圍的同學(xué)都在討論他們上過的私立學(xué)校，或是他們最近在歐洲度過的假期。When the dinner was over, a student suggested seeing a broadway play, and one of the guys pulled out his phone and told the group Cabaret was playing for only $250 a ticket. 當(dāng)晚餐結(jié)束時(shí)，一位同學(xué)提議去看百老匯的戲，接著就有一個(gè)小伙子掏出手機(jī)查了價(jià)格，發(fā)現(xiàn)卡巴萊歌舞表演只要250美元一張票?！癢hat a steal!” Melanie, wearing her brand-new jacket, cried. “We have to go!” She turned to look at me and gave me a big smile. “Do you want to come?” “這票價(jià)簡(jiǎn)直像偷來的一樣！”梅蘭妮穿著嶄新的夾克驚呼?！拔覀円欢ㄒゲ荒苠e(cuò)過了！她轉(zhuǎn)過身看著我，向我投來了一個(gè)大大的微笑?！澳阋黄饋韱?？”I knew I wasn’t going to be spending $250 for a show.我知道我不會(huì)為了看一場(chǎng)演出花250美元?！癐 have a lot of homework,” I said. “But thanks anyway.”“我還有很多作業(yè)沒做”，我說，“但是不管怎樣很謝謝你們邀請(qǐng)我?！盡elanie shrugged, and after paying for our dinner, the group walked out of the restaurant into the chilly New York City air to head towards the show. I walked back to the hotel alone, and spent the night studying for my upcoming Sociology exam. 梅蘭妮聳了聳肩，晚餐結(jié)賬后，他們離開了餐廳，走在寒冷的紐約街上，朝著百老匯的方向前去。而我獨(dú)自走回酒店，花了一個(gè)晚上復(fù)習(xí)即將迎來的社會(huì)學(xué)考試。When I had finished studying, I lay back in the starched sheets of the bed and wondered what it was like for those classmates of mine, who had grown up with the ability to spend thousands of dollars on clothing, to go on trips to big cities to see expensive shows and blow even more money on fancy restaurants and stores. Who went to summer camp, private schools, who lived in big houses with maids and housekeepers, who went on vacation to foreign countries, staying in beautiful hotels. 當(dāng)我學(xué)習(xí)完，躺在漿洗過的床單上，想著那些同學(xué)的生活，那些有著優(yōu)越的家境、有能力承擔(dān)數(shù)千美元的衣服開銷、去大城市旅行、看價(jià)格昂貴的演出和砸很多錢在高檔餐廳和商場(chǎng)的同學(xué)。那些參加夏令營(yíng)、上私立學(xué)校、又或是住在有著女傭和管家的大房子、去國(guó)外度假、住在漂亮的酒店里的同學(xué)們。To be very honest, I find it fascinating to be surrounded by classmates who come from wealth like I have never experienced. I’m not embarrassed for being unable to afford the things some of my classmates buy dozens of through online shopping. I’m not embarrassed for growing up being told “no” again and again, because my family simply didn’t have enough money. 說實(shí)話，我覺得身邊圍繞著很多有著我從未經(jīng)歷過的富裕生活的同學(xué)很有意思。盡管我的一些同學(xué)會(huì)通過網(wǎng)上購(gòu)物買一堆這樣的東西，我不為自己買不起東西而感到尷尬。我也不因?yàn)槲业募彝ゲ⒉桓辉?，而一次又一次地拒絕別人的邀請(qǐng)而感到尷尬。I’m proud of who I am, and where I’ve come from. And that’s enough for me.我為自己自豪，也為我的出生自豪。這就足夠了。

 

獲得2302好評(píng)的回答@ Michael Cheng：

I didn't think I was a poor student until I arrived at USC for my MBA program. I had worked hard and saved up $150K, which was to last me exactly through the $100K in tuition for two years and $50K for basic living expenses.在我去南加州大學(xué)攻讀工商管理碩士前，我都不認(rèn)為我是一個(gè)窮學(xué)生。我一直都努力工作，攢了15萬(wàn)美元，這支撐著我兩年10萬(wàn)美元的學(xué)費(fèi)支出和5萬(wàn)美元的基本生活開銷。As soon as I pulled into the student parking lot, I could see all the late model cars, many of them luxury marks. This was the undergrad parking area. One blond undergrad roared her shiny white Cadillac Escalade down the ramp as I looked for a spot. 我一進(jìn)學(xué)生停車場(chǎng)，就可以看到所有的新型車，其中很多是奢侈汽車品牌。這是本科生的停車場(chǎng)。在我找停車位的時(shí)候，有一個(gè)金發(fā)碧眼的本科生正沿著斜坡開著閃亮的白色凱迪拉克呼嘯而過。During our casual meeting time with fellow students, productively labeled as networking, I heard about the kind of massive homes in exclusive neighborhoods that were the norm. Many of my classmates had gotten new luxury cars just for school and had fancy upscale condos for partying during school. But, that was just stuff. What really blew my mind was their attitude about money on a daily basis.通過與同學(xué)的偶然相遇，經(jīng)常是靠網(wǎng)絡(luò)聯(lián)系，我了解到住在富人區(qū)里的大房子里是很尋常的事情。我的很多同學(xué)都只是為了去學(xué)校而買了新的豪車，也有為在學(xué)校里開派對(duì)而準(zhǔn)備的高檔公寓。但是，那些只是物質(zhì)方面的東西。真正讓我驚訝的是他們對(duì)日常開銷的態(tài)度。Many would invariably go to night time parties two or even three times a week, all during some very intense course work. While I looked for ways to stick to my $25 daily food budget, they had no problem splurging a few hundred dollars a night each time they were out. At the same time, I knew they were taking out massive student loans to fund their gratuitous consumption, along with tuition and basic living expenses. 許多人每周都會(huì)參加兩到三次夜間聚會(huì)，所有這些都是在一些非常緊張的課程中抽空進(jìn)行的。當(dāng)我每天想方設(shè)法讓自己的食品開銷不超過25美元的預(yù)算時(shí)，他們每次出去都能在一晚上毫無(wú)顧忌地?fù)]霍幾百美元。我也知道他們會(huì)把大量的學(xué)生貸款用在不必要的花費(fèi)上，但也包含學(xué)費(fèi)和基本生活費(fèi)用。Their lack of concern about repaying an extra $50K just surprised the heck out of me. I wasn't dead broke and could tag along, but I just didn't see the benefit of such free spending. Eventually, I settled into a more middle-class normative life-style and was comfortable. 他們不關(guān)心償還額外5萬(wàn)美元的態(tài)度使我驚訝。我并不是身無(wú)分文，也可以跟隨他們一起玩，但我只是沒有看到這樣毫無(wú)約束地支出的好處。最終，我開始了一種更加中產(chǎn)階級(jí)的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)生活方式，感覺很舒服。Then I saw how naive I truly was. 后來我才知道我有多么天真。One of my classmates had gotten to attend the MBA program on a merit and needs-based scholarship. He didn't have any money. While his tuition was waived, he still needed to pay for daily expenses. 我的一個(gè)同學(xué)在獎(jiǎng)學(xué)金和助學(xué)金的支持下參加了MBA課程。但他沒有錢。雖然他的學(xué)費(fèi)被免除了，但他仍然需要自己支付日常開支。Instead of a fancy high floor condo or even a modest downtown condo, he lived in one of the roughest neighborhoods just off campus. I lived nearby and can hear the police patrols and random gun fire where he lived. My place wasn't much but at least it was secure. He lived on a couch in a shared room right in the middle of regular gang and drug activity. Running water wasn't always available, but it was cheap, just a few hundred bucks a month. 他住在了一個(gè)簡(jiǎn)陋的街區(qū)而不是住在奢華的高層公寓或是舒適的市中心公寓，住的地方距離學(xué)校很近。我住在附近，可以聽到在他住的地方經(jīng)常有警察巡邏和槍擊的聲音。我住的地方不大，但至少是安全的。他睡在一間公用房間的沙發(fā)上，住處正處于幫派和毒品交易區(qū)域的中間。自來水供應(yīng)時(shí)有時(shí)無(wú)，但它是便宜的，一個(gè)月的就幾百美元。Obviously, he didn't have a car and relied on brisk walks to get anywhere. He didn't have many friends as he couldn't afford to go hang out with anyone. When we hung out, I made sure we didn't need to spend any money. 很顯然，他沒有汽車，一般都靠步行去要去的地方。他沒有很多朋友，因?yàn)樗袚?dān)不起和任何人出去玩的花費(fèi)。當(dāng)我們出去的時(shí)候，我必須確定我們不需要花任何錢。He couldn't even afford food, so he worked part time at university food service to make a few dollars and grab leftovers for meals. While others dined in fancy Beverly Hills and Hollywood hot spots, he was scraping pots for a bite. But, he never complained about the squandered money of our fellow students. He knew his values and was content on focusing on his goals. 他甚至連食物都買不起，所以他會(huì)趁業(yè)余時(shí)間在大學(xué)食品服務(wù)部兼職掙錢，然后把剩下的食物當(dāng)飯吃。當(dāng)別人在貝弗利山莊和好萊塢的熱門地點(diǎn)吃飯時(shí)，他只能刮著鍋里殘留的食物吃一口。但是，他從不抱怨我們的同學(xué)浪費(fèi)錢。他明白自己的價(jià)值所在，也專注于自己的目標(biāo)。He certainly kept me grounded as I felt like a spoiled brat using money so freely and buying myself a burrito whenever I felt hungry. 他讓我覺得自己像一個(gè)被寵壞的小孩，能自由地花錢也能在任何我覺得餓的時(shí)候給自己買煎餅吃。So, here I was moping ridiculously about my relative paucity; he showed what real determination and pride in the midst of deprivation looked like. 所以這樣相比起來，起初我為自己相對(duì)不富裕的經(jīng)濟(jì)情況而悶悶不樂的顯得是多么可笑。他在窘迫的生活中展現(xiàn)了真正的決心和自豪。And, even at the MBA level, there's a bias to spend money. My freespending classmates all got six-figure jobs right out of school from their “networking” efforts and were able to quickly pay off their huge student loans. Meanwhile, my poor friend is still struggling financially. 而且，即使是工商管理碩士，對(duì)花錢的態(tài)度也有區(qū)別。我那些肆無(wú)忌憚花錢的同學(xué)都在畢業(yè)后通過“網(wǎng)絡(luò)”的力量找到了年薪六位數(shù)的工作，也很快還清了巨額學(xué)生貸款。但與此同時(shí)，我可憐的朋友還在努力掙錢。

 

（翻譯：索菲亞）

(來源:滬江)