時差N小時:為酗酒的女兒煩惱

Dear Annie: My unmarried 30-year-old daughter hasa drinking and behavioral problem that hasescalated over the past year.

親愛Annie：我還未婚的30歲女兒養(yǎng)成了飲酒的壞習慣，這么多年都沒有得到改善。

We have encouraged Terrie to get alcohol counseling or attend A.A.

我們鼓勵過Terrie去戒毒所或參加戒酒互助會。

She tried it once and quit. I believe she is bipolar, but mental health counselors will not treather until she quits drinking.

她曾經嘗試過，但還是放棄了。我覺得她處于兩個極端，但是心理健康咨詢師說直到她把酒癮戒掉才能給她心理上的治療。

After her last outburst, I sent her a text message and said we could no longer have arelationship unless she gets help.

在她上次發(fā)病后，我寫給她一張便條，上面寫著除非她接受治療，要不我們就斷絕關系。

Shortly after, she left town and moved to Florida with a friend who also drinks.

不久后，她離開了，和一個同樣酗酒的朋友搬去了佛羅里達州.

Should I keep the lines of communication open, or will my ultimatum help her reach bottomso she can start climbing back up?

我應該與她保持溝通,或者再最后忍耐一下，也許這樣她就可以回來了?

I tried Al-Anon, but the members only offer support and friendship to each other, which is nice,but it doesn't change my daughter.

我去過匿名戒酒者協會，但那兒的成員都是彼此提供支持與幫助，那兒很好，不過卻沒能改變我女兒。

— Concerned Mom Dear Concerned: Al-Anon is not intended to change the alcoholic's behavior,only your response to it.

一位母親提到：匿名戒酒者協會不是在有意改變酗酒者的行為，而要改變你們的反應。

Choosing not to stay in touch would be for your mental health, not hers.

選擇不去交流，可能對你的精神健康有益，而不對她有益。

No one can "fix" Terrie until she admits she has a problem, and she doesn't seem ready.

沒人能修正Terrie的人生，除非她能正視自己的問題，而且現在看來，她好像還沒有準備好。

Many who are bipolar self-medicate with alcohol and drugs, and there are treatmentprograms that address both disorders.

世界上有很多極端地使用酒精或毒品的人，而且現在也有許多針對這兩種神經錯亂的治療方案。

If Terrie wants help, she should contact a university medical center department of psychiatryfor a referral.

如果Terrie需要幫助，我建議她聯系大學醫(yī)療中心的心理科。